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Originally posted by Bey'Knight
Ok 1st im not saying everyone should be coy about their sexuality. Im saying they shd share whatever they feel comfortable sharing be it gay, bi, straight etc. The onus of normalisation should not take presedence over one's personal comfort. Like in ur friend's case, he did right to come out simply cus keeping it a secret was becoming stifling for him. It's not normalisation if we have to bend a certain way to their whims, thats just adaptation.
You're right most str8 actors arent usually ambiguous when asked about their sexuality but Jack is an interesting position; he's an attractive prev. unknown actor playing a gay character. If he's character were straight, he wouldnt even be asked that question in the 1st place unless of course a compromising photo or somn like that leaks. He's doin it to preserve the interest he's garnered and i've no qualms with it. If he were fat & fugly, the thirsties wouldnt care if he came out asexual lol.
The same reason why most celebs pre-fame photos are a world away from the faces we've become familiar with. The same reason why i dont wear skinny jeans and see-thru lace top to work. If u care for ur professional career, u have a certain image to uphold. Atrl has deluded folks into thinking certain artists are more "real" than others. Sam is not obligated to discuss is any part of his life either.
Yea i agree; his answer only works in the context of his current role. Same way i can see a handsome gay bar bartender giving the same reply to a generous regular.
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We're not really disagreeing on anything.
My point was basically what I said before about how normalization is a slow process and it starts with the hard part of just being exposed to the world and people becoming desensitized to it. I agree that people should do what's comfortable for them, but getting out of our comfort zone is what will create change for us. It's up to the individual. Not everyone can be progressive. I don't agree with those people who argue that it should be normal to keep it to ourselves. It's not. Some stupid ass gays always use that line about how straights don't have come out and tell people. Well, duh! They're the default and considered normal. Gays are not yet.
P.S. Everyone dresses and tries to be professional for work. That's not really a good example. Of course we're going to be a little reserved and private, but it's not to the point like with my friend where he had to be ambigious all the time, change the subject, scheme to meet in certain places... not normal. I thibk you get my point.