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Discussion: Your family's view on homosexuality
Member Since: 4/16/2011
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My parents always said stuff like 'One day, when you marry a girl, or a boy... bla bla'.
My mom was a flight attendant, so she was surrounded by gay co-workers like all the time. She told me she already knew I was gay when I told my parents.
It's good to see how supportive they are. I cba to tell the rest of my family, I'll just show up with a guy one day, instead of doing the whole coming out.
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Member Since: 3/23/2011
Posts: 4,436
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My mom thinks homosexuality is treatable.
Don't know what my dad thinks and I don't think I want to.
I won't come out, I'll just leave them and travel the world.
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Member Since: 2/15/2010
Posts: 26,154
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Originally posted by Ouz
My mom thinks homosexuality is treatable.
Don't know what my dad thinks and I don't think I want to.
I won't come out, I'll just leave them and travel the world.
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This except my dad would problably beat me up and or kill me if I told him and my mom would force me to move out.
Same on the last sentence.
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Member Since: 9/15/2004
Posts: 2,699
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My parents are very supportive of my sexuality. When I first came out, 5 years ago, my dad had some issues with it but that was very temporary. I think it just came as a shock for him. Now, my gay friends come over to the house and they get along with my parents very well.
Recently, I even discussed STD's with my parents, as one of my friends caught one. I never ever thought they'd be so open minded about that.
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Member Since: 6/3/2011
Posts: 14,194
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Relatives on my mother's side are ok with it, on my father's side it is the opposite. They hate gays to death. They hate everything actually. 
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Member Since: 12/1/2010
Posts: 23,572
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Being gay just isn't normal, or right, in my family. It's not supported, it's not condoned. Instead, it is a disappointment.
The younger people who have been exposed to gay people better understand it. The older people just have never been exposed to homosexuality to know it. It is very "foreign" to my family.
My mom really has no idea what it means to be gay. She's your typical homophobe. My mom only sees it as 'sleeping with men' and that I am choosing to be this way. She also thinks being gay means I want to be a girl She'll get over it though.
I don't really care for the opinions of my family though. I live my life successfully and happily as a gay guy. That's all that matters to me.
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Member Since: 6/5/2011
Posts: 3,159
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they think it's wrong.. unfortunately.
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Member Since: 12/13/2011
Posts: 12,192
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They don't care but if you are, you keep it on the DL or it's a hush hush kind of situation.
I still hear my mom say homophobic slangs like "...child he's gay" when referring to people on the TV.
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Member Since: 8/19/2011
Posts: 2,362
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Originally posted by MrPeanut
Long story, but basically my best friend/housemate ended up spilling the tea to my younger brother.  |
Oh okay, that seems tame compared to other ways they could have found out.
I'm sorry for you though. If I tell my parents, it'll be on my own terms, unlike that.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 28,420
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My mother approves of it and that's all that matters. She was a total f ag hag before I was even born, actually. 
My father is incarcerated so nobody cares about what he thinks.
As for the rest of my family...
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
Posts: 29,225
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My mom hates gays.  I'm not too sure about my dad but I have a feeling he will be the only person who can deal with it, when I come out. My mom....ch....I won't even.
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Member Since: 11/11/2009
Posts: 4,457
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Most of my family think Gay people should be put in a hospital to be cured (they actually had a conversation about it just the other day). Every time my mother sees a gay couple she makes a throwing up sound on purpose.
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Member Since: 2/3/2012
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My family is conservative Christian, so yeah. But at least they're more of the "hate the sin, not the sinner" variety, not that it makes it okay either way. They don't really vocalize anything when they see a gay couple on tv or in the news, but they probably roll their eyes. Oh well.
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Member Since: 6/7/2009
Posts: 15,638
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My father and my brother used to hate homosexuals but they're fine with it now because I came out and told them how much they've hurt me. My mother have a gay best friend so she's cool.
However, my father and brother would still cringe, roll their eyes, make a disgusted face if they see two guys together in public or on television. My family is still clueless about homosexuality because they keep asking me why there are more gay people as opposed to the past and why gay people were gay. Just no. 
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Member Since: 4/15/2011
Posts: 1,692
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For Republicans, my parents are pretty cool with people being gay.
I mean the crack jokes about the flamers but they crack jokes about everyone.
They don't care if they get married and aren't really prejudiced or anything.
My cousin is gay and they have always been accepting.
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Member Since: 4/10/2012
Posts: 14,915
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My dad says all gays should be thrown into a pit and lit on fire.
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Member Since: 6/4/2010
Posts: 38,919
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They don't really care even though I have loads of religious people in my family. My uncle is a pastor and owns his own church and even he is fine with it. My family is not the kind to be stuck in their ways. They embrace change. My dad told me he experimented with men before and my mom is a huge *** hag.
The only person in my family that has expressed negative views surrounding gays is my grandfather. Ugh he is so 
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Member Since: 11/4/2006
Posts: 37,808
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My mom, dad and grandma seem okay with it, but I can't say the same for my extended family. Some of them are too old fashion and still stuck in the past. They still think homosexuality is a big deal and they act shocked when someone is gay like it's the 50s. I'm like this is 2012, get it together. Gay people are common now, it's not that shocking anymore.
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Member Since: 6/13/2011
Posts: 11,601
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Originally posted by Drais•▲iko
They don't really care even though I have loads of religious people in my family. My uncle is a pastor and owns his own church and even he is fine with it. My family is not the kind to be stuck in their ways. They embrace change. My dad told me he experimented with men before and my mom is a huge *** hag.
The only person in my family that has expressed negative views surrounding gays is my grandfather. Ugh he is so
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My grandfather doesn't bluntly say he hates gays, but he tries to be slick by giving hints through talking about marriage
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Originally posted by Entalan
Ugh... this thread.
 Coming out storyWhen I came out, my mom just got awkward for a second, then smiled and said "Okay" and hugged me, then jokingly added (after a long awkward pause) "Is there anything in particular you'd like us to do with this information?" 
My dad, though... he just sat there the whole time with his head in his hands. I knew something was up when he didn't even look up at me or say anything when I left the room, and god was I right. All night, I could hear him thumping around the house, taking pills, going to the bathroom... for a few absurd moments, it crossed my mind that he might try to kill me or himself.
The next day, I got up at noon and my mom was smiling and making macaroni salad like nothing happened, but my dad was nowhere to be found. It was unusual for him to be sleeping in that late, but I decided not to question it. But once I got back in my room and on my computer, I felt someone standing in the doorway, and there he was, sure enough. I pretended to jump in surprise and laughed, but he just said we needed to talk. That's when he started crying and going on about how he'll never have grandkids, about how there's no way I could possibly know, about how he won't tell anyone if I don't, begging me not to tell my best friend and telling me stories about how he and my mom had a friend with a lesbian daughter who got run out of town. I guess he was telling me all this to scare me out of being gay, the last attempt of a desperate man. Then he told me he was molested as a kid, and that we're going to need therapy for his sake, then left the room.
But that wasn't even the worst part; the worst part was the way he looked at me.
So I guess you could say my mom is in full support, and always has been, but my dad has had a hard time with it, to put it lightly. But he's come through, too....
My grandparents, though. She just called gay people "miserable" after saying she couldn't watch one of her favorite shows because an actor was gay. But that's no surprise... and frankly, I don't care. Now that my parents know, the rest of my family can **** right off, including all of my racist and homophobic aunts and uncles and my younger cousins whom they've brainwashed with bigotry.
You know, they always say that family is all we really have, but I don't buy that for a second. If your family is willing to abandon you for something as shallow as sexual orientation, then they aren't your family, they're just relatives, accidents of birth. No, I believe we can pick our own family from those who really care about and love us, blood related or not.
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I think he handled it well overall. If the opinions of a person in my family turn in to ignorance, there is not way I can see getting a long with them.
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Member Since: 10/4/2010
Posts: 5,607
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My mom loves the gays. She grew up in San Francisco for Christ's sake, she had gay best friends her whole life. She knew I was gay by the time I was like 3.  No joke
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