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Discussion: Is it normal for parents to kick their children out
Member Since: 10/30/2011
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For ignorant people maybe  kicking someone out so they can struggle financially, emotionally, and spiritually just to say they are independent is pointless.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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It's not that easy to find a job on my country, so most parents now even welcome their children back home...
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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I never felt like it was okay for parents to kick their child out, tbh.
Personally, my mom encouraged me to stay as long as possible until I was financially secure. I have already experienced the whole moving out then coming back home situation and it was the pits. I live in Jersey City & rent is no joke around these parts. Especially if you wanna live in a decent area. You have to make sure your coins are right. It's hard being an adult. People expect so much of you because of your age sometimes & it's annoying because life doesn't work that way.
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Member Since: 11/1/2010
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Originally posted by Haus
No... if your parents want you to be on your own, they should give you a time frame in which you can get a job, find a place or a roommate, and be able to make a healthy transition.
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Pretty much. It's ****** to just kick someone out with no warning or help. Sometimes kids need extra push or incentive but an eviction is never helpful.
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by iHypeMusic
Well I would think most 19 years old would have a job or something to fend for their own, but I don't know your story. You could have just lost your job, or trying to finish college so I can't judge you.
But idk it depends on the story. If you're 21 years old, have no job, eat up all the food, etc it needs to be done.
If you're like 16, and it's over a petty argument, that's bad parenting tbh. You're putting your kid out there and something dangerous could happen. |
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Member Since: 10/5/2009
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Quote:
Originally posted by Haus
No... if your parents want you to be on your own, they should give you a time frame in which you can get a job, find a place or a roommate, and be able to make a healthy transition.
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Exactly this. It's a very normal process.. they just simply want you to make the transition into the real world.  It's understandable and kinda necessary if they're babied too much or too dependent on their parent(s).
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Depends. If they're 20+ and have no job, they're not in school and they're just eating all the food I'd say it needs to happen
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Member Since: 9/9/2012
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I mean, if you are like 21+ eating all the food and not doing a damn thing, yeah.
But if you go to school and stuff, and this is out of the blue, they should give you a timeframe. I'm 16 and my mom would never.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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It's so wrong to kick your child out. Tbh, if my parents tried that (which I doubt would ever happen) I wouldn't come back...
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Member Since: 5/14/2007
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Not normal but it happens and it's usually because the kid is too old and not doing anything. My brother lived with us till he was 25. Besides him moving out for a few months a few times a year to live with friends he slept in a room in the basement. He had a job and we never really saw him. It was a tense couple of years. My parents and him just ignored each other at that point. My parents didn't want to kick him out because he had nowhere to go. Now he's living with his girlfriend in their own townhome so it's okay now. Some parents just can't stand to kick their kids out while others can't wait.
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Member Since: 3/12/2012
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Not really normal but your parents are wanting you to start a new life on your own. But these parents are desperate for you to leave and tell them no. Tell them you are (Ex. going thru, not ready)... Prove to them that you don't understand. If they are doing this because your 18, then I consider it bad parenting. Move out when you are ready to move out.
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Member Since: 4/22/2012
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
My parents would let me stay if I had a job and could contribute, but I don't plan on staying with my parents after high school tbh. I'll try not to.
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You're in high school? 
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Member Since: 1/2/2012
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Originally posted by iHypeMusic
Well I would think most 19 years old would have a job or something to fend for their own, but I don't know your story. You could have just lost your job, or trying to finish college so I can't judge you.
But idk it depends on the story. If you're 21 years old, have no job, eat up all the food, etc it needs to be done.
If you're like 16, and it's over a petty argument, that's bad parenting tbh. You're putting your kid out there and something dangerous could happen. |
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Member Since: 10/19/2010
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Quote:
Originally posted by iHypeMusic
Well I would think most 19 years old would have a job or something to fend for their own, but I don't know your story. You could have just lost your job, or trying to finish college so I can't judge you.
But idk it depends on the story. If you're 21 years old, have no job, eat up all the food, etc it needs to be done.
If you're like 16, and it's over a petty argument, that's bad parenting tbh. You're putting your kid out there and something dangerous could happen. |
I'm sorry, but where do you live? Because there is no way in Hell a 19 year old will be able to find a job that would support them financially unless they lived in a crap hole. Most students in universities can't afford to live on their own.
I'm sure people can do it but it's extremely rare for a 19 year old to find a good paying job with basic education to support themselves.
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Member Since: 12/30/2011
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Originally posted by Ammer
I'm sorry, but where do you live? Because there is no way in Hell a 19 year old will be able to find a job that would support them financially unless they lived in a crap hole. Most students in universities can't afford to live on their own.
I'm sure people can do it but it's extremely rare for a 19 year old to find a good paying job with basic education to support themselves.
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This.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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im 20 and i moved out a couple of months ago,but ive always been very independent so it wasnt a problem for me.My parents even let me take a year off between high school and university,until i decided what i wanted to major in.
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