Discussion: Why is **** shaming still an issue? Have you been shamed? - Page 3

Gavin.

I see nothing wrong with being a **** as long as you are safe about it

Gangsta4alife

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Originally posted by Energy

[Center]Actuallly I think it's the opposite. People call anything "**** shaming" nowadays. Yea it looks cute to say you wish everyone could make their own choices and not be judges but idgaf tbh.

Ok now I guess chile

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Many people, unless you are the same way, does not want someone who has been used by everyone else. Where is the fun in that?

I understand where you are coming from but I wouldn't mind if my man or woman was promiscuous the only time I can see myself having a huge issue is if I have a relationship with many of their ex's. Or i'm constantly running into someone who has slept with them, I highly doubt that happens a lot though.

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Originally posted by Energy

The double standard of when a person is called a **** is still present but that doesn't make doing it right. I laugh when liberal young virgins try to argue that no person should be judged by how many sex partners they have had. Once you get older (especially in the gay community) you learn that STDs are everywhere and people get them from sleeping around. Call it a "****" or not but it what it is.

You do realize a lot of people who get STD's are people who are not promiscuous and faithful to their lovers. It's not about promiscuity if you truly get older & wiser you would know it's about finding someone trust worthy, and someone you can build something with. Someone who has similar ideals to you and is going in the direction you want to in life.

[/QUOTE]That's like saying you are against racial stereotypes but while driving through a poor Black/Hispanic neighborhood you lock your dorrs and clutch your purse tighter. It doesn't make you a hypocrite, it's called being safe and looking out for your own well being. I wish people would learn the difference and stop putting the feelings of others before logic.

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Terrible analogy that makes me wonder if you actually are trolling or not. You do realize that a lot of the atrocities of being attacked or robbed happen in very middle to upper class places. I am always cautious with my things everywhere because it could be the ones smiling in your face that will screw you over when you least expect it.

Energy

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Originally posted by debutante

ugh

Explain

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Originally posted by RudeBoyy

That's a horrible comparison

How? It's prejudice but it's natural or humans to judge one another
whether we like it or not.
I don't get what you're trying to say?

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Originally posted by Borntodiethisway

This entire post is just ignorant. You can be promiscuous and still not have any STD's.

That's not what I meant. In a community where people are dropping like flies
and you never know who has what I would judge a person who sleeps around
carelessly. Yes it's their life to live and their choices but I'm gonna be honest, I
would judge them. It's not my business tbh but I just would not commit to someone
who I know has had relations with so many people I know.

I used to be the opposite and felt like it is your body and your choices and if you are happy what no one else says matters regarding your sex life. This does
work for many people and I believe in a perfect world that is the way it should be. However
sex is not just "sex" emotions, age, development, diseases,mental state, etc are all factors and
I just don't feel like a person is putting their safety/well being first if they are being careless with
sex partners. But like I said, if they want to do that fine.

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Originally posted by Gangsta4alife

Ok now I guess chile

I understand where you are coming from but I wouldn't mind if my man or woman was promiscuous the only time I can see myself having a huge issue is if I have a relationship with many of their ex's. Or i'm constantly running into someone who has slept with them, I highly doubt that happens a lot though.

You do realize a lot of people who get STD's are people who are not promiscuous and faithful to their lovers. It's not about promiscuity if you truly get older & wiser you would know it's about finding someone trust worthy, and someone you can build something with. Someone who has similar ideals to you and is going in the direction you want to in life.

Terrible analogy that makes me wonder if you actually are trolling or not. You do realize that a lot of the atrocities of being attacked or robbed happen in very middle to upper class places. I am always cautious with my things everywhere because it could be the ones smiling in your face that will screw you over when you least expect it.

That's the whole point, by not being faithful and/or being careless STDs are spread. I didn't mean you
have to be promiscuous to get one. You could get it from someone you were being monogamous with.

I am not trying to be politically correct though. Off course a person wants all their things to be safe
but if you are in a place known for that type of activity, more precautions are put in place, that's
all I'm saying.

Mezik

I know personally I'd never date someone who slept around. Why would I want to date someone who everyone else has already slept with?

Haunter

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Originally posted by Energy

Explain

How? It's prejudice but it's natural or humans to judge one another
whether we like it or not.
I don't get what you're trying to say?

That's not what I meant. In a community where people are dropping like flies
and you never know who has what I would judge a person who sleeps around
carelessly. Yes it's their life to live and their choices but I'm gonna be honest, I
would judge them. It's not my business tbh but I just would not commit to someone
who I know has had relations with so many people I know.

I used to be the opposite and felt like it is your body and your choices and if you are happy what no one else says matters regarding your sex life. This does
work for many people and I believe in a perfect world that is the way it should be. However
sex is not just "sex" emotions, age, development, diseases,mental state, etc are all factors and
I just don't feel like a person is putting their safety/well being first if they are being careless with
sex partners. But like I said, if they want to do that fine.

That's the whole point, by not being faithful and/or being careless STDs are spread. I didn't mean you
have to be promiscuous to get one. You could get it from someone you were being monogamous with.

I am not trying to be politically correct though. Off course a person wants all their things to be safe
but if you are in a place known for that type of activity, more precautions are put in place, that's
all I'm saying.

You obviously aren't educated about HIV at all. HIV infection rate has dropped by a third since 2001. Many scientist believe that HIV/AIDS epidemic will be done with in 2030 because people are more educated, have access to safe sex practices, and medicine. So to say that the gay community is dropping like flies is just ignorant. I think people should always practice safe sex gay or straight.

onna

I have not been **** shamed personally, but both of my faves have been and it's just gross

Energy

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Originally posted by Borntodiethisway

You obviously aren't educated about HIV at all. HIV infection rate has dropped by a third since 2001. Many scientist believe that HIV/AIDS epidemic will be done with in 2030 because people are more educated, have access to safe sex practices, and medicine. So to say that the gay community is dropping like flies is just ignorant. I think people should always practice safe sex gay or straight.

Spitting government facts at me does not negate that in
my community 4 of my friends have been affected in the last
5 years with HIV. And others in the community with it and STDs.
The rates are very high here.

I think you should not call me ignorant before knowing my
personal circumstances. That shows your ignorance.
I do agree that everyone should practice safe sex.

Haunter

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Originally posted by Energy

Spitting government facts at me does not negate that in
my community 4 of my friends have been affected in the last
5 years with HIV. And others in the community with it and STDs.
The rates are very high here.

I think you should not call me ignorant before knowing my
personal circumstances.

Of course they're extremes in certain areas that goes for any statistic. I have about 10 gay friends and none of them have HIV. Still doesn't mean that they're dropping like flies. If they have access to the right medicine and doctors they should be able to die from natural causes and not HIV/AID.

Guernica

I really honestly do not care how many people a person has slept with because it has nothing to do with me. If you're not sleeping with the person yourself, why is it any of your business or concern how many people they've slept with? But really though, it literally has nothing to do with you. It's their own personal life and it only concerns them and their sexual partners. If you don't want to sleep with a person that has had multiple partners, fine just say no politely and move on, no need to make a big deal about it.

Energy

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Originally posted by Borntodiethisway

Of course they're extremes in certain areas that goes for any statistic. I have about 10 gay friends and none of them have HIV. Still doesn't mean that they're dropping like flies. If they have access to the right medicine and doctors they should be able to die from natural causes and not HIV/AID.

True medicine has gotten much better.
I guess the environment changes the paradigm.