Okay here is my problem. I'm in a small city and there is only one gay club in it. I'm now 21 and every single gay guy I've met has been from that particular club. They just want sex and are shallow. They all seem to have lots of gay friends and just want flings, I've never had a lasting relationship out of it.

Personally I went to a christian school so I didn't come out until I was 20. Therefore I don't really have any male friends and don't know where to meet any gay guys. I honestly can't tell the people who are gay when they come outside of the scene either; and because I work full time I don't really get the opportunity to.

How did you make most of your gay friends? Because it appears most met at school, but because I've my circumstances I didn't. I'm sick of going to this one club and I don't know what to do

Co-sign @ primo.

Dating sites are the best choice, really.

I don't know sis, but don't try Craigslist

People who use Grindr need to be checked

Go to a gay bookstore or coffee shop.

Meeting someone and then finding out they have a Grindr profile is the ultimate turn off

My city has a population of bout 750,000, those sort of places don't exist. I always meet cute boys in retail shops and they are really talkative but they have straight sounding voices so I don't know

A "straight sounding voice" doesnt exist.

i really dont know maybe if you stop looking and chasing after it.

sometimes when im at a coffee shop, someone will hit up on me or when im friends and they introduce me to their friends who are gay. sometimes at a library too..

omg let me perch and take some notes.


I've actually met a couple great guys on Grindr. I wouldn't call them meaningful friendships/relationships or anything but they were cool guys. Most of them are just ugly men looking for hookups, but..

@ straight sounding voice.

lol I'm on BGCLive (don't judge me muddafuccas) but the site is rather disgusting. I get like 80 messages a day from people with naked pictures and stuff like that. If they have naked pictures I just don't respond.

I'm probably going to actually 'meet' a person from the site for the first time on Monday. He's cool

OkCupid is there but black guys get no love. I met one person from that site and just because he wants to be in the game dev industry too. We talk everyday.

Well I'll give you an example. I was at the beach and like there's this awesome ice cream place. I was with one of my gf. Anyway I noticed him as soon as I walked in because he was gorgeous. He served me, asked me how my day was going, what I have got planned, then made a joke about the beach. Honestly he seemed so sweet and nice, but wtf am I supposed to do. I can't just be like "do you wanna meet up sometime"

I think he was asking for a place for relationships and not hookups..

Starbucks

I feell ike in the same situation,so idk

omg sis we're in the exact same boat here. I need someone to spill the tea! And I seem to only be here for masculine geighs and bais. So they're even harder to locate.

Hold up, lemme pull out google maps.

I prey on the effeminate ones.

Or even just friendships. Every single gay guy I've hung with (even once) I've at least made out with.


And that's not entirely my fault, it seems to be what they want. They don't want to be friends first, because they already have their own. But again - this is most likely because of the place I am meeting them in. Queen Central - Family Bar