I know the term is generally used more towards women having this issue which is very true, but I've also noticed it's an issue within the gay community. Especially if for example a gay man opens up about his sex life, and reveals that he's had many sexual experiences he all of a sudden becomes this disgusting sex crazed disease ridden person. It just irritates me! I honestly don't see the problem with someone being comfortable with their sexuality or body and just loving sex and having lots of it. ****-shaming is generally done in ignorance because so many people think that if a person has had many sex partners it means the have little to no self-respect, or that they are irresponsible and have unprotected sex, which couldn't be farther from the truth. We as human beings are sexual creatures, and we have been since the beginning of time.


As long as you are responsible and both people involved are on the same page then there's nothing wrong. I've been ****-shamed and it's not a nice feeling.

So do you think ****-shaming is an issue? Have you been shamed, or do you shame people?

Originally posted by XIAN Virginity is made out to be such a big deal that those who don't care about it are shamed for not "treating your body right"

You just have to watch out to who you tell your sex stories.

And I thought on a forum full of homo's this would be the last thing people would worry about.

Not at all, but a friend of mine has done a lot sexually at a young age and he said to me that you should only tell the people that you know won't ****-shame you.
But really if you go around telling everyone what you've done you can expect some backlash, just be smart about it.

Actuallly I think it's the opposite. People call anything "**** shaming" nowadays. Yea it looks cute to say you wish everyone could make their own choices and not be judges but idgaf tbh.

Many people, unless you are the same way, does not want someone who has been used by everyone else. Where is the fun in that?

The double standard of when a person is called a **** is still present but that doesn't make doing it right. I laugh when liberal young virgins try to argue that no person should be judged by how many sex partners they have had. Once you get older (especially in the gay community) you learn that STDs are everywhere and people get them from sleeping around. Call it a "****" or not but it what it is.

That's like saying you are against racial stereotypes but while driving through a poor Black/Hispanic neighborhood you lock your dorrs and clutch your purse tighter. It doesn't make you a hypocrite, it's called being safe and looking out for your own well being. I wish people would learn the difference and stop putting the feelings of others before logic.

Originally posted by Cain Not at all, but a friend of mine has done a lot sexually at a young age and he said to me that you should only tell the people that you know won't ****-shame you. But really if you go around telling everyone what you've done you can expect some backlash, just be smart about it.

Exaclty, and it's also human nature to have sex.
But a lot of people are jealous or dumb and therefore you have to take care of your own reputation, you can't just say anything cause a lot of people just won't understand it.

Originally posted by princedonte So it's ok to go around and have promiscuous sex nowadays. The term is just dumb. If you want to ho around don't expect an award for it.

Originally posted by Energy Actuallly I think it's the opposite. People call anything "**** shaming" nowadays. Yea it looks cute to say you wish everyone could make their own choices and not be judges but idgaf tbh. Many people, unless you are the same way, does not want someone who has been used by everyone else. Where is the fun in that? The double standard of when a person is called a **** is still present but that doesn't make doing it right. I laugh when liberal young virgins try to argue that no person should be judged by how many sex partners they have had. Once you get older (especially in the gay community) you learn that STDs are everywhere and people get them from sleeping around. Call it a "****" or not but it what it is. That's like saying you are against racial stereotypes but while driving through a poor Black/Hispanic neighborhood you lock your dorrs and clutch your purse tighter. It doesn't make you a hypocrite, it's called being safe and looking out for your own well being. I wish people would learn the difference and stop putting the feelings of others before logic.

Originally posted by Energy Actuallly I think it's the opposite. People call anything "**** shaming" nowadays. Yea it looks cute to say you wish everyone could make their own choices and not be judges but idgaf tbh. Many people, unless you are the same way, does not want someone who has been used by everyone else. Where is the fun in that? The double standard of when a person is called a **** is still present but that doesn't make doing it right. I laugh when liberal young virgins try to argue that no person should be judged by how many sex partners they have had. Once you get older (especially in the gay community) you learn that STDs are everywhere and people get them from sleeping around. Call it a "****" or not but it what it is. That's like saying you are against racial stereotypes but while driving through a poor Black/Hispanic neighborhood you lock your dorrs and clutch your purse tighter. It doesn't make you a hypocrite, it's called being safe and looking out for your own well being. I wish people would learn the difference and stop putting the feelings of others before logic.