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Originally posted by Ammer
So I wanted to bring up a discussion topic that I think would be interesting given the demographics of this group.
How do you deal with break ups and what is your average number of days/weeks/months/years before going on a date and heading into a new relationship?
I guess I'll start the conversation! Personally, on the day of the break up I'm almost always with my friends by the end of the night or at the least the next day. I'm usually not very emotional, I tend to cry for about a few minutes at the most, but am pretty stable after it ends. I guess I'm preparing myself for the breakup when I realize it's not going to work so the blow isn't so bad.
I also tend to delete any trace of them, and rarely talk to them after it ends. I'm just not here for "staying friends".
As for dating, my average now seems to be about 2-3 weeks (if I put myself out there). If I don't try, usually about 7 months.
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Well, I suck at break-ups. I am pretty robotic in my ways so I like answers, which makes me annoying, and I also guilt problems, which makes me feel really bad. Either way, they usually suck; however, I have learned that I tend to do better if I get myself to go out with my friends more and basically find ways to not think about it. Also, yeah, I delete traces of most of their stuff or stuff that reminds me of them, unless it has an actual function...
As for getting into dating again, honestly I don't really see the point in wasting time and money on traditional dating, so technically I don't really think if it is or is not appropriate because I don't really ever put myself out there. I mean, if you broke up, why is there a need to wait? You are no longer together. Even if you may have not wanted it, it's still over and you might as well try to move on as soon as possible. I should add, if you did the breaking up, I understand it looks wrong to immediately jump into the relationship but if you made it clear that it was them or that you did want to be with someone else, it should not matter. Some feelings just can't be avoided. If you didn't, I get if you come off as if you aren't hurt at all, but it's not like you chose the break-up, so why even consider the time there? I believe in honesty and respect.
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Originally posted by LCTV
I feel so awkward because I graduated HS in 08.. but just started taking classes last year.
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I know some people who graduated before '08 and are still at school, technically at a sophomore level. You're fine. As long as you do well and excel, live your life at your own pace.