I am not fem myself but masc guys I have met masc guys who say **** like "fem gays are disgusting, if you're a man then act like a man". If you're that bitter about how somebody else lives their life then you're not masculine lbr. Plus if you bottom then that's already a strike against you.
Preferences do exist and just like anything else, no one should be made to feel shameful for liking/disliking something. We're all different.
The reason you see "no femmes, no blacks, no rice, no spice" or w/e on Grindr is cause it's essentially a McDonald's of dating. You list what you like/don't like right away. People aren't actually like that in real life. It's a consequence of the format.
If anything needs to change, it's probably the way people present their preference (i.e. negatively vs positively), but you can't actually change someone's preference just by willing it with words. That comes from their real world experience.
The difference is no body orders McDonalds by going through the entire damn menu stating everything they hate.
I am more fem then masc but not hugely camp and I would prefer a masc guy as my turn on is bigger built hairy guys... That's completely different to me saying "fem gays are disgusting" though. People need to understand preference doesn't make it acceptable to treat fem gays as if they're inferior.
I agree. I don't want anyone more fem than me. A little fem is cool.
But those extras are too much. I can't stand girly, girly girls so has nothing to do with self-hate. Like them high-pitched Kim K type girls. It's annoying more than anything.
It doesn't surprise me that you struggle to understand . One can develop their interests in sports, body building and listen to hyper masculine music like Rock and Hip and things of that nature.
But can also enjoy fashion, dance and pop girls.
- Wholesome individual.
And you'll find yourself relating to more people that way.
And then there are one dimensional people. You know who you are...
It doesn't surprise me that you struggle to understand . One can develop their interests in sports, body building and listen to hyper masculine music like Rock and Hip and things of that nature.
But can also enjoy fashion, dance and pop girls.
Someone who doesn't neglect femininity entirely for any personal reason - Wholesome individual. And you'll find yourself relating to more people that way.
And then there are one dimensional people. You know who you are...
And why would/should anybody aspire to be both of those things (Feminine & masculine)? Shouldn't they just be who they are, whether that be feminine, masculine, or a bit of both?
You really thought you were giving us profundity, huh?
I am neither. A well balanced medium is perfect for me. It allows to me appreciate aspects from both sides and still feel 100% comfortable with who I am.
And why would/should anybody aspire to be both of those things (Feminine & masculine)? Shouldn't they just be who they are, whether that be feminine, masculine, or a bit of both?
You really thought you were giving us profundity, huh?
If who they are is one dimensional, the answer is no.
There are desirable and useful qualities natural to both genders. Step out of your comfort zone, don'tt be a boring bitch, there is no reason not challenge yourself in honing or ascertaining those qualities within personality.
. One can develop their interests in sports, body building and listen to hyper masculine music like Rock and Hip and things of that nature.
