Originally posted by swissman

I guess if you use it with friends you know aren't going to be offended then it's fine, but then why even use it at all? Why welcome a word into your vocabulary that you can only use if you are in the right circumstances? It's obvious that it is offensive, so just don't use it even with people who don't care, because if you're using it then, chances are it's going to slip out somewhere else too. Continually using it just makes it more common and acceptable for other people to use it.

Also I don't find the rationale that because some gay people are fine with it, it is okay to use it. Those gay people who allow abuse on the gay community aren't thinking it through.