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Discussion: Has Parenting Become... Inadequate?
Member Since: 5/18/2011
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Has Parenting Become... Inadequate?
Like, I don't know what kind of parents you all had, but I can't help, but notice how "insufficient" it's become. My friend is a teacher at an elementary school and every time something goes wrong it's always the teacher's fault. Like if a teacher and school is trying to get parents involved then you have no one to blame except yourself. If the staff is encouraging you to come to PTA meetings and Parent Teacher Conferences, etc and you don't then you shouldn't be willing to come up to the school to cuss out your child's teacher because little Billy is failing.
Parents don't do **** anymore. There are those good parents out there, but it just seems to be an overabundance of bad ones.
I do believe a child is going to mock what they see or hear and maybe they do see a lot of things that I was never exposed to as a child. Hell I wasn't even allowed to watch Rated PG-13/R movies until I was like a junior in high school lol and children seem to have more access to explicit things, but I still feel like it falls back on the parent.
Do parents still teach a child right from wrong? Do they still instill core values in them for a better overall morale? I'm all here for role models, but your child should not be idolizing the likes of Lady GaGa or Rihanna. A child's behavior may reflect society somewhat, but doesn't it always fall back on their home and their parents?
I know times have changed but is it really because of the media and entertainment industry, etc. or is it because we've become slack in the parenting dept?
Discuss.
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Parent can only do so much for so long. Kids know exactly what they're doing by a certain age. Example my auntie is a fantastic mother however my cousin has been acting like a complete **** recently. Telling lies to get money smoking, drinking & has been kicked out of school.
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Member Since: 9/2/2012
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I dunno but my mom doesn't slack when it comes to my brother. Hell I'm legally an adult and she'll still snatch my weave metaphorically if I acted up. I also love when people (no one from here just media in general) use racial profiling and how black parents are stricter and white parents spoil their childern
Cuz I'm still working for a TV in my room. 
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Member Since: 1/19/2012
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Kids are becoming better at manipulating their parents. They are more submissive.
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Member Since: 6/6/2012
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I definitely agree. And more parents are focused primarily on their job rather than their children, so they leave them at daycare most of the time instead of actually being with their kids.
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Member Since: 9/16/2011
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Simply put, yes.
Concerning the example in the OP, I actually read an article about a year ago saying that negative teacher-parent interactions are a big reason that some people leave the teaching profession.
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
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Too much to consider to argue completely one way or the other imo 
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Member Since: 11/4/2006
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I think some parents have gotten more lazy. There's so much temptation now to take the easy way out of everything, and to put the responsibility for how your children are raised onto the school, government, society, etc. Some issues nowadays may be a bit more complex but overall I feel it's the standard of parenting that has dropped.
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Member Since: 5/18/2011
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Still though, I didn't have a mom and my dad was a piece of ****. My grandparents and aunt raised me for the most part. I didn't have supervision 24/7 and I grew up fine. Whenever I didn't have one of my guardians around I knew what was right and what was wrong simply because of what was taught to me.
Most of family members were latch-key kids because we come from a hard working family, but none of us as kids have never been troublesome because even though our parents worked a lot, they still found time to be involved. Whenever they weren't at work at, they were at the school.
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Member Since: 1/19/2012
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Originally posted by JakeKills
Simply put, yes.
Concerning the example in the OP, I actually read an article about a year ago saying that negative teacher-parent interactions are a big reason that some people leave the teaching profession.
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That's why when I become a teacher I will scoop up the ratchet ass messes in my classes by their nappy roots, drag them, expose their grades for kiis and then toss them out my class so the Head can have round 2 
Gotta nip it in the bud tbh
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Member Since: 5/18/2011
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Originally posted by highwayuni
That's why when I become a teacher I will scoop up the ratchet ass messes in my classes by their nappy roots, drag them, expose their grades for kiis and then toss them out my class so the Head can have round 2
Gotta nip it in the bud tbh |
That's why I couldn't be a teacher. You are just as responsible for your child's grade as I am. Just because school gets out at 2:45 doesn't mean them being educated is over.
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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I think people in general (not just parents) have become lazy and out of touch with their families. The more technology we create the more people focus on those things and less on things that are really important (family). Instead of sitting around the table for a family meal everyone is on their phone, ipad, tablet, psp, etc. So it doesn't just fall down to parents.
What you're asking isn't really something that can be answered so easily though. This is a deep topic, but I have friends my age who are great parents and I know people from older generations who were terrible parents so meh.
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Member Since: 4/20/2011
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It also doesn't help that these days people cry "abuse" over a spank
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Member Since: 5/18/2011
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Originally posted by R|E|V|E|R|I|E
I think people in general (not just parents) have become lazy and out of touch with their families. The more technology we create the more people focus on those things and less on things that are really important (family). Instead of sitting around the table for a family meal everyone is on their phone, ipad, tablet, psp, etc. So it doesn't just fall down to parents.
What you're asking isn't really something that can be answered so easily though. This is a deep topic, but I have friends my age who are great parents and I know people from older generations who were terrible parents so meh.
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So meh my ass and I do agree. I do think overall family values are becoming null and void. We don't even pick up the phone and call our loved ones anymore. We text; however, isn't that where the problem lies? I mean people used to call my family "white" and **** because we had Mexican Night , movie, and game nights, but the bond we have with each other is strong. You have to be willing to go the extra mile to maintain a household when you're trying to raise a family.
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Member Since: 6/25/2010
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I'm all here for role models, but your child should not be idolizing the likes of Lady GaGa or Rihanna.
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Idol worship isn't new. Kids for many generations, actually hundreds of years, probably more, have been looking up to the wrong people. Athletes who were terrible people, used performance enhancers, womanizing playboys were looked up to so much 100 years ago (using this point, because I think that was the peak with radio, but not sure) and have been since.
Objectively I've heard the 70s, 40s and 50s been called terrible eras for parenting. I think we just like to attack the time we live in and look at the past positively. We like to say oh everyone is pregnant in high school now when really, Teen pregnancy rates fell 40 percent from 1990 to 2008 and continue to go down. 
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Member Since: 5/25/2011
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Originally posted by slobro
It also doesn't help that these days people cry "abuse" over a spank
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Basically
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Member Since: 1/20/2012
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Yes, parents don't discipline like they used to. The government (US) is somewhat to blame.
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Member Since: 8/20/2011
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Honestly it depends on the person. Some parents don't discipline their children enough while other discipline their children too much.
Two years ago when I was in high school, I had one friend who did what the hell they wanted. Their parent was more of a friend than an actual parent. While another one was in prision all the time. Their parents let them do nothing even though they were not bad. It is different person to person.
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
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Originally posted by KΔΥ.ΒΣΣ
So meh my ass and I do agree. I do think overall family values are becoming null and void. We don't even pick up the phone and call our loved ones anymore. We text; however, isn't that where the problem lies? I mean people used to call my family "white" and **** because we had Mexican Night , movie, and game nights, but the bond we have with each other is strong. You have to be willing to go the extra mile to maintain a household when you're trying to raise a family.
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Ch you aint even taking care of Kendrais so how dare you.
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Member Since: 5/18/2011
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Originally posted by R|E|V|E|R|I|E
Ch you aint even taking care of Kendrais so how dare you.
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 Yo' ass ain't EVER even home!
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