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Discussion: Coming Out Support
Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Cyanide
I finally responded to her. What do you guys think?
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Great response. I know you're in a difficult situation, but you're willing to stand your ground. 
I hope your mom can change her views, but in the end it's your life. Then again, I understand how important a good relationship with your mom is.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by abrahamjmr
See what that Pharaoh user is posting, encouraging hate between the OP and his mum.  |
First of all, @ me. Second of all, I'm not trying to ''encourage hate between the OP and his mum'', I'm just stating my thoughts on her ideals and opinions. Shoo.
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Originally posted by Cyanide
I finally responded to her. What do you guys think?
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I think that was a great response, sis.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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OP I love your response
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Why is this thread reported?
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Member Since: 11/24/2006
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What a disrespect to your mom posting this. Allowing members to insult her and more.
I'm disgusted.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by MrDeeds
What a disrespect to your mom posting this. Allowing members to insult her and more.
I'm disgusted.
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Oh shush it. The only reason you'd be ''offended'' by this, is because you most certainly agree with her viewpoints yourself. I've seen your - cringy - anti-liberal!11 posts. Bet you're the one who reported the thread too.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Cyanide
I finally responded to her. What do you guys think?
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Yaaas
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Thank you so much for your support everyone. Since my last post, her and I have basically been going back and fourth about how we feel, and she's stopped answering for now so hopefully that means she's taking the time to consider what I'm saying and reflect. She's going to come to New York on Monday so that her and I can speak in person. Sitting here watching Prayers For Bobby thinking that this could easily be me. Now I understand so much more why a lot of gay men engage in self-destructive behaviors and find themselves lost in the community. I can't believe that each and every one of us have to deal with this shame and loneliness, to different extents of course, but the negative effects on the psyche and self-esteem must hit us all to some extent no matter what, even if we think we're above it like I thought I was for so long.....
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Originally posted by MrDeeds
What a disrespect to your mom posting this. Allowing members to insult her and more.
I'm disgusted.
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You didn't read the thread clearly, so why even post? Log out and go back to ****ing your sisterwife
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Member Since: 4/4/2014
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As a Christian myself, I can say your mom's reaction was great. She's going to love you regardless of your choices, but she'll NEVER be okay with you being gay, just as she will never be okay with you being a thief, adulterer, idolater, or identifying yourself with any other sin. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she will. She'll likely pray for you everyday too, as will I.
Your old enough to make your own decision and your own CHOICES, and that includes choosing to be gay.
Same same attraction ≠ being gay, nor it is a sin. You can't control that.
Same sex attraction + ACTING on that attraction = Being gay. This is a sin, and requires a choice.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Good luck on Monday, OP 
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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Originally posted by Bad Blood
She doesn't love you sis... No matter how close she is to you, you need to keep toxic people like her out of your life. You deserve an accepting environment and not her.
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This is true. I personally went through the same thing and it was either stay and feel like **** or leave and never return. A weight was lifted off my shoulders and only happy tears ran down my face. Listen to your instincts. you will know what to do when the time is right. My way was to leave. Your way can be different. Just explore all your options before jumping to a decision
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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@Cyanide Incredible and moving response
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Originally posted by Cyanide
Thank you so much for your support everyone. Since my last post, her and I have basically been going back and fourth about how we feel, and she's stopped answering for now so hopefully that means she's taking the time to consider what I'm saying and reflect. She's going to come to New York on Monday so that her and I can speak in person. Sitting here watching Prayers For Bobby thinking that this could easily be me. Now I understand so much more why a lot of gay men engage in self-destructive behaviors and find themselves lost in the community. I can't believe that each and every one of us have to deal with this shame and loneliness, to different extents of course, but the negative effects on the psyche and self-esteem must hit us all to some extent no matter what, even if we think we're above it like I thought I was for so long.....
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by loveless
As a Christian myself, I can say your mom's reaction was great. She's going to love you regardless of your choices, but she'll NEVER be okay with you being gay, just as she will never be okay with you being a thief, adulterer, idolater, or identifying yourself with any other sin. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she will. She'll likely pray for you everyday too, as will I.
Your old enough to make your own decision and your own CHOICES, and that includes choosing to be gay.
Same same attraction ≠ being gay, nor it is a sin. You can't control that.
Same sex attraction + ACTING on that attraction = Being gay. This is a sin, and requires a choice.
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slightly shook
Why are you on a forum full of gays? Don't make the OP feel worse than he already does. It's hard enough to come out, without people telling you that engaging in intercourse with someone you love is a sin and making them feel awful
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by loveless
As a Christian myself, I can say your mom's reaction was great. She's going to love you regardless of your choices, but she'll NEVER be okay with you being gay, just as she will never be okay with you being a thief, adulterer, idolater, or identifying yourself with any other sin. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she will. She'll likely pray for you everyday too, as will I.
Your old enough to make your own decision and your own CHOICES, and that includes choosing to be gay.
Same same attraction ≠ being gay, nor it is a sin. You can't control that.
Same sex attraction + ACTING on that attraction = Being gay. This is a sin, and requires a choice.
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Delete your existence.
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Member Since: 4/4/2014
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Originally posted by loveless
As a Christian myself, I can say your mom's reaction was great. She's going to love you regardless of your choices, but she'll NEVER be okay with you being gay, just as she will never be okay with you being a thief, adulterer, idolater, or identifying yourself with any other sin. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she will. She'll likely pray for you everyday too, as will I.
Your old enough to make your own decision and your own CHOICES, and that includes choosing to be gay.
Same same attraction ≠ being gay, nor it is a sin. You can't control that.
Same sex attraction + ACTING on that attraction = Being gay. This is a sin, and requires a choice.
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Impose your archaic beliefs elsewhere, seriously. You don't know how bad these lies could damage someone going through a coming out process. I hope you get permabanned.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by JessLM
Impose your archaic beliefs elsewhere, seriously. You don't know how bad these lies could damage someone going through a coming out process. I hope you get permabanned.
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THIS.
I tried to be tolerant, but what "Loveless" said was just ridiculous, especially since it was towards someone who just came out and is struggling.
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Member Since: 4/4/2014
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Originally posted by KiiPopHunty
slightly shook
Why are you on a forum full of gays? Don't make the OP feel worse than he already does. It's hard enough to come out, without people telling you that engaging in intercourse with someone you love is a sin and making them feel awful |
Truth is truth regardless of feeling. The fact that his mother is willing to tell him something that he doesn't want to hear is proof that she does love him; it shows that she cares. I would encourage the OP to do exactly what he's asking his mother to do. Listen to her the same way you want her to listen to you. You may not want to hear her arguments against homosexuality, but the truth is she may not want to hear your arguments for it. I think your convo with your mom would go great if both of you are willing to hear the other person out and be willing to agree to disagree if neither are persuaded in the end. Your mom loves you and you love your mom. Don't let people on this site convince you otherwise.
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Member Since: 6/24/2012
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Originally posted by loveless
As a Christian myself, I can say your mom's reaction was great. She's going to love you regardless of your choices, but she'll NEVER be okay with you being gay, just as she will never be okay with you being a thief, adulterer, idolater, or identifying yourself with any other sin. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she will. She'll likely pray for you everyday too, as will I.
Your old enough to make your own decision and your own CHOICES, and that includes choosing to be gay.
Same same attraction ≠ being gay, nor it is a sin. You can't control that.
Same sex attraction + ACTING on that attraction = Being gay. This is a sin, and requires a choice.
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Living in the 15th century. 
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Member Since: 6/24/2012
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Originally posted by Cyanide
Pharoah, for someone who is in here acting so sure of themselves, why can't you understand the circumstances and realize that this is an initial reaction? Why are you saying these things when you don't care to understand the context or have empathy? You and other users posting similar things should stop posting here, please please please! I'm just looking for support and understanding, not for people who think they know everything to make judgments about my mother and myself. Bye
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