So Im in a relationship of 9 months with a dude i love to death ..Yes im gay..He is the type of guy who sometimes suffers in the communication department. We have our ups and downs in our relationship but we really are in love and this is actually my first real relationship with a guy and his first real relationship period male or female. So im getting alot of the little bumps in the road of someone understanding how things should be in a relationship, some things are a little annoying but the love makes it all better.
So ... The weekend of hurricane sandy arriving we were supposed to see each other but his mom didnt want him to come upstate ny where I live because of fear of the storm..Which I understand. So I said ok , Im gonna come down and we will just go to the movies or the haunted house that was still open. He ended up not coming to meet me in manhattan/times square. I was there for about 2.5 hours and I just got the vibe he was standing me up. I took the train to brooklyn then cabbed it to his house . I texted him once I got there and told him I was outside so he had better come outside or I was going to knock on the door.He didnt come outside ...I just went blank and started banging on his door and started saying things about us being in a relationship and how I came all the way down here from upstate and he stood me up..I said some bits and pieces that I dont remember because I was so infuriated.
Long story short, we didnt talk for a day or two but were working hard on trying to stay together. He is worried about things because his mom said she wanted to talk to him about something. & His cousin whom was there (female) asked him this past weekend "what happened with your friend he seemed mad" then I guess his mom said she wanted to talk to him. ..Last week at first he was like "I just wanna be happy but if they know atleast i can live how i want" But after the weekend came it was like all downhill since his cousin made the comment.
Last night I booked a room in nyc to just spend some time with him and talk, and even though we fooled around ..It was like he wasnt there..he cried and I wiped his tears but he would not say much to me. I just feel so bad and I told him even though I dont want to ,.. I will tell my mother about my sexuality just so we can go through the same thing and to show him what I will do for him. I feel terrible and this week he has not said much to me on the phone .. He says this whole thing is his fault because he left me in the city but I told him I shouldnt of flipped out the way I did...I know he is really mad at me
I need help because im telling him based off of what he said his cousin heard...Im not sure if she heard details, I told him his mom may wanna talk to him but him avoiding her and not addressing the situation is making him look suspicious. I told him to tell her that he was supposed to meet his male and female friends in the city and he stood them up and they came over and was mad.
I know this is a mess, does anyone know how or if we can get over this? I mean I even offered to come out to my mom to show him the depth of love I have for him. Its so painful because he's like my lover/bestfriend and brother all in one . I miss him being happy
When people say long story short and go on to tell a story that's long ass ****
In any case, **** that dude. Ain't nobody got time for wishy washy ass behavior. If he continues to act like a toddler you should get blazed and seek some head from someone else.
When people say long story short and go on to tell a story that's long ass ****
In any case, **** that dude. Ain't nobody got time for wishy washy ass behavior. If he continues to act like a toddler you should get blazed and seek some head from someone else.
But its because he's not use to someone being there ..he accepts but doesnt like how loving and caring I can be in the relationship because he's not use to it. He has gotten alot better. I just dont want us to give up on this but he's so sad lately. I brought him his favorite candy and this morning when he got dressed to leave i basically had to beg him to take it with him. I told him I loved him and he just left... The story of my life right now smh
All you can do is wait it out and I had a couple of people i thought were the one.
His love is so good though. Not sex but just him, not only am I attracted to him head to toe .. he has a good heart.. a couple things he can work on but I have things i need to work on too. I feel like If i dont have him I dont want anyone else in this lifestyle
