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Discussion: Thoughts on Teen Pregnancy?
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Depends on the environment. Considering you're probably talking about "normal" Western lifestyles, I think they should strap up if kids are practicing sex.
If a pregnancy occurred, then the mother should have a choice in keeping or aborting the baby (I'm too maternal so I'd never do this but whatever it's your body, situation, etc).
It's life.
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People who don't wear condoms are so stupid.
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I obviously don't like it. The thing that annoys me the most about it is when the teen mother/father passes the child off on their parents to take care of. If you're going to have a child and insist on raising it yourself versus the always available option of giving the child up for adoption (which I am 100% for) then you should actually try to look after it. I see 16 year olds having babies and instead of taking care of it themselves, they use their own parents as babysitters a majority of the time and then go hang out with their friends and party. I believe that if you can't provide for the child on your own then you shouldn't be raising it. You have to go to high school? You want to hang out with your friends? You want to be a normal teenager? Great, then give the baby up for adoption and get your life back without the kid and your parents having to suffer for your poor decisions. Also I'm sure some teen pregnancies are caused by faulty birth control, but let's get real. When we see shows like Teen Mom 90% of the time their answer to how they got pregnant was "it was the heat of the moment and we didn't want to ruin it with condoms" or "we used the pull out method and thought it would work" well that's your own damn problem then. When I was in high school I had friends who were having sex starting from 14/15 and they talked to their parents about it and they got them birth control pills so there was nothing unplanned. Just because you're a teenager that doesn't excuse you for being ignorant about protecting yourself sexually.
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Member Since: 9/9/2012
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Originally posted by KingKT
Dumb as hell. Like as a teen you dont have the time or money to take care of a child...so WHY do it?
I told my friend that got pregnant that shes a dumb bitch. Like why bring a child into the world when you cant take care of them appropriately?
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What a good friend
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Member Since: 9/3/2011
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Originally posted by new evolution
They're not. Giving birth is a very big deal and teenagers get themselves into so much trouble because of it. If you really don't think like that then I'm very concerned about your future parenting skills
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Exactly. Raising a child is probably the biggest responsibility you can have, and just because you give it up for adoption doesn't mean you get off scot-free. You have to cut out junk food, take prenatal vitamins, no smoking/drinking, pay for ultrasounds and screening tests, get proper amounts of sleep, etc.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by iHypeMusic
Damn y'all are so rude and judgmental.
Accidents happen. You don't know the whole story, and they already have to deal with these judgements on a daily basis and having to grow up so quick.
I'm sure most of y'all have / had sex as teenagers too.
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YES
stop blaming and be understanding good god
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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I have no sympathy for them. So selfish and irresponsible.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by Haus
Exactly. Raising a child is probably the biggest responsibility you can have, and just because you give it up for adoption doesn't mean you get off scot-free. You have to cut out junk food, take prenatal vitamins, no smoking/drinking, pay for ultrasounds and screening tests, get proper amounts of sleep, etc.
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Plus, there are too many kids in foster care already. How many of them actually go to a loving home vs. end up in an orphanage being payed for by the taxpayer? It's a burden to society. Sometimes people need to just get the abortion, but hopefully for most sexually active teens, it doesn't get that far.
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Member Since: 9/3/2011
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
YES
stop blaming and be understanding good god
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Even though it's 99.9% of the time because of irresponsible behavior?
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by Guernica
I obviously don't like it. The thing that annoys me the most about it is when the teen mother/father passes the child off on their parents to take care of. If you're going to have a child and insist on raising it yourself versus the always available option of giving the child up for adoption (which I am 100% for) then you should actually try to look after it. I see 16 year olds having babies and instead of taking care of it themselves, they use their own parents as babysitters a majority of the time and then go hang out with their friends and party. I believe that if you can't provide for the child on your own then you shouldn't be raising it. You have to go to high school? You want to hang out with your friends? You want to be a normal teenager? Great, then give the baby up for adoption and get your life back without the kid and your parents having to suffer for your poor decisions. Also I'm sure some teen pregnancies are caused by faulty birth control, but let's get real. When we see shows like Teen Mom 90% of the time their answer to how they got pregnant was "it was the heat of the moment and we didn't want to ruin it with condoms" or "we used the pull out method and thought it would work" well that's your own damn problem then. When I was in high school I had friends who were having sex starting from 14/15 and they talked to their parents about it and they got them birth control pills so there was nothing unplanned. Just because you're a teenager that doesn't excuse you for being ignorant about protecting yourself sexually.
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where is the understanding for kids that are torn? adoption is not always considered the obvious choice.
furthermore, many adoption institutions are AWFUL, same with foster care - so many parents don't wanna pass their kids onto that
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Member Since: 8/10/2012
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Once you have a college/university education (unless you want to be working minimum wage for the rest of your life then bye lol), get a job, find a life partner, then that's when your life is sorted out and you're ready to be having a family. Not when you're in high school and don't even have life figured out yet. Parenting takes maturity and lots of dedication which I'm sorry but a large portion of teen parents don't have. Many of the parents of these teen parents don't even help out and the parents end up having to live in government housing, under welfare etc and I just feel so sorry for the kid because of a decision their dumb parents made. The fact that some of you are okay with teen parenting really upsets me. I don't know if it's for the sake of being liberal and accepting peoples' choices or you really think it's not that big of a deal, it's a bad way of thinking and you don't even know how much it affects us all
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by new evolution
They're not. Giving birth is a very big deal and teenagers get themselves into so much trouble because of it. If you really don't think like that then I'm very concerned about your future parenting skills
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Well it's not like I'm supporting it. I just don't think it helps to label people who do get pregnant at a young age stupid. It's just a stupid decision
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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This is just so much to think about
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Member Since: 9/9/2012
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Originally posted by Haus
Even though it's 99.9% of the time because of irresponsible behavior?
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Y'all do realize almost ALL TEENAGERS make irresponsible mistakes during their time as a teenager. Ugh y'all are seriously so judgemental.
If only y'all were straight, cuz karma would be too real.
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I mean...who is really for or against this? **** happens. Unless a bunch of dumb bitches create another pregnancy pact again.
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by new evolution
Once you have a college/university education (unless you want to be working minimum wage for the rest of your life then bye lol), get a job, find a life partner, then that's when your life is sorted out and you're ready to be having a family. Not when you're in high school and don't even have life figured out yet. Parenting takes maturity and lots of dedication which I'm sorry but a large portion of teen parents don't have. Many of the parents of these teen parents don't even help out and the parents end up having to live in government housing, under welfare etc and I just feel so sorry for the kid because of a decision their dumb parents made. The fact that some of you are okay with teen parenting really upsets me. I don't know if it's for the sake of being liberal and accepting peoples' choices or you really think it's not that big of a deal, it's a bad way of thinking and you don't even know how much it affects us all
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Changes
I mean...who is really for or against this? **** happens. Unless a bunch of dumb bitches create another pregnancy pact again.
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It doesn't just happen. You have to do something in order for it to happen. I know plenty of responsible sexually active teens who never had this issue. The excuse almost always used when a teen has a baby is, "We got caught in the moment....". That is not "****" happening. That is stupidity and irresponsibility.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by Haus
Even though it's 99.9% of the time because of irresponsible behavior?
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what constructive does shaming teenage parents do?
i will wait
i am not arguing it isn't irresponsible - i KNOW it is
but why do you have to call them dumb, idiots, pathetic?
what do you gain? what do they really gain?
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Member Since: 8/10/2012
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Originally posted by iHypeMusic
Y'all do realize almost ALL TEENAGERS make irresponsible mistakes during their time as a teenager. Ugh y'all are seriously so judgemental.
If only y'all were straight, cuz karma would be too real.
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Not all teenagers make irresponsible mistakes but even the ones who do don't go to far extents as teen pregnancy. Yes, some do dumb things that make them end up in jail and it ****s up their lives just as much as being an irresponsible naive parent would be, but at least it's their own life they're ****ing up and not another kid's as well. Anyway, my point is some of you are focussing too much on being "judgemental" and don't realize how naive and ignorant you're really being in the end. Being a parent takes a lot of money and dedication which a teenager does not have and has bad effects on their children
I really want to know what that last sentence means
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Member Since: 9/9/2012
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Anyways, not gonna sit here and argue anymore so what I have to say is.
Don't teens skip school, knowing they could get kicked out / suspended?
Don't teens drink, smoke, etc knowing what it could do?
Teenagers make mistakes. The least you could do is support them through learning from that mistake, and not tear them down and make them feel worst.
Y'all are saying some of us would be bad parents, yet teens are making mistakes and you sit here and tear them down and call them stupid and idiots. How exactly is that helping them? Clearly y'all shouldn't have kids if you think they will never make any type of big mistake. The baby is already there, so stop talking about the pre-cautions they could've done when it's too late. Atleast support them and help them make proper decisions.
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