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Originally posted by Kworb
It's not like it's rare, tons of guys remain closeted their entire lives. Some actually do get into loveless marriages and have children. That's way worse than simply dating girls and trying desperately to be someone you're not, before coming to your senses.
And what you said is exactly what he did, he came out to his family and other people closest to him. But for it to become public knowledge would always be an "event", because of who he is. He was aware of that. This way he has some control over the "event", and he can immediately tell the story that comes with it. What is the problem? It's actually better to do it this way than to wait for it to become a story, and then having to explain yourself. Because then it wouldn't look like it was his own choice to come out.
Most celebrities come out this way, particularly those whose coming out is very notable. There's really no subtle, invisible way for them to come out, because of who they are and the public interest in them.
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After letting this all brew last night, and discussing this with a few friends, some of my thoughts have changed on this topic, more specifically, your main points
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I'm more sympathetic to the length of his denial, but not towards any of his struggles after coming to the realization that he's gay but continuing to date women, even getting engaged to one. Whether he was confused or not, in the end, it's all deceit. Most specifically his ex-fiancee should be the person on his mind rather than viewing this event as a free-for-all fair for the LGBT community and himself.
7-8 years, and later finding out you've been used by a gay man the entire time. I genuinely don't think he recognizes all he's hurt in the process of his denial - not only dating women, getting engaged to one, and possibly even sleeping with them(He says he's Christian, but I wouldn't hold my breath that he's never had sex with any of his ex's. Has he mentioned this anything about this, yet?). If I was him, I'd give her my all - any support, a (better) explanation, and so on. Not just one day's worth of explaining and never talking about it again - if he's the man he says he is, or better yet, one with morals, he'd be with her throughout the entire process of recuperation .
Though his deceit has left a trail of broken hearts, I do give him props for not sneaking around with men in the midst of his chaos - displays his self control
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