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Discussion: Is it racist to not be attracted to a certain race?
Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by memi stan
They were adopted into a white family though. They have appreciation for their culture and have visited where they were born but they have never really experienced their culture.
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Say no more. I now understand why they don't find Asians attractive.
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Member Since: 6/24/2011
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Sorry... I'm just not attracted to black guys.
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Member Since: 9/22/2011
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Originally posted by memi stan
You're acting like it's unusual to not be attracted to Asian guys?????? It's pretty commen. Sad but true.
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And why is that? 
Why do people just accept these ridiculous ideas as the truth without even considering the reasons and social structures behind it? What sort of intellectual laziness is at work?
Asian men have been routinely either ignored or desexualized in the media, reduced to either stereotype or comic relief (usually both) in mainstream culture. Is it any surprise why Asian men are rarely considered viable sexual partners outside of Asian fetishizers (who are only attracted to Asians based on other culturally propagated stereotypes)?
Realize that the media, society and culture are the primary sources of our sexual "preferences." The ideas of race that we're exposed to in western culture have been put in us since we could stare at a screen long enough to know that Asians are ridiculous, sexless dorks, black guys were aggressive and dangerous, and white people were the default and were therefore most capable of personal expression while everyone else was a minority caricature. These stereotypes and ignorant values we've seen at every turn have translated into these equally limited and close-minded "preferences" you refuse to question or examine.
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Member Since: 8/24/2008
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Originally posted by QueenBLadyG
Say no more. I now understand why they don't find Asians attractive.
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Member Since: 5/25/2010
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Originally posted by QueenBLadyG
Say no more. I now understand why they don't find Asians attractive.
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Originally posted by Summer
Sorry... I'm just not attracted to black guys.
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
I must admit, I side-eye all Black people who tell me "I don't date Black girls/guys." I can't stand behind this 100%, but... ...it's just really suspicious.  |
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Originally posted by Callisto.
Not necessarily I don't think, it's just preference
however I don't really see how that's possible.
There's attractive people of all races.
Now if you do't find people of your own racist attractive then there has to be some deep rooted issue with yourself. |
Let's say a black guy, in the span of 6 years, has had nothing but bad experiences with dating black women (let's say he's been with 7 black women in 6 years). He dates a white woman for the first time on year 7 -- and it was an INSTANT success. Although his first relationship with the white woman ended amicably, it was a great relationship and he doesn't regret it. But now, this black guy loves white women and decides that maybe black women isn't for him, solely due to his experiences. Does that make him a racist, self-loathing black guy? Or just a regular guy, like any other guy, who now has a preference?
...Vin
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Member Since: 4/23/2011
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Yes. Of course everyone has their preferences, but when someone genuinely believes that every person from a race is unattractive there's something wrong. A lot of people don't usually go for [insert gender] of [insert ethnicity], but they'll admit it when they see an attractive person no matter what their ethnicity is.
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Originally posted by memi stan
My cousins are Asian and don't find Asian men attractive. So that makes them racist against their own race???
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Why are you even trying trying this? It's common knowledge that self-hate and white worship is rampant among Asians. It's just like how some gay men always undermine other gays and claim straight men are the only ones who are attractive.
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Originally posted by RiRi_Xtina15
No. Everyone has a preference. I personally don't find Asian men, middle eastern guys attractive  does that make me racist ? No. It just means they're not my type. |
So you're saying these these Middle Eastern men aren't attractive? I doubt it. The Mediterranean type of look is popular:
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Member Since: 6/20/2012
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Originally posted by Vin
Let's say a black guy, in the span of 6 years, has had nothing but bad experiences with dating black women (let's say he's been with 7 black women in 6 years). He dates a white woman for the first time on year 7 -- and it was an INSTANT success. Although his first relationship with the white woman ended amicably, it was a great relationship and he doesn't regret it. But now, this black guy loves white women and decides that maybe black women isn't for him, solely due to his experiences. Does that make him a racist, self-loathing black guy? Or just a regular guy, like any other guy, who now has a preference?
...Vin |
So you're telling a story propagating that white women have inherent personalities that black women simply cannot possess and you're telling me that's not racist?
Sit the **** down, you have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. The "Sign Out" button is in the upper right corner.
...Ties
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Member Since: 6/24/2011
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Originally posted by Inverted
Yes. Of course everyone has their preferences, but when someone genuinely believes that every person from a race is unattractive there's something wrong. A lot of people don't usually go for [insert gender] of [insert ethnicity], but they'll admit it when they see an attractive person no matter what their ethnicity is.
Why are you even trying trying this? It's common knowledge that self-hate and white worship is rampant among Asians. It's just like some gay men always undermine other gay men and straight men are the only ones attractive.
So you're saying these these Middle Eastern men aren't attractive? I doubt it. The Mediterranean type of look is popular:
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YASS!!!
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Member Since: 6/9/2011
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Originally posted by BLaCKPoWeR
I must admit, I side-eye all Black people who tell me "I don't date Black girls/guys." I can't stand behind this 100%, but... ...it's just really suspicious. |
Black males who quickly write off black females and refuse to date them because they view them as "ghetto" are the worst. And they usually date white women because they find them more easy to control as opposed to a black woman who's more likely not to put up with his mess.
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Member Since: 12/30/2011
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Originally posted by Arking
And why is that?
Why do people just accept these ridiculous ideas as the truth without even considering the reasons and social structures behind it? What sort of intellectual laziness is at work?
Asian men have been routinely either ignored or desexualized in the media, reduced to either stereotype or comic relief (usually both) in mainstream culture. Is it any surprise why Asian men are rarely considered viable sexual partners outside of Asian fetishizers (who are only attracted to Asians based on other culturally propagated stereotypes)?
Realize that the media, society and culture are the primary sources of our sexual "preferences." The ideas of race that we're exposed to in western culture have been put in us since we could stare at a screen long enough to know that Asians are ridiculous, sexless dorks, black guys were aggressive and dangerous, and white people were the default and were therefore most capable of personal expression while everyone else was a minority caricature. These stereotypes and ignorant values we've seen at every turn have translated into these equally limited and close-minded "preferences" you refuse to question or examine. |
I'm not sayings its in any way fair. I just don't consider it racist either. I mean if they ended up finding someone of a race attractive but still didn't date them because they have decided they won't date a certain race then yea that's weird. But I think most would change their mind if they found a guy of that race they found attractive.
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Summer
Sorry... I'm just not attracted to black guys.
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nnnnnnn;'
A whole bunch of Paula's walking around acting like they aren't really racist! 
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Member Since: 8/24/2008
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Originally posted by Vin
Let's say a black guy, in the span of 6 years, has had nothing but bad experiences with dating black women (let's say he's been with 7 black women in 6 years). He dates a white woman for the first time on year 7 -- and it was an INSTANT success. Although his first relationship with the white woman ended amicably, it was a great relationship and he doesn't regret it. But now, this black guy loves white women and decides that maybe black women isn't for him, solely due to his experiences. Does that make him a racist, self-loathing black guy? Or just a regular guy, like any other guy, who now has a preference?
...Vin |
That's not an excuse bby that's a cop out.
He found that white woman good for him if he truly loves her
But bby at the end of the day he has not met every black woman in the world.
No matter what your experiences are you do not put people in a box because not everyone is the same.
That's no different from a white person hating black people
just because some people are ignorant wild apes that need to be caged
It's just not right bby
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Originally posted by Vin
Let's say a black guy, in the span of 6 years, has had nothing but bad experiences with dating black women (let's say he's been with 7 black women in 6 years). He dates a white woman for the first time on year 7 -- and it was an INSTANT success. Although his first relationship with the white woman ended amicably, it was a great relationship and he doesn't regret it. But now, this black guy loves white women and decides that maybe black women isn't for him, solely due to his experiences. Does that make him a racist, self-loathing black guy? Or just a regular guy, like any other guy, who now has a preference?
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He is wrong to believe that no Black woman is right for him. He was with 7 Black women and there are billions the world over. He does not know every Black woman in the world - probably not every Black woman in his community (unless there are only 7 Black women there). Now he probably thinks that all Black women... ... whatever.
There is nothing wrong with him dating a White woman. The issue here is WHY. His believing that Black women are not right for him and that White women are right for him is the equivalent of endorsing certain stereotypes about Black and White women.
He has developed a distaste for Black women based on a silly observation made from pitifully insufficient evidence. He has become a self-hating racist, yes. He believes something negative about all of his people.
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Member Since: 4/9/2012
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It's not racist if you have a preference . Everybody has a preference and you are attracted to what you like.
What is racist if someone thinks an entire race of people are ugly. Making a blanket statement like that would be prejudice because we all know there is beauty & ugliness in every color.
I must admit however that I do think it comes across as a bit self-loathing & whitewashed if a minority/person of color's only preference is white.
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These social issue threads are so much fun. 
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Originally posted by Ties
So you're telling a story propagating that white women have inherent personalities that black women simply cannot possess and you're telling me that's not racist?
Sit the **** down, you have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. The "Sign Out" button is in the upper right corner.
...Ties |
First you shouted at me with bolded caps, and now you're throwing swear words.
You really can't have a normal conversation without being civilized, no?
If the scenario is that offensive to you, then switch the scenario and answer the question.
i.e. Black man dated white women for 6 years, had bad experiences, and now
dates back women, etc. The example was was a simple study, and you
made it a definitive construct. Discern the two.
...Vin
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Member Since: 4/23/2011
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Originally posted by Vin
Let's say a black guy, in the span of 6 years, has had nothing but bad experiences with dating black women (let's say he's been with 7 black women in 6 years). He dates a white woman for the first time on year 7 -- and it was an INSTANT success. Although his first relationship with the white woman ended amicably, it was a great relationship and he doesn't regret it. But now, this black guy loves white women and decides that maybe black women isn't for him, solely due to his experiences. Does that make him a racist, self-loathing black guy? Or just a regular guy, like any other guy, who now has a preference?
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Is that exactly how most racists justify the things they say or believe?
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Member Since: 6/24/2011
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In all seriousness, it IS racist to say that all black people (insert any race) are ugly. However, it is NOT racist to have a preference.
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Member Since: 6/20/2012
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Originally posted by Vin
First you shouted at me with bolded caps, and now you're throwing swear words.
You really can't have a normal conversation without being civilized, no?
If the scenario is that offensive to you, then switch the scenario and answer the question.
i.e. Black man dated white women for 6 years, had bad experiences, and now
dates back women, etc. The example was was a simple study, and you
made it a definitive construct. Discern the two.
...Vin |
I mean, only with the constant barrage of sentences constructed to place yourself above this moral high that only you can reach. As if you using the terms you found from Thesaurus.com and attempting to patronize me with your pseudo intelligence is any better than me throwing a few swear words around.
Except that analysis of yours does not hold up to criticism. He is not right to date white women purely because he had bad experiences with a few black women. He is making a judgment error because he is associating all black women as not dateable. In the event that him and the white girl break up, he's simply attempting to connect that experience based on her race, and not in the way that she acted towards him. Thus, the fetishizing occurs, and that is bad on his part.
There you go. Anymore?
...Ties
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