[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Blueberry Mary

I'm normaly only attracted to people that look like me/have similar features to me. So I'm never that physically attracted to people of other races/different hair color/different build.
I wouldn't say I'm being racist as that's only based on physical attraction and has nothing to do with their personality.

And that's perfectly fine its just that when there are people who obviously don't want to date someone because of their ethnicity its an issue. You just don't legitimately find that attractive and that's ok.

For instance a guy i know who is 1/4 asian was being flirted with a guy on grindr who had NO asians on his profile. He told the guy he was 1/4 Asian and the guy said. Well, i'm not 1/4 attracted to you so in some cases its more of a mental thing than a i just don't find you attractive.

And even when we don't find someone attractive we should at least have some class and say thanks for your time but i'm not interested. It doesn't take much time to be nice about it.

[Blueberry Mary]

Originally posted by Cain

YEAH can someone explain why so many gay couples look like each other?
Whenever I see gay couples on TV or something they're always the same skincolour, hight, same style of clothing, same haircut. I would find that really weird.

I'm very often only attracted to people who look like me. I think it's because I see myself with so many imperfections and if I see them on another guy, (that I'm attracted to) it makes me feel a lot more comfortable with myself.

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Llewellyn

Ooh yeah I agree with you. To be honest I really don't like him that much, he REALLY objectifies guys. For example he went out with this white guy they really got on well and stuff but as soon as he found out he wasn't that well endowed he dumped him and started saying stuff about how he will only date black guys. The way he treats guys is disgusting I always tell him that he will never find true happiness because he's so shallow. It's stuff like this that really makes me lose hope in the gay community (I know not everyone is like that but still...)

yeah, he's definitely racist when it comes to both whites and blacks not a good look.

And why does dick size matter? its how you use it honestly i don't get guys who are size queens cause you know what a penis is like and how to use it. Women shouldn't be size queens either but the thing is they don't know cause they're not men so they could never really grasp it.

I mean men on average are like 5 to 7 anything else is above average. I mean as long as you can feel it whats the issue? if you can't feel it then

[Cain]

Originally posted by Blueberry Mary

I'm very often only attracted to people who look like me. I think it's because I see myself with so many imperfections and if I see them on another guy, (that I'm attracted to) it makes me feel a lot more comfortable with myself.

Oh okay, I've never looked at it that way. I always thought guys would adapt the style of the people they are attracted to, because that is seen as attractive to them.

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Llewellyn

Also I just wanna say I love this thread, it's nice to hear everyone's opinions and different viewpoints in life without people trolling!

Also whilst the gays are in here we should have Grindr as the next topic

Sounds like a good idea. Who else is for it.

[Funhouse]

On the topic of racism vs. preference: I don't think it's racist to have a certain type, but it is racist to write off an entire race. And don't forget that society teaches us that 'white characteristics' are the standard of beauty.

Originally posted by Cain

YEAH can someone explain why so many gay couples look like each other?
Whenever I see gay couples on TV or something they're always the same skincolour, hight, same style of clothing, same haircut. I would find that really weird.

I think it's a combinations of things. A lot of straight people go for someone who looks like them as well, but with gay couples it just becomes more obvious because they're of the same sex.

Another thing is, you want to come of as attractive, so you usually style yourself in a way that you think is attractive. This is why gay couples often dress the same and have similar hair styles.

[Gangsta4alife]

Originally posted by I Am Music

yeah, he's definitely racist when it comes to both whites and blacks not a good look.

And why does dick size matter? its how you use it honestly i don't get guys who are size queens cause you know what a penis is like and how to use it. Women shouldn't be size queens either but the thing is they don't know cause they're not men so they could never really grasp it.

I mean men on average are like 5 to 7 anything else is above average. I mean as long as you can feel it whats the issue? if you can't feel it then

I feel a lot of people who are supposedly size queens haven't really dealt with anything 8 in. or up. They think it's that size but if we measured it would be smaller. I also find that people who are size queens shade themselves a good 3 - 4 inches makes you feel something, and most men are 5 - 7. So obviously most of the ppl who say that can't be ****ing with sizes like I stated in my first sentence

[Sláy]

Originally posted by I Am Music

Sounds like a good idea. Who else is for it.

Me. Just gay dating/hookup apps in gen. tbh.

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Llewellyn

Well I mentioned before he's extremely shallow, obviously everyone has different lifestyles and I'm not one to judge anyone for being promiscuous but yeah.. He sleeps around A LOT and if someone isn't up to his standard he just dumps them and moves on. If we didn't have friends in common I wouldn't associate with him, he's not a very nice person when it comes to dating.

I met a guy like that actually and we got along great and he said he liked me but since i looked different than in my picture (which is odd cause i didn't pull a catfish) he couldn't be with me and he would end loosing interest. I read for him filth though in a classy way.

He had issues and your friend sounds like he has them too. He'll always be alone with that mindset he better wake up before its too late.

[tittieslap]

The Gay Community IS a shallow mess. It's so sad really. And it's displayed perfectly in the apps.

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Gangsta4alife

I feel a lot of people who are supposedly size queens haven't really dealt with anything 8 in. or up. They think it's that size but if we measured it would be smaller. I also find that people who are size queens shade themselves a good 3 - 4 inches makes you feel something, and most men are 5 - 7. So obviously most of the ppl who say that can't be ****ing with sizes like I stated in my first sentence

!!!! I mean these people need to wake up. On to gay dating apps now.

[Blueberry Mary]

I'd have a really good conversation with someone of grindr and as soon as they see my pics they just stop talking to me . Mind you, I often do the same to other people.

[Sláy]

Originally posted by Funhouse

On the topic of racism vs. preference: I don't think it's racist to have a certain type, but it is racist to write off an entire race. And don't forget that society teaches us that 'white characteristics' are the standard of beauty.

Well said.

Originally posted by Gangsta4alife

I feel a lot of people who are supposedly size queens haven't really dealt with anything 8 in. or up. They think it's that size but if we measured it would be smaller. I also find that people who are size queens shade themselves a good 3 - 4 inches makes you feel something, and most men are 5 - 7. So obviously most of the ppl who say that can't be ****ing with sizes like I stated in my first sentence

Yeah. Like they've not had to DEAL with a size KING. Like it can be some hardcore ****
I was with a poor fellow who was about 4.5 erect and I asked him if he was hard mfzjgbhdhf. The sex was painful. He had to WERK.

[Sláy]

Originally posted by Blueberry Mary

I'd have a really good conversation with someone of grindr and as soon as they see my pics they just stop talking to me . Mind you, I often do the same to other people.

True. It's annoying. But like I check BEFORE we start chatting. It depends what you want though. Some say friends and networking but then you already have mates, so it makes no sense.

[I Am Music]

Hookup/dating apps? are they a blessing or a curse? do they prevent gay men from going out there in the real world and makes them judge from afar?. Discuss.

[tittieslap]

Originally posted by Blueberry Mary

I'd have a really good conversation with someone of grindr and as soon as they see my pics they just stop talking to me . Mind you, I often do the same to other people.

+They always ask for "Other Pics"

[I Am Music]

I never used Grindr due to the infamy of it having a wide abundance of racism with words like "no rice" "no spice" "no chocolate" etc. I know of those who use it and seen it in action.

Very shallow and very disrespectful.

[I Am Music]

And i also feel that apps prevent us from going out there to bars and LGBT functions to chat it up and see what happens. All we do now is sit at home and judge profiles and don't even talk to them this goes for dating and hookup apps.

[Blueberry Mary]

Originally posted by Sláy

True. It's annoying. But like I check BEFORE we start chatting. It depends what you want though. Some say friends and networking but then you already have mates, so it makes no sense.

I just want someone to love me tbh and I know grindr is certainly not the best place to look as everyone seems to only want sex. I'm not sure where else I'd find anyone. The amount of people I come into contact with is such a small number (compared to most people ) and the likelihood that anyone is gay is extremely remote, so... idk.

[I Am Music]

Originally posted by Llewellyn

It's really weird but I find I get a LOT more messages if I have no picture Which is odd as you think it would be the other way around.

I've had mixed experiences, I have GrindR and I find that 90% of the guys on there just send you rude pictures without even saying "Hey" and just want a one night stand. I have met some guys who seem really cool, the best thing about it is that it's a really easy way to meet new people if you don't know many guys in real life or aren't that confident in talking to guys.

I work at a gay nightclub here in the UK and it's funny I see people come to the bar and just sit there on GrindR all damn night and I find it weird because you're in a gay bar with loads of guys, you could just go talk to them, but instead they just sit on there phones trying to get a one-night stand

This is exactly what i'm talking about. This is a problem and while i understand its not easy for everyone to find someone so i suggest using Badoo. That app has less creeps and more about interacting with each other.