let's stir things up a bit shall we?

- Which is more important to you in a relationship? Looks or Personality?

- Where do you stand on looks? I mean, before you even approach someone do you have to find that person attractive?

- Where do you stand on personality? Can a beautiful personality make an ugly person attractive? Can an ugly personality make a beautiful person unattractive?

- Do you find someone "shallow" if he/she thinks looks are more important then personality?

- What's "attractive" to you? Can someone with a nasty face, but a nice body pass (or vise versa)?

Me? I'm definately a "looks" man initially. I mean, I HAVE TO be physically attracted to someone before I engage in any sort of relationship with them on a romantic level. However, that person's personality would determine just how long our relationship would last. I look at it this way: Your looks will get you in the door, but your personality will determine just how long you stay in!

i'll answer the rest when I have more time. how about u guys?

I think Looks v.s. Personality is kinda one of the most overrated discussions to talk about. Certain people prefer Looks more while others prefer Personality.

But if it were me, give me Personality any day.

To me, both of them matter, even though personality outstands looks. I want a girl with a good personality, but I want a girl that is at least decent looking too. I'm not really looking for like a really hot girl. Sure, I'd want one, but looks don't have to go that far for me. Just being pretty is good enough for me. That way, I can be happy.

of course the first thing you take into consideration is looks. In the long term, personality is more important. If you get bored with someone, then a relationship won't last that long.

When I approach someone, most of the time I don't know him, so of course i have to find him attractive.

That one of a person with an ugly face but a beatiful body... It's happened to me more than you imagine, so I'll definitely say, they don't pass! Sometimes they have.

Thanks god my bf has looks + personality lol

I say both

Sure, looks are nice but they can be deceiving so I never EVER judge anyone because of looks. Plus your face and body eventually fade away while your personality never does. I know some people think I'm crazy or am lying when i say I don't care about looks at all but it's the truth
Now if I cared about looks I would like my man dark-skinned, with big lips, short hair, perfect abs and a moderate beard

Anyone who says looks are the most important thing are the most shallow people. It strikes me as complete arrogance.

Sure, looks are important to a certain extent(because i'm sure nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't take a shower ) but, without the personality and the conversations, you can forget about your relationship lasting forever.

both... but personality is more important anyway... because it makes the relationship last

the person has to have some degree of attractivness.
being attractive catches peoples attention, but its the personality that makes them stay with you. you need both. people that say its totally personality are just trying to sound perfect

Look at me, for christ's sake.

Anyone who falls in love with me is NOT falling in love with me for my looks.

For me i say, at the beginning it's the person's looks and after a while it's their personality, at least that's how it's happened for me

Its both. Because looks is the first thing that people remind you of. I mean, thats the first perspective of you from people, but then personailty is more imporant afterall.

The way it is for me is that even if someone's ugly and I get to know and like their personality, I kind of forget that they're ugly. But I wouldn't initially be attracted to them, so I'd have to be friends with someone first if they're not attractive. Whereas, if someone is attractive, I'll want them without even knowing their personality until I'm otherwise turned off by it.

hmmm, I honestly don't think that I could ever fall for someone who I thought to be unattractive. I mean, as I said in my original post, there has to be physical attraction there for me to even be interested. Does this make me shallow? Personality is important, don't get me wrong. I think that in order to maintain a healthy relationship with someone, there personalities definately must click. And I realize that in the longrun, personality is gonna be really the only thing that matters. But initially, I mean before I even try to get into a relationship with a person, I MUST be attracted to them. I guess personality is somewhat secondary to me.

See, I think that I am much more biased towards personality because I didn't find the love of my life out there in the real world. I found it online and I found it through getting in touch with that person's personality. Looks were truly secondary when it came to my relationship because that wasn't what it was initially based on. Now, if you're talking about in person and meeting somebody in person for the first time without knowing them at all, then hey, looks probably do matter, at least initially. But I didn't have to do that in order to find the one I love.

And I will repeat this because it is needed for emphasis: NO GIRL would EVER fall in love with me for my looks. It's a guarantee. I got lucky.

personality yeah the initially attraction is important and all but then i get bored. I personally like a guy who can make me laugh that is what i find sexy in a guy. Btw who is to say what is attractive? persoanlly i like dorky guysthey are attractive Just becase you might think someone in not attractive does not mean that someone else might not.

they are both important ... but the beauty don't last forever...so ... personality

Looks is like a little better than personality for me. not that much only like this ---> .

Truth and Fact: Relationships+Marriges based on personality last far longer than those based on looks. (on average)

looks ^_^