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Discussion: Being gay - the hardest thing?
Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by Blatboy
I swear to God, this site can NEVER have a conversation about how society treats us as gays, it's always "i have it harder because i'm gay AND a poc." The only way to have a valid ****ing opinion on this site is to be a gay, black Hellen Keller
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No queer poc said they had it harder though just how hard it is for them and the complaints are legitimate.
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
Posts: 20,327
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Originally posted by TheVoiceXtina
Y'all whine over every damn thing. Stfu
You got your marriage, what you want now?  |
enjoy your warning point
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Member Since: 5/20/2012
Posts: 11,332
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Originally posted by Blatboy
Do you like follow everything I post? I swear to God, you're like stalking me on this site just to disagree with what I say.
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It's not particularly difficult to disagree with such opinions..
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 491
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I'm reading these pages and I don't understand hate for the bottoms.
Guys, you either are bottom or you are thirsty for a bottom, there is no place for hate in between!
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Member Since: 3/25/2012
Posts: 10,673
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Originally posted by Sooyoung
The ignorance regarding bisexuality.
I am attracted to both males and females, although with females, I am particularly nervous and have difficulty talking to them as soon as the status of a relationship elevates from friendship. With that in mind, I have been in more relationships with guys and am relatively open about it but because of that, girls see me as either a gay who is easing the transition of coming to terms with my alleged homosexuality or damaged goods.
I will end up coming out within the next year or so anyway and I might as well just come out as a homosexual.
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I feel you. 
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Originally posted by Blatboy
I swear to God, this site can NEVER have a conversation about how society treats us as gays, it's always "i have it harder because i'm gay AND a poc." The only way to have a valid ****ing opinion on this site is to be a gay, black Hellen Keller
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You cannot be serious right now. No one said you can't have a valid opinion but I honestly don't think you as a white male are qualified to criticize the opinions of minorities about the experience of being a minority in the gay community. It's great if you are attracted to black men but you are one of the very few in the gay community that feels that way, as evidenced by all of the stories here. It is a very real problem that should be addressed.
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Originally posted by Demiboyx
You are just the worst
Black gays feel unwanted, no matter how good you look, how fancy you look in your display pic...the first question you get is how big is your ****?
Not hey there, nice smile, want to go out on a date? or I like your shirt that you put hours of effort looking for and money spending on it, want to go out on a date?
You see a hot white guy you really like, chances are 9/10 you'll get ignored or the occasional not into black guys sorry. Or you start talking to a him and then he stops talking to you for no reason.
Self esteem down the drain.
The gay community is just a mess
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Originally posted by getback
Let's NOT turn this into a debate over racism or this thread will be closed  |
Did he lie though?
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Member Since: 6/9/2012
Posts: 3,964
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Originally posted by cloudinthesky
You cannot be serious right now. No one said you can't have a valid opinion but I honestly don't think you as a white male are qualified to criticize the opinions of minorities about the experience of being a minority in the gay community. It's great that you are attracted to black men but you are one of the very few in the gay community that feels that way, as evidenced by all of the stories here. It is a very real problem that should be addressed. |
And I did state in a post on another page about how all of the homophobia basically derives from white men, but of course that got ignored because people only want to point out what they don't agree with.
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Member Since: 9/1/2012
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Originally posted by Desert Rain
Being raised in a deeply religious family. My entire extended family are African Christians.
I grew up going to church so many of my family friends and close friends are very religious.
It terrifies me that at some not too distant point (I'm 22), I'm going to have to choose between being honest with myself and those around me OR the love and respect of those I love the most.
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I have the same type of family too, and let me tell you, I came to a conclusion that hopefully will bring you peace as well: You have to be comfortable with yourself first and foremost. No one is gonna do it for you. After that, you have to be completely honest with yourself and others, and if they don't like it, they don't like. That's their problem. You can't please everyone, and doing so to an extent where you cause yourself distress is not the right thing to do. I came out to my mother, who's a devoted Christian - sometimes overbearing with it - and said she doesn't approve, but still loved me no more or no less  . Put yourself first instead of others
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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one of the saddest things I've ever seen in my gay friends is them chasing after straight guys
it's almost like they're purposefully chasing a relationship with a guy that'll never happen; like subconsciously avoiding intimacy by fixating on guys that'll never be interested in them because they aren't gay.
all that gay-4-pay **** has really warped a lot of people and their standards for men. it's unhealthy.
don't get me wrong - I don't mean it's unhealthy to think a straight guy is hot every so often...but to exclusively only think they're attractive nnnnnnnn 
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 11,808
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Originally posted by Blatboy
Do you like follow everything I post? I swear to God, you're like stalking me on this site just to disagree with what I say.
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HA!
That's rich
You'd best come down off that cloud of yours
I spoke to your ass twice the entire time I've been on here,
once in a thread and once in a blog you made
You were in here spewing ignorance and insensitivity
Something you seem to enjoy doing
and I provided a bit of feedback
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Member Since: 5/15/2009
Posts: 10,974
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Originally posted by Golden
Not being able to be yourself around others who you love but you know they won't accept you |
Well, that's not a problem with my female friends...
But Men are so homophobic 
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
Posts: 20,242
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Originally posted by Latch
HA!
That's rich
You'd best come down off that cloud of yours
I spoke to your ass twice the entire time I've been on here,
once in a thread and once in a blog you made
You were in here spewing ignorance and insensitivity
Something you seem to enjoy doing
and I provided a bit of feedback
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Lets stop with the back and fourth and talk it out I am sure you two can discuss this in a more calm manner.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 11,808
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Originally posted by I Am Music
Lets stop with the back and fourth and talk it out I am sure you two can discuss this in a more calm manner.
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I'll keep it classy
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Member Since: 5/20/2012
Posts: 11,332
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Originally posted by Genocide
I have the same type of family too, and let me tell you, I came to a conclusion that hopefully will bring you peace as well: You have to be comfortable with yourself first and foremost. No one is gonna do it for you. After that, you have to be completely honest with yourself and others, and if they don't like it, they don't like. That's their problem. You can't please everyone, and doing so to an extent where you cause yourself distress is not the right thing to do. I came out to my mother, who's a devoted Christian - sometimes overbearing with it - and said she doesn't approve, but still loved me no more or no less . Put yourself first instead of others |
 thank you..
If you don't mind me asking, how did your extended family/social group react?
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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What I hate most is being judged for every little minuscule thing and my "gayness" being measured off of that.
"I never realized he was gay, but yeah... he does love Prince & Britney Spears." "You watch Desperate Housewives? Oh, yeah... I forgot you were gay."
Like WTF. 
I'm gay because I'm attracted to other men, not because of the music I listen to or the shows I watch.
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Member Since: 3/25/2012
Posts: 10,673
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Originally posted by ezra.jones
one of the saddest things I've ever seen in my gay friends is them chasing after straight guys
it's almost like they're purposefully chasing a relationship with a guy that'll never happen; like subconsciously avoiding intimacy by fixating on guys that'll never be interested in them because they aren't gay.
all that gay-4-pay **** has really warped a lot of people and their standards for men. it's unhealthy.
don't get me wrong - I don't mean it's unhealthy to think a straight guy is hot every so often...but to exclusively only think they're attractive nnnnnnnn |
Tbh I think this is one of the main reasons why straight men and "masc" men are so fetishised in the gay community.
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Member Since: 3/19/2012
Posts: 7,835
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I'm gay because I'm attracted to other men, not because of the music I listen to or the shows I watch.
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Desperate Housewives tho 
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Originally posted by Goosey
Desperate Housewives tho |
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Member Since: 4/24/2011
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Thanks to those who appreciate my perspective, normally I'd get shutdown for being "over sensitive" and my experience isolated, but it's as if the problems are getting worse.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 11,808
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Originally posted by cloudinthesky
Tbh I think this is one of the main reasons why straight men and "masc" men are so fetishised in the gay community. |
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I agree
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