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Originally posted by boy-in-stereo
Ultimately it comes down to internalized homophobia and misogyny. It's really difficult to just reduce an attraction to your own primal urges (i.e.: I can't help it that my D gets hard around a masc br0), because so much of our mindsets, including physical attraction, is mediated by our culture and society. So, I think it's important to recognize this and evaluate our own preferences and WHY we have them. And even if we can't help our attraction to so-called femme guys, it's not ok to disparage them. Ultimately, we are all subverting the patriarchal system by virtue of being attracted to the same-sex in the first place, so elevating yourself because of your masculinity in opposition to other gay guys' femininity isn't going to change that.
I have a friend on my school's crew team who's gay who bashes femme gay guys for giving gays a negative reputation, when honestly, a lot of these men are at the forefront of the gay rights movement from which he (and other "masc" guys) are benefitting from as we speak. So that doesn't sit well with me.
Sidenote: I consider myself in-between the femme/masc extremes, and am generally (but not exclusively) attracted to "masc" guys...
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I agree with pretty much everything you said, but the real problem I see is the perception that ALL (self-proclaimed) masculine guys are
1) uncomfortable with their sexuality
2) assholes
3) misogynistic
4) dealing with internalized homophobia
5) etc etc etc
All of these wide sweeping generalizations were made simply due to people having a preference for masculine men?
It's ridiculous.
I understand being upset for being insulted by someone because they deem you too fem, but that doesn't give anyone the right to make the gigantic blanket , woefully inaccurate generalizations that have been shamelessly typed in this thread.