LOL I would take as a compliement sis. Most of them r very messy but u seem very sweet and down to earth which is prob why they don't like/envy u. Take pride in it sis.
Now back on topic I also wanna say that I also look for personality in a girl. I wanna see if she is shy, outgoing and what her control level is. A healthy relationship to me means equal control and I ain't havin her run my life otherwise I'm out. I want to be able to hang wit friends as does she when we want and then at times she wanna be my bitch and I'll wanna be hers esp during sex.