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Discussion: Your boyfriend watching x-rated movies-Problems in Dating
Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Jackson
Gurl SAME
But this whole thing is so weird for me because usually I'm really good at making guys intrigued by me and making them fall in love with me. I always make them make the first move, do the first kiss, say I love you first, etc. So this is my first time ever being interested in someone that lost interest, and it's weird because a week ago he was 5x more interested in me than I was in him. At least we dated while my car was broken so I made him pick me up from work every day
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Guys are always more interested in the guy that's not really into them. The minute you show them the slightest bit of interest they vanish. This guy will be back though but you should definitely ignore him when he does.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by LionH3art
Going to the movies with the guy you dated a month but wants to be just friends because 'he wasn't in love'... Yay or nay?
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NAY these guys are so annoying. He just does this because of his guilt that he ''hurt'' you...this friendship wont last long anyway
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by montrealxo
op: if you really feel like it's moving too fast then tell him you want to slow it down. it's on him if he can't be patient with you. especially if you were up front about just getting out of a relationship. do what's in your own best interest. it's only been a month. you don't owe him anything
my own problem is the type of guys I like. I always attract/go after hood guys. I try to date nice, professional, upstanding guys but I always end up bored. not that hood dudes treat me bad or anything, but most of the time they're super dl and I know it's not leading anywhere, but it's exciting and their mannerisms are so sexy. plus free weed. I think I just need to be patient and single until I find an edgy good guy (if they exist)
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You are definitely the problem in this situation. You need to sort yourself out. Guys aren't like a TV show that you drop after things get "boring". Boring people get bored.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by *-ChriZ-*
I legitimately HATE when people believe it's flirty to wait HOURS until texting back.
Fyi, it's not. It's just super annoying unless you have a reason to do so.There's no need to text 24/7, but I hate when they read the messages and decide to answer like 12+ hours later with no good reason.
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You'd hate me because I will typically wait hours to text a guy back.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Buddy
My bf of 2 months is/was the cutest thing ever. He connects with me like no other. However, last week his friends game him the idea to get an ear ring. Not ear rings. Ear ring. Just one. I don't know what it is, but that is WILDLY unattractive to me. It can make the most attractive person in the world unattractive and even slimy to me.
I didn't think he was going to get it, but he did. I showed up to hang out with him with my best friends who had never met him and he had this hoop ear ring in on the gay side I couldn't look at him. I avoided him actually and barely talked to him. I ended up getting super high and it only made things worse. It was so uncomfortable for me.
I know this sounds so superficial, but since that night I haven't been able to get it out of my mind. When I think of him, it's not the same giddiness I used to get. I think of the ear ring, and I feel sliminess. I thought I completely understood him, but I cannot understand what went on in his head to make him get that ear ring. He told me he won't wear it in front of me anymore, but I don't want him to wear it at all. I want him to take it out, let it heal, and for me to try to wash this out of my memory
This situation is just so unfortunate, like, I am able to look past so much oddity, physical and mental. Even if he was missing fingers or something I would be able to look past that. I'm willing to look past so damn much, but for some reason I can't get passed this.
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Maybe he is not for you. Maybe you are focused own the wrong things. Its hard enough to find a guy you like....but you are willing to through away something good over something petty. You should've told him he looks great without the earring. Don't tell him that you just hate earrings as it comes off as a challenge to his free will and he will deliberately keep it around longer simply because you don't like it. If you are willing to throw away something good over something like that you're going to have a hard time finding a relationship down the line.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Rigalo
So I've been talking to this guys for a few weeks, we met on tinder but he's still in the closet and he was VERY scared to meet me, it's honestly sad. But anyways he finally came over this weekend and we like made out or whatever but I just don't know if he is my tea idk what to do. He's cute and very nice but kind of awkward and a little strange (not necessarily on a bad way) just not really the type that I'm attracted to. UGH
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Don't go out with him again. How hard is that?
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Yes, that's what I think too. My boyfriend reassures me that he completely over his ex. In fact he hates him for cheating. But still
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You don't believe him. Therefore you have to go with your gut.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by LionH3art
Going to the movies with the guy you dated a month but wants to be just friends because 'he wasn't in love'... Yay or nay?
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Or you could spend time with someone who likes you. Were you guys "friends"? If so, then go out with him as friends and make him stick to a friendship without benefits.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Adonis
You don't believe him. Therefore you have to go with your gut.
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I think I am the one who's being pessimist here I can see that he's being serious with me when he says he's ready for new relationship since last 2 months
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Adonis
Guys are always more interested in the guy that's not really into them. The minute you show them the slightest bit of interest they vanish. This guy will be back though but you should definitely ignore him when he does.
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You basically told the future Last weekend he texted me wanting to hook up and I told him no, and once I said no he wouldn't STOP texting me the entire weekend begging for me to see him and I just shut him DOWN. I felt so powerful but yeah I'm over him now
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by Costea
I've literally never has a girlfriend. You know, i used to hate the concept of friendzone and i used to think it's something losers invented but i'm kinda stuck in the friendzone lol. There is this one girl and we are like best friends but she is obsessed with Harry Styles and thinks i'm ugly. So i am kind of trying to find an actual girlfriend but i have literally no experience with anything. It doesn't ruin my life but it's one of those things that annoy me. And i dont think i've ever truly been in love with someone (i like the presence of that woman but it's not like i dream about her or anything). i liked a lot of girls physically (and one guy in my class (**** he's so goddamn hot but so dumb ))
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if my experience with relationships is true, you haven't been really in love with someone until you've been in a long-term relationship with them. the feeling is just different. it's hard to explain.
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Originally posted by Adonis
Block all communication of his for six months.
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i'm trying to do this lately too but it's so hard. i was dating a guy for a year and a half and our relationship was really great and felt so good...but it ended up declining and we broke up about a year ago, and since then he's said he wants to be friends with me and that's fine, but then he started ignoring me half the time and being rude to me a lot. and i want to just stop talking to him and tell him to **** off, but then when i feel like i'm about to, he sends me another message. and i'm really bad at resisting that kind of temptation, so i always end up replying, and we have a good fun day together, and then the whole cycle just starts over again.
letting go is really, really hard. all of you should remember that when choosing who to be in a long-term relationship with.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by accelgors
i'm trying to do this lately too but it's so hard. i was dating a guy for a year and a half and our relationship was really great and felt so good...but it ended up declining and we broke up about a year ago, and since then he's said he wants to be friends with me and that's fine, but then he started ignoring me half the time and being rude to me a lot. and i want to just stop talking to him and tell him to **** off, but then when i feel like i'm about to, he sends me another message. and i'm really bad at resisting that kind of temptation, so i always end up replying, and we have a good fun day together, and then the whole cycle just starts over again.
letting go is really, really hard. all of you should remember that when choosing who to be in a long-term relationship with.
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I think you should totally cut him out, at least for a while. My view on things is there's a reason the relationship failed and I try to move on from people and things that failed me. My first ex I had to go 5 months without any form of communication and eventually we were able to become true friends, and still are years later without any sort of lingering feelings there. With both of my other exes I realized there was no way we could be friends without something coming up so I just cut them out completely with no contact. It's hard at first but eventually it's for the better, it's really helped me move on from them with no remorse.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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My boyfriend put shirtless photos as his profile picture? Should I be concerned?
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 6,332
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Originally posted by Donquizote
My boyfriend put shirtless photos as his profile picture? Should I be concerned?
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this would bother the **** out of me and make me think he's looking for attention somewhere a lot of ppl are going to say it isn't a big deal, but doesn't listen to them. if it's concerning you, say something.
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Member Since: 6/29/2012
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Originally posted by M A R N ★
straight guys have problems too
im a female so I can get guys really easily just im fussy and i will only go for the good looking ones but I heard its hard for guys to get get 2 or 3 likes back.
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Easy for you to say that. Being straight and female does not make it easy to get guys
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Member Since: 8/12/2007
Posts: 15,237
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Originally posted by moonlight.
2016 has barely really started and i've already been in 7 relationships
this one guy i started talking to like on Monday and everything was going good, we were moving really fast but we would talk on the phone (among other things) and it was great. we were supposed to hang out friday but cancelled. then today but he wasn't replying back to my texts then after the 50th text he replied 'What up'
.... like???
i just deleted our text thread and everything of him from my phone. and the fact that he was SO HOT, grown (he was 26), had his **** together (i'm sure it was all a lie now), verse, and just truly my match... i'm kinda hurt & bothered by it.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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7 relationships? #shedontloveherself
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
Posts: 7,343
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Originally posted by that G.U.Y.
Im dating a 58 yr old. He gives me money, takes me out, and wants to pay for my school.
Great right?
The problem is he wants to have sex all the time. I come up with excuses and he believes me. Last week he said that if i dont have sex with him he wont continue the relationship, so i told him to **** off i dont need him.
Well now he is calling me telling me that its ok he doesnt want sex he just wants to be with me. Im conflicted because i want to keep using him for his money (think "Money, Power, Glory" by lana del rey) but i know he is going to try to make some moves on me and i dont want to knock this old man out cold for trying to get the goods.
Why cant a young rich man want me instead of these old pervs
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I'm screaming
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Donquizote
My boyfriend put shirtless photos as his profile picture? Should I be concerned?
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Depends on the context.. if its a shirtless selfie then yes you should because he is probably craving the attention of other males.
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
Posts: 7,343
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Originally posted by moonlight.
2016 has barely really started and i've already been in 7 relationships
this one guy i started talking to like on Monday and everything was going good, we were moving really fast but we would talk on the phone (among other things) and it was great. we were supposed to hang out friday but cancelled. then today but he wasn't replying back to my texts then after the 50th text he replied 'What up'
.... like???
i just deleted our text thread and everything of him from my phone. and the fact that he was SO HOT, grown (he was 26), had his **** together (i'm sure it was all a lie now), verse, and just truly my match... i'm kinda hurt & bothered by it.
my problem with dating is that guys can go from talking to you EVERYDAY then go to avoiding you and never talking to you again, without a single damn trace.
it's so.. ugh.
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Giiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Not a shirtless photo as his twitter profile
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