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Discussion: Your Coming Out...
Member Since: 1/5/2014
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I can't tell my parents because they would kick me out of the house and my whole family would look at me differently. My mother is religious and crazy, and she and my father think that gays are an abomination and that they shouldn't have the same rights as straight people do. They told my little brother that being gay is wrong and God doesn't like those kind of people. They are really ignorant people even tho my mother has a philosophy major  It would be impossible for me to live in the same house as they were living, it would be non stop fighting and yelling and smashing things and hearing them calling me names. I'm waiting for me to get my degree, start working, leave the house and then I would just go on with my life dating guys or girls and my parents wouldn't have to know anything. I really don't see a reason to tell them anything at this moment or at any moment at all.
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Member Since: 1/5/2014
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Originally posted by FunkyDinevo
NOT Britney Jean  |
S C R E A M I N G  I'm sorry but that just killed me completely!
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
Posts: 11,335
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i haven't really told anyone about being bi, admittedly because i'm still not 100% sure of what i want in general so it just doesn't feel right to even say anything for a fact (especially since i'm still a virgin and haven't really been in a relationship). I think my friends do know, if anything they probably wouldn't be surprised if I confirmed, half of them follow me on Tumblr and I don't really keep my views to myself, I just haven't said anything outright and obvious.
I think my mom suspects something, she's told me on random occasions that she loves me and she just wants me to be happy. My parents HAVE asked me, but like before I ever assumed being bisexual, and told me that even if I was they wouldn't make a big thing about it, that I'm still their son and they'll still support me.
Everyone around me is supportive, I just don't think it's the right time to "come out" when I haven't even been on a date much less had sex.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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I was wasted/high
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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I have Britney Jean on repeat every time my mom is in my car...SHE MUST suspect ATLEAST right?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 7,779
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Originally posted by Phoenixx
I can't tell my parents because they would kick me out of the house and my whole family would look at me differently. My mother is religious and crazy, and she and my father think that gays are an abomination and that they shouldn't have the same rights as straight people do. They told my little brother that being gay is wrong and God doesn't like those kind of people. They are really ignorant people even tho my mother has a philosophy major It would be impossible for me to live in the same house as they were living, it would be non stop fighting and yelling and smashing things and hearing them calling me names. I'm waiting for me to get my degree, start working, leave the house and then I would just go on with my life dating guys or girls and my parents wouldn't have to know anything. I really don't see a reason to tell them anything at this moment or at any moment at all. |
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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omg the IGNORANCE!!!
Offtopic but once I tried to kiss my little cousin on the forehead and he was like "Mom and dad say it's illegal for two men to kiss"
I mean
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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On a related note, my roommate came out last week on facebook saying "Yep I'm a homo." But then he has Lana Del Rey's Ride as his ringtone so no one even wondered.
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Member Since: 4/26/2007
Posts: 15,585
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Not the pop girls causing everyone telling before the coming out 
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Member Since: 2/6/2012
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Just after Christmas I somehow ended up coming out to my straight friend. (that I happen to have a giant crush on and that is hot af) We've actually become much closer and are better friends. He tells me all this stuff he's told no one before, including some sexual things that he really shouldn't be saying to me but I'm fine with it. 
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Member Since: 12/21/2011
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I'll come out when my crush comes out to me 
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Member Since: 11/26/2010
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Alright well I'm pretty much already out to my friends... silently out to my sister (it's obv as **** tbh), and my parents either know or they're blind. Yup.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Not out 
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
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Originally posted by Phoenixx
I can't tell my parents because they would kick me out of the house and my whole family would look at me differently. My mother is religious and crazy, and she and my father think that gays are an abomination and that they shouldn't have the same rights as straight people do. They told my little brother that being gay is wrong and God doesn't like those kind of people. They are really ignorant people even tho my mother has a philosophy major It would be impossible for me to live in the same house as they were living, it would be non stop fighting and yelling and smashing things and hearing them calling me names. I'm waiting for me to get my degree, start working, leave the house and then I would just go on with my life dating guys or girls and my parents wouldn't have to know anything. I really don't see a reason to tell them anything at this moment or at any moment at all. |
I sort of feel like this sometimes. I think "they don't ever have to know, I can lie forever". But then I wouldn't feel right. My parents are ignorant, but in a confusing way. One second my mom is telling me about the guy who does her eyebrows, the next she is condemning gays to hell (she's not even that religious ). One second my dad seems too chill to care about homosexuality, the next he is this ignorant beast making fun of gays. I want to change their opinions tbh. Them and my whole family's. I want to show them being gay is nothing but me preferring dick. So I do hope to come out to them, because I deserve (as does everybody else) to live life without fear of them finding out, especially if I find the right person.
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Member Since: 9/7/2011
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Originally posted by Citrus
I was in middle school. The school counselor called me to her office because I'd been acting like a little ****er and had a bunch of demerits. I came out to her and told her I'd thought about suicide before. She said since I mentioned suicide, she had to tell my parents within two days or something. She gave me the weekend to come out to them before she would call them. My parents are divorced, so I only had to come out to one, at least. 
I came out to my mom and she cried a lot. She sent me to therapy for two months before the therapist told her that she couldn't "fix" me. From there, I came out to my sister while driving us somewhere. My sister asked if I was sure and if I'd ever been with a girl to know for certain. It was okay-ish. When we got home she told my mom, "Let me address the pink elephant in the room: He's gay."
My mom has had a really rough time. The therapist told me that my mom said she blames herself because I don't have a father figure because of the divorce. Two summers ago, I told my mom I was going on a date (I'd been going on dates for like 6 months then, so kii). She got really mad but ended up driving me to meet the guy and his mom. The guy turned out to be a total douchebag, but that's not the point. After we met them and resolved to never do so again, my mom started crying in the car and said, "I'm sorry. I just want you to be happy." And we both cried like little bitches all the way home, but she was fine with it after that.
My grandmother was the last person I came out to, if it counts. She died of cancer about a year ago, and while she was in that state where she couldn't respond right before she went, I told her. They say you can hear until the end, so I told her everything and said I loved her and all that stuff.
Still working on those kids at school.  |
BIB: this is absolutely beautiful, you made me shed a tear or two... I'm sure she was incredibly accepting and is looking down on you now with love.
I wish I could've done the same tbh.
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Member Since: 6/6/2011
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My coming out was one of the worst experiences of my life. I was a Junior in high school & forced to come out. My mom found out when she used my phone to listen to music & went through my pics. She saw a D*** pic & it wasn't mines. 2 days later she confronted me & when I told her I was bisexual she went hysterical. I was trying my best not to laugh. but that's not even the worst part. A few weeks went by & I told her I was going to spend time with my Bf & his family for the weekend. She was okay with it (So I thought). When I came home mom said she was going to have him arrested for kidnapping me. She went around the city posting missing flyers & even threaten to go to the news. Hearing my Mom & Grandma tell me "You should stop going to church now. You're going to burn in hell anyways!" without any remorse tore me apart. Till this day I don't know what made her snapped over that weekend. I eventually moved out & stayed with my other Grandma (whose fully supportive) through the rest of high school. I'm in college now , my Bf & I are still together , & I have great people around who support me as well. Sorry for the rant. 
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Member Since: 2/17/2012
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Originally posted by Honey
I'm only out to some of my friends, but not my family.
When I told my best friend she was just like "Oh.", so I said "That's all you have to say?  ". She replied by saying "Well you like Beyoncé, I'm not surprised."  |
lol I remember when you were str8
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 12,760
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I'm out to my friends but not my family. My sisters are perfectly fine with homosexuality but my parents are a little homophobic, my mom being more. I know they would eventually get over it and still love me the same way but I'm not comfortable telling them until I have a boyfriend/move out. I honestly have no idea how they don't know yet but the way they still talk about girls all the time to me shows otherwise
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Member Since: 8/2/2012
Posts: 17,518
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I ain't ever coming out..what they don't know won't hurt them
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Member Since: 5/14/2007
Posts: 25,912
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Are your mom and grandma okay with it now?
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