Happiness is not something you find under a stone. It is not a thing, but a state of being. It is not what other people do to you. It is something you do to yourself.

You create happiness by your attitudes about yourself and about what happens around you. Expecting others to make you happy is bound to create frustration, disappointment, or depression and despair.

Relying on someone else to make you happy is not only risky, but is impossible. Nobody can crawl inside you and turn on a "happy switch". You choose happiness, just as you choose your thoughts and your behavior. You choose between happiness and unhappiness.

Knowing this, why do people still seek happiness outside themselves? I mean, it will eventually lead to depression, sadness, fustration and/or disappointment. You can clearly see why the break up/divorce is so high in the world.

I get what you're saying but people like me who naturally strive to make others happy, tend to get upset when the other person dosent want to do the same. It's like when someone does something good to you, don't you want to do something good back to them? I think it's the way I was raised, but I love helping people and making others happy and I just don't understand why others don't want to do the same.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epicurus

Maybe there's an answer here?

I see what you are saying and its a valid point. This is my perspective on this:

Friendship between two people is about enjoying each other(pleasure), not to make each other happy. It is about receiving, giving, being social, talk etc. We do need to be social with others, its a part of human nature but by expecting your friend to make you happy is bound to fail. You are putting a burden on yourself and your friend.

Find happiness within yourself and enjoy your relationships.