... I know this would be the best advice. And I can see why people would say this. I am even considering it tbh. I am just really bad with this kind of stuff. I definitely have some thinking to do!
... I know this would be the best advice. And I can see why people would say this. I am even considering it tbh. I am just really bad with this kind of stuff. I definitely have some thinking to do!
But you're in love and you can't do it? And you think that he's gonna change but he will never change
But you're in love and you can't do it? And you think that he's gonna change but he will never change
Yes sis... exactly this.. I keep hoping he will be a little nicer with things and appreciate more. idk, but right now I definitely don't feel the love. We are moving this weekend away from each other and I think we are both hoping it gets better
Yes sis... exactly this.. I keep hoping he will be a little nicer with things and appreciate more. idk, but right now I definitely don't feel the love. We are moving this weekend away from each other and I think we are both hoping it gets better
Yes sis... exactly this.. I keep hoping he will be a little nicer with things and appreciate more. idk, but right now I definitely don't feel the love. We are moving this weekend away from each other and I think we are both hoping it gets better
"Past patterns predict behaviour,"
His previous behavioural patterns are highly contradictory to what you hope will happen. I understand it's hard to see, and to keep thinking that maybe "one day he'll change". For him, his behaviour is being directly reinforced by you continuing to be with him. Why would he change when he knows he's current behaviour hasn't resulted in you leaving him?
You need to break the cycle, and leave. Hoping he's going to change isn't going to do anything but make you feel extremely disappointed when it doesn't happen. Like Regina said, unless he's able to let what you did go (even though it's not significant in comparison to him actually cheating on you, but whatever), than you guys won't move forward.
You deserve to have someone who treats you with respect, and trusts you. This guy isn't it.
Yes sis... exactly this.. I keep hoping he will be a little nicer with things and appreciate more. idk, but right now I definitely don't feel the love. We are moving this weekend away from each other and I think we are both hoping it gets better
Time apart works wonders imo. I didn't realise how not-so-great one of my relationships was until we had that week apart with no contact. If it doesn't make him see what he has with u and appreciate it, u no what u gotta do gorl
Thanks guys for the advice. I am really appreciating it. Keep them coming no matter how harsh or realistic.
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Tell me sis. I think I already know tbh. I am just hoping that his attitude does change a little with the time apart, because even though I love him a lot, this is too much and I am getting tired of the problems he makes. Especially with the headaches I get when he drinks
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"Past patterns predict behaviour,"
His previous behavioural patterns are highly contradictory to what you hope will happen. I understand it's hard to see, and to keep thinking that maybe "one day he'll change". For him, his behaviour is being directly reinforced by you continuing to be with him. Why would he change when he knows he's current behaviour hasn't resulted in you leaving him?
You need to break the cycle, and leave. Hoping he's going to change isn't going to do anything but make you feel extremely disappointed when it doesn't happen. Like Regina said, unless he's able to let what you did go (even though it's not significant in comparison to him actually cheating on you, but whatever), than you guys won't move forward.
You deserve to have someone who treats you with respect, and trusts you. This guy isn't it.
And he says he doesn't trust me when I don't do anything. He has all these people telling him I am still seeing the guy or cheating on him when all I do is go to school and go online.
He needs to let go I agree, and he needs to be less irritated, so thats why I still haven't really broken up because I still think if he calms down it will work.
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Time apart works wonders imo. I didn't realise how not-so-great one of my relationships was until we had that week apart with no contact. If it doesn't make him see what he has with u and appreciate it, u no what u gotta do gorl
Thats what I am hoping for. I know I love him, but I feel he needs to appreciate more. He tends to just expect things from me and then tell me what I do wrong. It's one of my biggest pet peeves!
But I really think you should talk to him seriously and say some of the things you said in here. Does he know how he's making you feel?
And yes, tell him this: If you want my future, forget my past
He started the mess with the other guy, so clearly he's not really in a position to make you feel bad about anything when you even helped him over his suicidal phase after all that. (!!!)
I know it's very hard to be the one who ends it when your conversation goes nowhere, but try to be assertive...
Edit, because I just read this now in your last post:
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And he says he doesn't trust me when I don't do anything. He has all these people telling him I am still seeing the guy or cheating on him when all I do is go to school and go online.
Kurt... break up with him if that's the kind of person he is. Seriously. He is no good for you nor for himself for that matter.
He probably needs to start from zero with someone else too.
You have two choices, 1) You're gonna tell him that and he's gonna be so mad because you're right and he's gonna break up with you 2)He's gonna say that he understands and wants you but in the future you're gonna make a tiny mistake and he's gonna be the same jerk. He's gonna break your heart and you're probably gonna hook up with him in the future
But I really think you should talk to him seriously and say some of the things you said in here. Does he know how he's making you feel?
And yes, tell him this: If you want my future, forget my past
He started the mess with the other guy, so clearly he's not really in a position to make you feel bad about anything when you even helped him over his suicidal phase after all that. (!!!)
I know it's very hard to be the one who ends it when your conversation goes nowhere, but try to be assertive...
Edit, because I just read this now in your last post:
Kurt... break up with him. Seriously. He is no good for you nor for himself for that matter.
I really feel like it can still work though. I mean I am still hopefull with the time apart. I mean idk how it's going to work out, but I am on high guard. I am not the kind of person to break up with people, or be assertive or mean. I hate confrontation, but I am having my limits tested these past few days. I think in a week after we move out we don't get better I think I will break it up. I kinda talked with him about it yesterday. But we will see if it turns out better when we move out!
You have two choices, 1) You're gonna tell him that and he's gonna be so mad because you're right and he's gonna break up with you 2)He's gonna say that he understands and wants you but in the future you're gonna make a tiny mistake and he's gonna be the same jerk. He's gonna break your heart and you're probably gonna hook up with him in the future
ughh.. I know. And I can't trust him because I mean he has cheated on me before, and with his last boyfriend AND he is moving to somewhere near the gay bar. 4 minute walk....
I am throwing all that away. ALL OF IT. I just don't know... is a week/ 2 weeks reasonable to see if it works out?
I am getting so scared about whats going to happen
ughh.. I know. And I can't trust him because I mean he has cheated on me before, and with his last boyfriend AND he is moving to somewhere near the gay bar. 4 minute walk....
I am throwing all that away. ALL OF IT. I just don't know... is a week/ 2 weeks reasonable to see if it works out?
I am getting so scared about whats going to happen
If you can't trust him, why are you with him? If he has cheated on you, why are you with him? You're with him because you have comfortable, because you're afraid of dating again or maybe you're afraid of being alone, but you're not gonna be
If you can't trust him, why are you with him? If he has cheated on you, why are you with him? You're with him because you have comfortable, because you're afraid of dating again or maybe you're afraid of being alone, but you're not gonna be
thanks sis... I know everything is pointing the breaking up with him. And I really am thinking about it. I am on high alert for anything suspicious. And if things dont change in the next week or 2 I will break up. I just think it can still work. I really want to try
thanks sis... I know everything is pointing the breaking up with him. And I really am thinking about it. I am on high alert for anything suspicious. And if things dont change in the next week or 2 I will break up. I just think it can still work. I really want to try
Hope everything works out though
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