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Originally posted by Katie
It's a lot easier said than done. There are few people that can leave an abusive relationship at the first sign, but there are many more that don't and/or can't. Unless a person has gone through it and done it, there's really no way to speculate. There are many circumstances that impact a person's decision to stay/leave. To think "I'd leave someone who hit me" is easy, to do it is not as such.
It's not about common sense or understanding. It's more about emotions of fear, embarrassment, confusion, etc.
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Well, yes, I agree. But it depends on the type of person. If you're weak (and I don't mean that in an insulting way, I just mean mentally weak) and vulnerable to abuse, then it will be extremely hard for you to leave. I guess what I meant with my original post was that I wouldn't put up with it when the early signs start showing. I wouldn't be one to brush it off as something I did. I wouldn't allow it to go on until I'm in the hospital. I haven't been in an abusive relationship yet, but I feel the same way about cheating and I always stand by my beliefs. I wouldn't stay with a beater or a cheater.
Not funny "ha ha", but funny like, people in abusive relationships go into them thinking the other person could never physically hurt them, and when they do it's not a case of "I won't stand for this" for the majority. The people in abusive relationships have the same mindset as the comments I mentioned, and I always find it funny because these kinda threads on here/discussions in real life always have the same comments yet you can never really say what you would do until you have been in one, but people always think they know.
But yeah, no matter how easy you might think it would be you can never truly say what you would do if you were in one unless you have personal experience. The news stories on victims are always the same "I'm not the kind of person who would stand for that...". Nothing to do with being weak or strong.
