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Discussion: Being gay - the hardest thing?
Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by Sláy
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
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Originally posted by BadMonster
I'd never tell a therapist though, imagine he hates gays and purposely mind****s you so you get even more troubles  |
Idk why I put he my therapist is a woman and she is a sweet heart, I don't know why I can't come out to her, I'm that ****ed up 
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Originally posted by princedonte
Being a black gay is hard. White gays don't even see us a human as well as other blacks they want us dead
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This bothers me the most out of everything and I am not even black. It disgusts me how black gays are treated as if they cant be attractive or someone you can have a relationship with. I have lost a lot of friends over that ignorant mentality I just cant be around that ****. Here in Houston we have a bunch of fine ass black gays. Gays just need to be more open instead of complaining about how you dont have man, maybe your just so pressed on finding the perfect man that it's impossible for anyone to meet your standards especially if your excluding people over something stupid like their skin color.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 32,106
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Being outside of the community, at least the one in your city
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Member Since: 9/27/2011
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We'll I'm not to sure what I am and I'm already 20!
It's just so difficult being different from all your friends and family... I consider myself bi because I've only been with girls but I want to hold a guys hand, kiss, cuddle, talk about personal things with another man but feel I can't because people will see me so much differently. I have 3 close guy friends and 3 close girl friends but I know all of them would treat me differently after I were to come out. It's so tough being this way and idk if I'll ever get out of this trap because I feel my family would be in shock and I have a couple friends that seem homophobic and my brothers/friends throw around the words fa ggot and gay. When they do that I always feel awkward because I feel like they are making fun of me but I can't say anything... I hate society :/
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Member Since: 7/12/2009
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I just broke up with my boyfriend 
He was so cute when he loved me. But I noticed it changed and he did not love me anymore. ****.
Now I'm alone again...
Not alone not alone not alone.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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This isn't the hardest thing, it's just a little irking.
Being in college and wanting to have other gay friends is kind of hard. Lots of these gay guys are looking for a relationship or a hookup and not really friendship as much, so it gets kind of annoying when you're trying to hang out with them as a friend or trying to start up a casual, friendly convo and they only respond by hitting on you (And no, don't mistake this as me bragging or anything. I'm not saying every gay hits on me or trying to come off that way). The sucky thing too is that these guys are actually cool and fun guys to hang out around, but I can't see them as anything more than just friends. It'd be nice to have other gay friends.
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Member Since: 6/23/2010
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some tumblr **** for you thirsty bitches
“There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.”
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Member Since: 5/12/2012
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Falling for straight guys. 
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
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How can I expect myself to come out to my family and **** when I can't even come out to my therapist god I'm so ****ed up and I hope I don't get emotional tomorrow when I'm drunk. I hate it also just my luck I am the only boy in my family (4 older sisters however 3 of them are "half siblings") god damn spanish families
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Member Since: 7/15/2012
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Originally posted by jayyyxtee
How can I expect myself to come out to my family and **** when I can't even come out to my therapist god I'm so ****ed up and I hope I don't get emotional tomorrow when I'm drunk. I hate it also just my luck I am the only boy in my family (4 older sisters however 3 of them are "half siblings") god damn spanish families
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luckily I still have my little brother, so I guess there're one less reason for my parents to kill me when I come out 
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Member Since: 11/26/2010
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Originally posted by jayyyxtee
For me its seeing other people my age being open and public with their family and friends and be happy while I can't even talk about boys with my best friends
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This so much. 
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Originally posted by HUYPHAN
some tumblr **** for you thirsty bitches
“There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.”
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That kinda touched me
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Member Since: 12/29/2002
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For me it was definitely coming out to family. My dad was incredibly awesome about it, but my mom kept telling me for YEARS to see a therapist or a priest. She actually believed I could be "cured"
There were also the constant comments from siblings implying that it was just a phase because "I didn't even look effeminate" 
It's why I ended up moving to another city tbh
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Member Since: 5/12/2012
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Originally posted by jayyyxtee
For me its seeing other people my age being open and public with their family and friends and be happy while I can't even talk about boys with my best friends
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This too. It sucked the most during puberty because the moment you make the distinction that something is different with you compared to everyone else, you buckle down and hide what you're experiencing from everyone. At least that's how I handled the situation, I had no one to talk to. I went to a Christian private school, at the time, so I never knew what it meant to be gay, really.
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Member Since: 3/5/2011
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Originally posted by HUYPHAN
some tumblr **** for you thirsty bitches
“There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.”
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Amazing post 
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Member Since: 2/20/2012
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Originally posted by jayyyxtee
For me its seeing other people my age being open and public with their family and friends and be happy while I can't even talk about boys with my best friends
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You could if you came out.
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
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Originally posted by chilicheese01
You could if you came out.
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I mean should I just fight you now or?
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Member Since: 1/11/2011
Posts: 6,600
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Originally posted by HUYPHAN
some tumblr **** for you thirsty bitches
“There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.”
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That's sweet. 
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Member Since: 4/24/2011
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Originally posted by BadMonster
Not you playing the victim card and calling racism when someone just isn't into black people.... I like people from all ethnicities, I'm just not attracted to them, I'm only attracted to caucasian males and once in a blue moon there's someone with an Asian or African appearance that I like, I can't help it, it doesn't have anything to do with racism... It's the same as saying you don't consider women as equals and you discriminate them just because you are not interested in them sexually/romantically.....
And regarding the claim that bisexuality doesn't exist, I believe that too
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You are just the worst
Black gays feel unwanted, no matter how good you look, how fancy you look in your display pic...the first question you get is how big is your ****?
Not hey there, nice smile, want to go out on a date? or I like your shirt that you put hours of effort looking for and money spending on it, want to go out on a date?
You see a hot white guy you really like, chances are 9/10 you'll get ignored or the occasional not into black guys sorry. Or you start talking to a him and then he stops talking to you for no reason.
Self esteem down the drain.
The gay community is just a mess
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