Discussion: Your thoughts on overweight people? - Page 8

BlackStar_93

I really despise this misconception that slim automatically means someone is healthy. And if someone has some body fat, they're unhealthy?

To put things into perspective, I used to have a bmi of around 25/26. My doctor told me I was marginally overweight, but when I went for check ups he would tell me my body was in great order. I'm a really active person and when I was this size, I didn't feel unhealthy. Earlier this year (due to some comments made by a "friend"),I went on a diet and got my BMI down to 19. Although I looked thin, I felt so unhappy. It literally took over my life, and I felt tired all the time.

I'm now at a middle ground with a BMI of 22. My weight fluctuates a lot up and down, and I don't have a very fast metabolism at all. It's a struggle but I'm getting there. Anyway, you should never comment on someones size unless it's affecting their health. When I was "bigger", I didn't eat more that the average person. It's like we're all pre-made to have a particular shape and body size. A lot of people told me when I lost lots of weight I looked ill, even though I technically wasn't underweight.

BlackStar_93

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Originally posted by Scorpio King

I struggled with weight for a few years before I finally got to my ideal weight. Let me tell you how overweight people feel:

1. They don't wanna hear how much they need to lose weight constantly, they already know this.
2. Don't say "are you really gonna eat that?" or "you shouldn't eat that"
3. They don't like to be singled out in society as a sub-group i.e. "Your thoughts on overweight people?"
4. 9 times out of 10 they know they need to lose weight but it's not easy. It's easy for a skinny person to say "just lose weight" because MOST of them have never been there. It's not a walk in the park and the struggle does horrendous things to you mentally, physically and emotionally. That's how some overweight individuals develop eating disorders.
5. If you wanna help, say "hey, let's go to the gym" or "hey, wanna take a walk with me" don't patronize.
6. It's their life, if they want a damn burger, give them one

Well said sis!

Congrats on getting to your ideal weight as well.

Reading this thread makes me sad, I realize how shallow society can be. I understand why some people don't find overweight people attractive. but if it's a problem for you... don't date overweight people?

I also think boys have a lot more body image pressure then people give us credit for. I mean, if girls are moderately overweight (BMI 25-29), they are celebrated for being curvy. Whether a boy has a BMI of say 27, or 35 - it makes no difference- he is "Fat".

The Original High

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Originally posted by BlackStar_93

Well said sis!

Congrats on getting to your ideal weight as well.

Reading this thread makes me sad, I realize how shallow society can be. I understand why some people don't find overweight people attractive. but if it's a problem for you... don't date overweight people?

I also think boys have a lot more body image pressure then people give us credit for. I mean, if girls are moderately overweight (BMI 25-29), they are celebrated for being curvy. Whether a boy has a BMI of say 27, or 35 - it makes no difference- he is "Fat".

Exactly.

It's really like a prejudice towards them.

Mezter

I feel like it's their life. If they want to lose weight, they should take it upon themselves. Don't make people feel bad about their weight though...

Quiqui4eva

I believe they shouldn't be pushed to lose weight/be healthier unless they want to

Hitori

I think subtly watching a health related documentary would be nice? Being overweight means health risks!

Honey

Let them live how they want to.

Remmy

Quote:

Originally posted by Scorpio King

I struggled with weight for a few years before I finally got to my ideal weight. Let me tell you how overweight people feel:

1. They don't wanna hear how much they need to lose weight constantly, they already know this.
2. Don't say "are you really gonna eat that?" or "you shouldn't eat that"
3. They don't like to be singled out in society as a sub-group i.e. "Your thoughts on overweight people?"
4. 9 times out of 10 they know they need to lose weight but it's not easy. It's easy for a skinny person to say "just lose weight" because MOST of them have never been there. It's not a walk in the park and the struggle does horrendous things to you mentally, physically and emotionally. That's how some overweight individuals develop eating disorders.
5. If you wanna help, say "hey, let's go to the gym" or "hey, wanna take a walk with me" don't patronize.
6. It's their life, if they want a damn burger, give them one

itsAllen

I cannot believe some of the sick ignorance in this thread. And just the sheer cruelty...I can't believe some of you could really be such hateful and vile creatures. Praying for any man who gets stuck with some of y'all.