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Originally posted by J a y
It's not a matter of thought, it's emotion. One can be accepting of all races but not find one attractive.
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No you can't. Racism colors everything you do wether or not you realize it. Hiding behind a different label doesn't make it not what it already is. It's a matter of thoughts and emotions based on those thoughts. People subconsciously act on their preferences for one race over another.
Gay men are especially guilty of this. You can tell by the way they have these unwritten rules about how every other guy wants a black guy just long enough to see if "its" true...but never to date because black guys are "players". Never mind the white guy they were just with was playing them as well. However, they are perfectly okay tolerating being treated like dirt when it's a white man who is doing it.
You also notice it in that Dallas BBQ incident where the poor white gay guys claimed they were bashed by the big bad black guy when they instigated the whole confrontation. Many gay people just assumed everything the white guys were saying was true but then it comes out that not only was the guy they tried to claim gay bashed them was gay himself and involved in helping the community but then we learn that they just got the worst end of the fight they instigated.
Gays want acceptance but they haven't even shown they can give the same acceptance to those in their own community.
I had to explain to several friends of mine you can't come at a black guy with a line like I'm only attracted to black guys. Black guys automatically think fetish. He said he meant it as a compliment. The problem is that not everyone takes it as a compliment that you like someone's skin color. Guys who are not black don't get that. Just because you gave me a compliment doesn't mean I took it as one. Compliments like "I love black guys" reads to many people like you just want the fetish or that you'd go for anyone who was black regardless if they were attractive or not.
I get white guys complaining all day long that why can't I be a top just because my parts are larger than theirs....or they say things like what a waste...