I think so but I can understand why it's so important for other people. I don't see a point to it other then the legal aspect. I don't think having a certificate of marriage makes you any closer to your loved one or makes the relationship different or better. I think it just complicates things and puts pressure on the relationship and makes people stay in an unhappy relationship longer then they should.

The people who are unhappy with their marriages obviously went into the marriage for all of the wrong reasons. Love does not solely erode simply because you a spending a prolonged period of your time in a house with somebody. Loving someone conditionally and spacing that love is key in maintaining a long term relationship in a marriage. People blindly go into marriage loving the idea of it, rather than the person they are walking down the aisle with. And because of this, and the extended amount of time the significant others have to deal with each other on a daily basis, the marriage falls apart. Marriage is not overrated because if you truly have someone you are willing to spend your dying breath with, then it lives up to all expectations associated with it.

Hashtag true tea.

I know people have been together for YEARS in no rush to get married. They content with what they have and don't need a wedding license to validate that.

VERY.

No I don't think so. It really depends if you want it. My brother, who is 26, never wants to get married or have kids, whereas my oldest sister just got married in October and my older sister is going to get married for the second time in August (her previous husband passed away two years ago this month) and I want to get married, but if I never do, I'll just adopt kids. It's really all perspective.

Don't get married if your not ready, no one forces you to get married.

The value of marriage has dropped dramatically!! But I don't think marriage is overrated

How can we judge whether marriage is overrated or not when most of us probably have never been married?

Perhaps we need to set a line on what we consider marriage. Obviously being together for ~10 years has the same fundamental value as matrimony, and my post wasn't trying to imply that someone needs to get married to happily achieve everything they want out of love. I was largely referring to the positive ideas associated with marriage. And some people just need that certificate for economic reasons and everything.

But is marriage even necessary? Why go through that entire process just to say that you are married?

bye refer to the post above you

I'm just saying is it really necessary to rush down an aisle?

Marriage is very overrated. You spend thousands on a wedding and honeymoon and there only a 50% chance your marriage will last longer than 5 years. If a couple simply lives together and things don't work out, you pack up your stuff and leave. No divorce lawyers, no court appearances, no complications.

No. I know there are people who have died fighting for my right to get married. However, I can see how some people would think it's overrated.

Oh now that you've worded it better, it's not necessary to rush down the aisle. Before actually getting married, make sure you know your partner and that you wanna spend the rest of your life with them. I think that the failed marriages are those who rush into them too quickly without being ready.

That depends on the person and whether they are sentimental enough about the idea of marriage. I consider marriage to be a term that has largely lost all the historical connotations in contemporary times because it's just "required" and promoted in our society that a couple cannot be certified as genuinely happy without walking down the aisle. I consider marriage today to be when a couple is both together for a long period of time without complications. You don't need a certificate to justify your love.

There's also this common misconception that all marriages have to be grandiose. Bye, when I'm wed I'm going through a drive-by chapel and catering Mcdonald's.

Above overrated, my parents shouldn't have been married.

I also know those who have been married 20+ years and they are just together I guess because staying with that person is easier and less expensive. There's no sense of love, intimacy, or happiness. In fact they haven't been happy for years.

yes tbh. my parents were married for years, got divorced, but they're still together- have been for 20 years now. I don't see them getting "re married" any time soon.