well then tell them that!!!

all you're doing is going off on your tumblr-esque rant on gender and gender identity when that has nothing to do with what is being asked

You are hiding a MAJOR secret. That's the point.

Right! That is just plain stupid!

Accept just they fcking way she is

I mean, sis...

I don't think a guy will ever get laid if he asks that kind of question to a real woman.

Listen I don't care if it's that you actually have 90 toes. If you're not upfront with me, there's a LOT of trust lost there. It has nothing to do with actually being trans, you're just twisting things to make it seem like there' some unfounded hate spun in there. I do think that in general ATRL is pretty bad with transphobia, but this is NOT one of those cases.

Again, wanting to date someone who isn't transgender is YOUR preference. It's YOUR problem not theirs. You can't get indignant and act as if someone ruined your life when it turns out that your boy/girlfriend is trasngender.

Being transgender to a transgender person is something natural to them. I don't see why they would feel like it's something they would feel the need to immediately disclose to people they are dating.

So, I guess we're not going anywhere with this topic, huh? Maybe I just erase my previous post so it doesn't look like I'm the crazy one...

It's NOT the same kind of secret, why even compare it to HIV?! HIV is a life-threatening disease, if your partner concealed that fact from you it could KILL you because you might have caught it from him. Being in a relationship with a transgender person is not going to kill you, at most you'll just break up with the person because they concealed something from you and you feel cheated or whatever...that's up to every individual, but don't ****ing compare it to HIV because it's NOT a valid comparison, at all, in any way.

Admit you're wrong, it's not that hard. Some people

No it's the transgender person's responsibility to share! What the ****? I can't believe you're actually trying to put this on the unknowing, unsuspecting partner.

Did you miss the part where I said replace HIV with another STD that can't kill you? The analogy was to show that hiding the truth is not okay.

I am not wrong. You're clearly not understanding.

I'm done right now Too obvious that they're trolling and trying to spin it as phobic behavior when it has nothing to do with the sort.

Way too messy, lol.

The trans person is completely unknowing and unsuspecting of their partner's decision to not date trans people.

You can really make this about anything. "Why didn't you tell me you are ___________! I don't want to date __________! We're over!"

You're probably the kind of person who thinks an unknowing girl was stupid for dating a married man.

Why the **** would you even compare it with a disease in the first place? It's not the ****ing same, you can't catch transgender, it's not a ****ing disease. Go google it, read a book, watch a documentary, educate yourself because people like you are a danger to trans people out in the world. Your analogy continues to be transphobic as hell and you continue to be inexorably WRONG.

Probably one of the dumbest things I've ever read on ATRL.

omg at you still trying to justify it by bringing up other diseases. Transexuality is not something you can get infected with, please stop talking.

"phobic behaviour" is not a real term, FYI.

I'm pointing out prejudice and bigotry on this website, if people want to call it "trolling" I don't give a ****. I have trans friends and have read extensively about it and I know it hurts them when they see ignorant ******** like this out in the world, and they see it all the time. If I can make things just a little better on a forum I will.

Maybe they hide it because dumbasses like you compare it to diseases. Just a thought.