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Discussion: Hand in Hand (Personal Help Thread)
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I have allot of things to say... 
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Originally posted by Scheisse
I have such a long story about how my sister was basically brainwashed by a boyfriend and its been 2 years and doesn't speak to ANY of her family. He dumped her and brought her to these crazy people where she is staying now. They ban her from having any contact with us and she believes that the psycho boyfriend who did this to her will come back to her (HE'S ENGAGED NOW). Its crazy because she was absolutley perfect her whole life. Never once did i EVER think this could happen to her. She turns 27 July 5th. I want to explain it in depth, but im actually writing a book/memoir about it  because it's so crazy. I'll post it in here when im done.
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Oh gosh, that sounds crazy. Have you tried talking with your sister? Or have you been completely unable to? I can't even imagine how difficult it must be. 
And no need to worry about being a downer. 
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HEW LAWD I will be IN this thread a lot.
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We're here for ya. 
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I have allot of things to say... |
Feel free to vent. 
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Originally posted by (Cole)
Oh gosh, that sounds crazy. Have you tried talking with your sister? Or have you been completely unable to? I can't even imagine how difficult it must be.
And no need to worry about being a downer.
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There were about 5 times in between the 2 years where she came back and we thought she was back to normal but it didnt work out. The first time was when she was still dating him (spring 2010). We knew where she was this one night and visited her and brought her to dinner. she said (i quote) "I missed you all so much, and i don't want to have to live a double life and sneak to talk to you because steve (the bf) hates you" She also said "i'm going to talk to him tonight, he's a tough nut to crack" and we though it would be good. He dumped her the next morning. SHe came back to us, went out with her friends and was happy. Then he has his mother call her and lure her back to him. She went back together and out of nowhere hated us again.
But the Most RECENT event was in january. She met a new guy who was so nice. He heard the story and told her how important family is and she decided to move back home. Everything was great, but the crazy people who her ex brought her to brainwashed her again into not coming home. She is in MEGA DEBT and my parents gave her about 5,000 DOLLARS from january to february (2 months). The BF dumped her for not talking to her family and now we're here. Her life is falling apart and its not normal that she doesn't come home (when she lived her up until she was 25). My parents have said they would take care of all her bills and help her. ugh
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Member Since: 8/17/2010
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Originally posted by Scheisse
There were about 5 times in between the 2 years where she came back and we thought she was back to normal but it didnt work out. The first time was when she was still dating him (spring 2010). We knew where she was this one night and visited her and brought her to dinner. she said (i quote) "I missed you all so much, and i don't want to have to live a double life and sneak to talk to you because steve (the bf) hates you" She also said "i'm going to talk to him tonight, he's a tough nut to crack" and we though it would be good. He dumped her the next morning. SHe came back to us, went out with her friends and was happy. Then he has his mother call her and lure her back to him. She went back together and out of nowhere hated us again.
But the Most RECENT event was in january. She met a new guy who was so nice. He heard the story and told her how important family is and she decided to move back home. Everything was great, but the crazy people who her ex brought her to brainwashed her again into not coming home. She is in MEGA DEBT and my parents gave her about 5,000 DOLLARS from january to february (2 months). The BF dumped her for not talking to her family and now we're here. Her life is falling apart and its not normal that she doesn't come home (when she lived her up until she was 25). My parents have said they would take care of all her bills and help her. ugh
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Gosh.
It must be so stressful...
It sounds like someone really just needs to get through to your sister, however that may be; it seems like she doesn't really understand all the hurt she's causing in the people around her (regardless of whether or not it's "her fault"). It's good that your parents are willing to help her, though...shows her that people care about her.
I bet a lot of attention has been put on this situation with your sister, and other things have been neglected; again, I can't imagine how difficult it must be.
Nevertheless... 
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Lost.
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About?
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Lost.
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...on the path of life?
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About? |
Something involving this guy I like. It's super complicated. Basically, I fell in love with a guy who I thought liked me back, but it turned out that he was leading me on and actually likes a different girl. I talked to him and told him everything so that I could get it off my chest, and he told me that he still considered me to be someone important to him and told me all this other sweet stuff. Yet his recent actions don't reflect that.
He knows I'm kind of mad at him so tomorrow I have to tell him everything.
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Originally posted by (Cole)
Gosh.
It must be so stressful...
It sounds like someone really just needs to get through to your sister, however that may be; it seems like she doesn't really understand all the hurt she's causing in the people around her (regardless of whether or not it's "her fault"). It's good that your parents are willing to help her, though...shows her that people care about her.
I bet a lot of attention has been put on this situation with your sister, and other things have been neglected; again, I can't imagine how difficult it must be.
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YES. My mom said today "I'm sure she will come through and it will all work out in the end". I just want it to work out for their sake. I don't want to know what it's like to raise someone for 25 years and then have them turn their back on you. 
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
Something involving this guy I like. It's super complicated. Basically, I fell in love with a guy who I thought liked me back, but it turned out that he was leading me on and actually likes a different girl. I talked to him and
told him everything so that I could get it off my chest, and he told me that he still considered me to be someone important to him and told me all this other sweet stuff. Yet his recent actions don't reflect that.
He knows I'm kind of mad at him so tomorrow I have to tell him everything. |
Wow, I'm sorry
I definitely know how that feels. He probably feels really guilty about his actions, and took out any frustration on you because he knows you like him
EDIT: meaning, he isn't afraid of losing you
Be careful when talking to him. Don't say anything rash because you're in the moment. Remember how much you mean to each other.
I hope this conversation goes well tomorrow
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I've been so disappointed with myself especially since high school. Age 11(starting with my brother dying) to 17 have been the worst years of my life. Hopefully senior year will be better. 
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Am so tired of pretending to be straight. Like..
I'm also tired of people in my family trying to negro-fy me. Like my aunts boyfriend saw my laptop and saw my itunes which is like mostly Beyonce, Pop and K-Pop. He started giving me CDs of rappers, I should start listening to. Of course I added them, like what else could I do? Ch..when he left I deleted that ****, except J Cole, some of his stuff knocks.  Anyways, I don't use rap that much and I don't dress like a stereotypical black person. These broke ass bums need to realize that. I remember my uncle telling my mom she should buy me new shorts because my current ones go above me kneecap and only slightly above. Child.....I got 2 more years of this ******** left, then I will work on becoming financially stable, then I'm cursin' every mother****er in my family out and telling them I'm gay.
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Originally posted by Scheisse
There were about 5 times in between the 2 years where she came back and we thought she was back to normal but it didnt work out. The first time was when she was still dating him (spring 2010). We knew where she was this one night and visited her and brought her to dinner. she said (i quote) "I missed you all so much, and i don't want to have to live a double life and sneak to talk to you because steve (the bf) hates you" She also said "i'm going to talk to him tonight, he's a tough nut to crack" and we though it would be good. He dumped her the next morning. SHe came back to us, went out with her friends and was happy. Then he has his mother call her and lure her back to him. She went back together and out of nowhere hated us again.
But the Most RECENT event was in january. She met a new guy who was so nice. He heard the story and told her how important family is and she decided to move back home. Everything was great, but the crazy people who her ex brought her to brainwashed her again into not coming home. She is in MEGA DEBT and my parents gave her about 5,000 DOLLARS from january to february (2 months). The BF dumped her for not talking to her family and now we're here. Her life is falling apart and its not normal that she doesn't come home (when she lived her up until she was 25). My parents have said they would take care of all her bills and help her. ugh
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I don't like your sister, how can she be so selfish? She is too old for that stuff 
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
Something involving this guy I like. It's super complicated. Basically, I fell in love with a guy who I thought liked me back, but it turned out that he was leading me on and actually likes a different girl. I talked to him and told him everything so that I could get it off my chest, and he told me that he still considered me to be someone important to him and told me all this other sweet stuff. Yet his recent actions don't reflect that.
He knows I'm kind of mad at him so tomorrow I have to tell him everything. |
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A Ch..when he left I deleted that ****, except J Cole, some of his stuff knocks. Anyways, |
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Originally posted by Auraeolus
I've been so disappointed with myself especially since high school. Age 11(starting with my brother dying) to 17 have been the worst years of my life. Hopefully senior year will be better. |
I commend your attitude 
So strong. Just remember you are NEVER alone.
I'm so sorry about your brother's passing.
My philosophy is once you've hit rock bottom, there is no where to go but up.
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Originally posted by Deuces.
Am so tired of pretending to be straight. Like..
I'm also tired of people in my family trying to negro-fy me. Like my aunts boyfriend saw my laptop and saw my itunes which is like mostly Beyonce, Pop and K-Pop. He started giving me CDs of rappers, I should start listening to. Of course I added them, like what else could I do? Ch..when he left I deleted that ****, except J Cole, some of his stuff knocks. Anyways, I don't use rap that much and I don't dress like a stereotypical black person. These broke ass bums need to realize that. I remember my uncle telling my mom she should buy me new shorts because my current ones go above me kneecap and only slightly above. Child.....I got 2 more years of this ******** left, then I will work on becoming financially stable, then I'm cursin' every mother****er in my family out and telling them I'm gay. |
Did you get any Drake, though? 
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Did you get any Drake, though? |
Girl I've been listening to Drake ever since Best I Ever Had. I listen to some rap like Jay Z and Kanye, Lupe Fiasco, and some Eminem. But he was giving me Rick Ross, Ace Hood, and other ghetto hoodlums.
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Member Since: 10/28/2011
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Originally posted by Deuces.
Am so tired of pretending to be straight. Like..
I'm also tired of people in my family trying to negro-fy me. Like my aunts boyfriend saw my laptop and saw my itunes which is like mostly Beyonce, Pop and K-Pop. He started giving me CDs of rappers, I should start listening to. Of course I added them, like what else could I do? Ch..when he left I deleted that ****, except J Cole, some of his stuff knocks. Anyways, I don't use rap that much and I don't dress like a stereotypical black person. These broke ass bums need to realize that. I remember my uncle telling my mom she should buy me new shorts because my current ones go above me kneecap and only slightly above. Child.....I got 2 more years of this ******** left, then I will work on becoming financially stable, then I'm cursin' every mother****er in my family out and telling them I'm gay. |
Keep your mouth SHUT. 
Tell them that you don't need to fit into these stereotypes though. 
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
Keep your mouth SHUT.
Tell them that you don't need to fit into these stereotypes though. |
Those narrow minded bums will think because I don't want to listen to rap and I don't wear baggy clothes, that I'm gay. And they wonder why I'm quiet. I'm quiet because if I open my mouth feelings will get hurt.
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