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Originally posted by Midnight
Yes. My mom is mixed and she dated whoever. My dad had a thing for going after mixed women, so I'm assuming he's more than ok with. Even if they had a problem with it, oh ****ing well. I'm gonna date whoever I want and they can't do much but complain.
On another note, I knew these two people who were once a couple. She's black, he's white. They met in college and became boyfriend and girlfriend during those years. The college is mostly white and I've been there to visit over the years. I was sort of attending a big brother, little brother / big sister, little sister community thing which is how I met a lot of college students during this time.
Anyway, once he took his girlfriend to meet his parents, things became complicated. I didn't know what was going on at the time, but another student (who's like my older sister) who was closer to her than I was informed that her boyfriend broke up with her because his parents forced him to. They threatened to cut him off. I was wondering why and she said because they don't want him with a black woman. It made me think that he didn't really love her if all someone had to do was threaten to take money away from him...
I attended his wedding with my "sister" when I was 20, just three years ago. I met his parents and felt very uneasy around his father since I knew what happened. His "little sister" who is black attended the wedding, too. I was wondering if she knew what happened before all of this, but I'm guessing she didn't. It made me question if his feelings for his little sister when genuine like the feelings my older sister has for me. It was awkward until I got drunk and temporarily forgot about the mess.
I just feel that if you are dating someone, your patents have no say in the matter if you're older than 17. The whole situation with my friends was really disheartening... Something similar happened with a teacher I know. She grew up in the 70's, so I think I'm more understanding of her circumstances.
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That's basically what happened with my parents -- only problem, my Mom was pregnant. This was the summer before her junior/his senior year of college and he went home to Charleston to tell his parents and his Dad lost it -- threatened to disown him, stop paying his tuition, cancel the lease of his apartment and take his car and basically leave him homeless with nothing, no way to finish school and no family because he was having a baby with and wanted to marry a Black woman. It's really disgusting, but, I still hold him responsible because at that point, he was a grown man and could have made a choice -- he would have had to struggle, but, he was too spineless to take that chance and choose his unborn baby over his father. So my entire life, my White "family" have been to me were checks in the mail, disingenuous birthday cards and random extravagant guilt gifts from him and his equally spineless mother.
So yeah...living that, I can definitely understand why some parents -- specifically, people of color -- have concerns about their kids dating out of their race.