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Originally posted by keerbyriri
It sucks... but you have to go through a lot of ****** experiences with guys to be able to enter a healthy/authentic relationship. You probably think that a lot of guys are immature and think with their dick because you're only young and have yet to enter your desired friend circles to be able to meet a like minded guy.
I dated a guy for 8 months last year, and I think that was my last 'puppy love' situation that I'll be in, due to the relationship ending in a messy blaze. I met him in a terrible time in my life, and he was a bad person - so I let him take advantage of my feelings for him. I'll probably settle down romantically once I've finished my degree - I can't be bothered to enter these youthful relationships where two people just equate lust with love, have nothing in common, and it just ends in pits. I see it happening to all of my friends around me because we are all young, and I got a taste of that and realised I wasn't missing out on much lol. |
i've mentioned in this thread, i was in a relationship with a guy for a year and a half and that's the most authentic one i've had. it was far from perfect, but after the initial super affectionate puppy love stage i started to just feel this nice content and safe feeling around him most of the time, and then we'd have a special night together and i'd feel all the passionate stuff again...it was really different from the one month crash-and-burn type ones i've had in the past. the best part of it wasn't the kisses and compliments and stuff, it was the feeling of caring and emotionally supporting each other and things like that. i almost wrote a long-ass rant here about those feelings but i managed to stop myself. lol
...but in the end, that one ended really, really badly. we were happy for a long time but about 3 months before it ended he started ignoring me more and more often and saying insulting things to me a lot, and half the time we'd talk we'd be fighting. eventually we broke up and i guess i wasn't ready for that kind of feeling? like, watching someone lose interest in you slowly just sucks.
and so after we broke up, we tried to stay normal friends, but i was so upset that i did a lot of really stupid things that i'm not proud of. so i don't think i can call him a bad person, at least not without a little doubt. he did some seriously bad things to me and in a lot of ways he's really insensitive, but i messed up a lot too, so i think i should try and view the whole thing as because of both of us, not just him, especially because for a long time he really was good to me. and honestly, i don't want to view something i spent so much time on as being completely wasted on a bad person. i don't feel ok with that idea.
...i always rant about this, i'm sorry everyone, i've just been thinking about it so much for so long and i never get to tell anyone about it so i'm making this forum basically my diary
idk what to do. He's cute and very nice but kind of awkward and a little strange (not necessarily on a bad way) just not really the type that I'm attracted to. UGH
a lot of ppl are going to say it isn't a big deal, but doesn't listen to them. if it's concerning you, say something.
