OMG

- When did you first came out
around my mid teens
- Who was the first person to know
some friends
- How did you feel after it
pretty good because i was over the fear
- Did you lose any friends
nope
- How is the Situation now.
pretty good except i desperately need the D

you need what ?
Edit: Never mind, I get it

- When did you first came out -September 2011
- Who was the first person to know-My bestfriend
- How did you feel after it I felt amazing tbh, a weight lifted off my shoulders and we actually became even more close after that
- Did you lose any friends My high school friends don't know , everyone im with in college does know though & I like them better than my friends back at home tbh
- How is the Situation now. Well My mom recently found out im gay, she saw a picture of me kissing my boyfriend she thinks it's a phase and she doesn't want me to be gay, she basically doesn't accepts my sexuality but she said she still loves me and that i'll always be her son

I really do hope my mom accepts my sexuality sooner or later

I just gradually told all my friends, nobody cared. Told my mom a while back, she's just worried I'll be shot or stabbed for being gay at some point. I have no idea when or if I will to the rest of the family.

I told my mum the other day.. at first she took it really well & she was really supportive. Then she started asking questions & now she thinks it's just a phase that I'm going through & that I need to 'look in the right direction'. She also fears that I'm doing this because I want to be different from the rest () so it's a way for me to stand out. Oh and yea she reckons some girl broke my heart really badly so I chose to be with guys instead (cause apparently it's easier)

Oh & just when I thought it was over, tonight she came to me & told me I'm disturbed (the ****ing nerve ) & that I need to stop living like that. I just find it really funny how she was totally fine with it a few days ago & now it's a complete mess.

Anyway I knew I would not have any support from my family so this comes as no surprise to me. Life goes on I will continue seeing guys, they can all seethe. I'm done living in denial. Been doing this for 21 years it's now OVER. At this point I'm ready to support myself financially (even if it means busting my ass for 40 hrs per week during term time) so they can threaten me all they want

I'm used to doing things on my own anyway.

I came out at 20 to my brother, 21 to my best friend, & a month after I turned 22 to my parents.

My story is actually ****ing hilarious. I came out to my parents while sitting in the hot tub with them. What kind of first world stress?!

I’d decided it was the perfect opportunity to do it because my parents & I were all immersed in hot water & the outside air was cold as ****, so they were going to be trapped with me for a while.

Eventually, my mom asked me some STUPID question like “So what’s going on with you & that girl in your class you were ogling”

I replied louder than I meant to: “THERE IS NO GIRL, MOM. THAT’S BECAUSE I’M GAY, MOM.” (I really was not here for that dragging-it-out process...)

She said “WELL, WE’VE KNOWN THAT FOR FOREVER NOW, TELL ME SOMETHING NEW”



And then everything went silent. And it was awesome.

Then I just completely word vomited how I met this guy (John, who I’m dating) & how he knows my ex-roommate J———- & how J———- doesn’t want us to be together & how I talked **** about her on Twitter & now she’s talking to my manager at work how “coercive” & “physically threatening” I am & how I might lose my job

Like, literally rambling loudly, letting it ALL come out.

My mom supportively just kept saying “Yep… yep… yep…” throughout all of it, desperately trying to latch on to any part of it. My dad just sat there, bewildered.

Then my parents started **** talking my ex-roommate, saying that she’s toxic and miserable and sad, and long story short, they said they have my back 100%, they’ll defend me to the death & if anything, this is all going to bring us closer.

Then they tried not to laugh when I told them how I took scissors to her high heel & destroyed the **** out of it.

If anything, they were most mad about how long it took for me to tell them. My mom was like “We’ve been waiting for you to tell us for forever now… it got so boring, so I just said, whatever, he’ll tell us when he wants to”

My dad said “We love you, buddy. No matter what. And we’re here for you.”

They said that if I ever got married they’d totally be there & they want me to essentially beat the **** out of my ex-roommate for being such an ungrateful bitch. And they want to meet my boyfriend.

Then we went inside and ate dinner.

I was so worried, because they're super conservative & religious, but my mom basically said "having a gay child in the family changes everything," including their mindsets. I've lost no friends, I still maintain healthy relationships with the people at my former church, & I feel so incredibly blessed to have such a positive reception.

- When did you first came out: 17 senior year of high school
- Who was the first person to know: my best friend Michelle via text message
- How did you feel after it: depressed and stupid and anxious
- Did you lose any friends: no/yes?
- How is the Situation now. I don't talk to that bitch Michelle anymore.

Basically what happened was one night I picked up my best friend Michelle and this girl Iwona and we went to Sonic to get some food. The carhop eventually brought us our meal but we all noticed he kept staring at us and then approached our car while we were eating. He asked us if we enjoyed the food and we all said yes and then asked my 2 friends if they were my girlfriends and they obviously said no and then he asked me if I was gay and I said no then he said "take it as a compliment"

Later that night I was SO depressed I can't even begin to describe that I just decided to text Michelle and tell her I'm gay along with some **** like I need more confidence and I hate that I'm gay etc etc etc. I also told her not to tell a soul until I was ready.
I eventually moved to my grandma's house in Florida (I live in NJ) a few months after graduation and I soon discovered Michelle betrayed me and told everybody. So after moving back to New Jersey I didn't really trust anybody and didn't have any friends, no money and no job and didn't even go to college.
Fast forward to present times I now have a job still no school and the girl Michelle was/is on hardcore drugs and ended up in the hospital for a "uti" and I don't really speak to anybody from high school anymore.
Everybody knows I'm gay now but I never told I my family I'm too scared

friends were accepting, family was not and is not accepting.

it's tough. if I could go back, I would do things differently.

what a great story

That's exactly what happened to me, I had no way to get out of that.
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She still thinks that It's a phase, but she supports me, at least....

This story gives me so much hope. Amazing. Your parents sound like they love you very much.

- When did you first came out

About 8 months ago.

- Who was the first person to know

One of my classmates. She actually asked ME if I was because she saw me shooting eyes at this really hot guy in our class. She was close friends with him so she arranged a study group at her aptmt for the three of us. The guy was straight, but while we were studying she asked me if I was gay and I said "yes, I'm bi" (and yes, I am actually bi). And then she said "oh cool, so am I. I wasn't really sure if you were, but I see you staring at George all the time in class."

Then she told me about how she came out to her parents and how accepting they were and she said that I shouldn't be ashamed of it. We all became pretty good friends after that. I don't talk to them as much now bc we don't have class together but they were the first people who made me feel comfortable with myself and I love them for it.

It took me another few months before I told my close group of college friends and they were all very accepting. I even got closer to them after it. I told a few of my closest high school friends a few months ago. They were surprised and didn't know how to react at first, but now they're ok with it and we're closer bc of it.

- How did you feel after it

I felt like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders and like I could finally be the REAL me for once. I didn't have to hide when I thought a guy was hot or when I had a crush on a guy.

- Did you lose any friends

Yes. Some of my high school friends just weren't here for it and one of them completely cut me off after I told him. He said I was disgusting and that I clearly didn't care that I'm living a disgraceful life and that he doesn't want me around him to influence him.

- How is the Situation now.

I still haven't told any of my family, tho I think my mom already knows. She asked me if I was when I went away to college and I said no, and acted offended that she would even suggest such a thing. We got into a big argument in the dorm and when I stormed out, there were people in the hallway who were clearly eavesdropping. They tried to act like they didn't hear anything. It was so embarrassing. I think she would be ok if I admitted to her now though. She's always been supportive of the geighs and likes to watch Glee and Modern Family with me. but I don't want to be a dissapointment to her... And my family... a lot of my cousins are gay and most of them have been disowned from the family after they came out. I can't bring myself to do it... They will be so disgusted and disappointed in me. I can't bear to see my Grandma's face after I tell her...

But aside from them, all of my college friends know and I seem to become closer to all of them once they find out I'm bi. Most of my hs friends don't know and will never know because I know they won't be here for it. Most of them have very conservative Christian values bc I went to a Christian hs. This is why I'll never be able to have a bf. I think I'm destined to always have to have one foot in the closet.

- When did you first came out - 2011 (17 years old)
- Who was the first person to know - My best female friend
- How did you feel after it - I felt free!!!!
- Did you lose any friends - Nope
- How is the Situation now - So much better, I have a boyfriend and I love him!

When did you first came out: About 2-3 months ago (early October). I was 18. My birthday is today actually, turning 19

Who was the first person to know: My brother. We live and go to school together and have gotten super close and I kinda thought he knew anyways (which he did) so I just finally told him. And his ex-girlfriend and current girlfriend as well lol..

How did you feel after it: Awesome! Like I could finally breathe..just be myself and be happy!

Did you lose any friends: No because none of my friends from Highschool know..all my friends in the city where I attend University know though..I'm just myself there. It's kinda like I live two different lives when I'm at school and home lol.

How is the Situation now: It's good. My brother has been amazing and super supportive of me..I kinda feel awkward at home cause he knows but my parents still don't but I'm not ready to tell them. I really enjoy being at school more because I'm just myself 100% of the time and don't ever feel guilty or awkward..

Minus the living two different lives part. I still act the same either way, I just don't talk about guys with some of my hs friends. But I really enjoy being at school bc everyone there accepts me and I don't have to hide any part of me. It's great that your brother is so accepting of you. Hopefully your family will be the same way.

This counts for me aswell.
I'm moving out for university in like 6 months so my time is coming.

Edit: But I don't want my family to be awkward if I get married, 'cause I know they will, and if I ever would have anyone over for christmas dinner or anything, it'd just be so awkward

- When did you first came out: Not 100% sure I think I was 16

- Who was the first person to know: Random friend.

- How did you feel after it: Nothing different.

- Did you lose any friends: No.

- How is the Situation now: Family don't talk about it, I feel alone most of the time.

When did you first came out - When I was 17. I really didn't tell anyone. I just changed my orientation on Myspace to bi. After a couple of days I changed it back to straight because I wasn't ready to come out. But some people had seen it, so the damage was done.
Who was the first person to know- The first person I actually told, for real, was my best friend after a night of drinking during my freshmen year of college.
How did you feel after it - Liberated. Like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
Did you lose any friends - No.
How is the Situation now - It's complicated with my family. I'm basically out to the rest of the world besides my family (only my mom and brother know from my family). I have aunts, uncles, and cousins I could tell and I know that would be accepting but I haven't gotten the nerves to tell them. My mom is really religious and completely ignores the fact that I'm gay and acts like I've never come out to her. She still asks me if I have a girlfriend. It's what's caused me to move out and I didn't talk to her for months but were rebuilding our relationship as of late.

I'm not out and I really don't know if I ever will be. My parents are homophobic, my friends are, my extended family and home country is even more so (they imprison gays for life and/or execute them). Being some how outed is my biggest fear. I've had several dreams about it and I wake up feeling terrible. I'm not feminine or anything, so that helps, so does hanging out with the people I hang out with since they have a "thug" reputation at my school. My friends know I like pop music though. They tease me now and then about Gaga I lie and say I'm also a big rap fan to balance it.

I'm pretty sure I'll never tell my parents, maybe my friends that are more open at graduation this summer. Leaving the hell hole that is high school will help. So much faking and BS. Oh well if they hate me, I'll be in college and most likely in a different city.

I feel like **** everyday basically b/c of being gay and not being able to control it and a lot of my friends have been noticing me being "depressed" all the time. In grade 10 they almost stopped being friends with me b/c I was so apathetic and emotionless.

The only way my parents will ever know is when they start noticing I don't have a girlfriend or anything during college. IF I get married (I doubt I ever will. ) I'd literally just tell them, "hey I'm getting married, come to my wedding. By the way I'm marring a guy"

I'm also seriously considered telling the guy I like how I feel when we graduate so if he reacts badly I don't have to deal with the backlash since high school is over and it's summer break. He flirted with me sooooooo much last year and since I'm a ****ing p.ussy, I didn't flirt back or anything but now he acts all "manly" and "straight" and is always talking about ****ing girls all of a sudden. Not being out sucks also b/c if people don't know I'm gay how would a guy that may be interested in me ( ) tell me or how would anything come of that?