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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
Member Since: 11/18/2010
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It wasn't something someone said to me, but it was something I said/did that probably hurt the most. Back in January (of this year) I was going over to my boyfriends place to spend the night. I was of course drunk as usual. He also had a few of his friends over too for part of the night. Anyways, I had misplaced my phone and borrowed his to call mine to find it. I had accidentally called his sister instead... and when she asked me who I was.... I told her "I'm your brothers boyfriend." At that time his family didn't know he was gay.... and they didn't take the news very lightly either. I believe I hung up on her, and eventually gave up and decided to look for my phone in the morning... my next memory after that was laying on his couch. He came up to me and put a blanket over me, and the look on his face.... has haunted me for months. He was angry of course... but broke down when tell me he never wanted to see me again the next morning.
My best friend told me to not beat myself up over it, and that I wasn't myself that night.... and some good came out of it, and that I quit drinking. But, I don't think I will be able to forgive myself for along time. It goes against things I stand for - and that is outing people. Just the thought - that I could have been responible for him doing something wreckless like commiting suicide, or causing himself harm.... hasn't sat right. Even today.... it still stings that I ruined one of my best relationships. 
I generally don't let things other people say about me bother me. But when my own actions cause someone else that I care about greatly terrible pain & suffering..... it destroys me just as much.
Sorry for the long essay.
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
Posts: 29,225
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Originally posted by L/\DY G/\G/\
Its alright. They were right, I am a homo with a great boyfriend who has a big dick and might be taking my virginity next Friday
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Yes GERL!
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Member Since: 4/17/2011
Posts: 9,162
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Originally posted by satellites™
Is that why you judge other people so harshly, I kinda guessed you had internal issues from some of the things you say at times.
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Um, Most of the time i'm just kidding around. Who have I judged harshly on here?
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 28,420
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Some of these stories are so depressing. I feel bad that you guys have had to go through some of these things.
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Member Since: 12/4/2010
Posts: 37,894
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Originally posted by Beyond Say
Where I live the only thing black ppl wear is Aeropostale, Hollister, & American Eagle..
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This.
But for some reason, I'm the only one who get's called out for tryna act white. I don't know what it is, maybe it's the Brit accent, maybe it's the brains, I don't know what it is. I'm just gonna tell myself that a pig with lipstick is still a pig, and that's why them others don't get called out. 
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Originally posted by qwerty22
THIS. I know they aren't trying to be mean, but sometimes people take it a little too far.
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Exactly.
"Duude, you're the whitest black kid I know" is so damn annoying. Just ignorance.
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Member Since: 10/26/2010
Posts: 12,889
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ive gotten into 2 fights in highschool and I didnt start either one but I also aint let them beany head ass kids lay a finger on me and my nice ass clothes. one thing I cant take is physical altercation.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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By the way, Satellites and RyanC, I posted the long-ass story if you wanted to read it. 
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Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by Wildhope
that my sexual abuse was my fault and I caused it
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Oh **** 
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Member Since: 9/23/2009
Posts: 26,796
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Originally posted by BTrisc0392
I see Queen Leonsus has showed you the light.  |
True dat gorl. Queen Leona has showed me the light. 
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Originally posted by AlabasterFierce
omg boo 
I wouldve beat them guys up for you.
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Thanks so much boo.  ....I KNOW!!! That bitch left me out to dry.  She didn't even try to stop the fighting. 
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
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Originally posted by HollywoodForever
It wasn't something someone said to me, but it was something I said/did that probably hurt the most. Back in January (of this year) I was going over to my boyfriends place to spend the night. I was of course drunk as usual. He also had a few of his friends over too for part of the night. Anyways, I had misplaced my phone and borrowed his to call mine to find it. I had accidentally called his sister instead... and when she asked me who I was.... I told her "I'm your brothers boyfriend." At that time his family didn't know he was gay.... and they didn't take the news very lightly either. I believe I hung up on her, and eventually gave up and decided to look for my phone in the morning... my next memory after that was laying on his couch. He came up to me and put a blanket over me, and the look on his face.... has haunted me for months. He was angry of course... but broke down when tell me he never wanted to see me again the next morning.
My best friend told me to not beat myself up over it, and that I wasn't myself that night.... and some good came out of it, and that I quit drinking. But, I don't think I will be able to forgive myself for along time. It goes against things I stand for - and that is outing people. Just the thought - that I could have been responible for him doing something wreckless like commiting suicide, or causing himself harm.... hasn't sat right. Even today.... it still stings that I ruined one of my best relationships.
I generally don't let things other people say about me bother me. But when my own actions cause someone else that I care about greatly terrible pain & suffering..... it destroys me just as much.
Sorry for the long essay. |
Oh my God! I'm so sorry! 
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Member Since: 11/4/2006
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Personally, I never had that much friends so I never experienced name calling and bullying. But my girlfriend cheated on my me behind my back with my best friend. This was back in high school. This caused me to have issues with trusting people. I don't tell anyone my lifestory because they can use that against you and spread rumors. I always have my guard up everytime I meet someone because I don't trust them. I learn that not everyone is friend material .I have to get comfortable with you first. There are alot of backstabbers out there.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
Posts: 28,420
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Originally posted by qwerty22
Strangers are just like that, they don't know you. But neighbors? And family? WTF? **** them.
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Oh, yes. Many, many, many people around me aren't accepting of the fact that I am gay. It has never really bothered me, though, since I kind of knew going into it (coming out) that people would react to it differently. The only time that "******" ever pisses me off is when I'm already fired up and somebody uses it to try to send me over the edge. Like in February, I got into a huge fight with my stepfather over something stupid and he called me a "worthless ******" and said I should have ended my life when I had the chance, and I got all up in his face and cussed him out for a good 20 minutes. 
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Member Since: 4/20/2011
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Originally posted by RyanC
I'm a "dude" and "bro" kinda person. I throw like in a lot (spent a few years in the valley lol) and I was never urban enough for some folks. Some took that as a opening to try and **** with me. I'm 6'8"...I will **** you up. Don't let the calm demeanor fool you lol.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Originally posted by Hausofmonster
"You better not be gay"
.. SO, I'm still not 'out' the closet with my family. (LIke many of you  ) (The only one that 'knows' is my sister but I came out to her, when she was baking french fries  , but I came out as bi ) Its very hard to, especially when your family is based on Christian values/beliefs and believes in having 7+ children . But one time my mom picked me up at school and noticed my friend, who's gay, and asked me why I liked hanging out with those specific people (She's seen me hang out more than once) and blah, blah, blah. Basically the whole ride back home was about how i shouldn't let those 'types' of people influence the way i am and what not. And while she wasn't being completely discriminatory, I know she would be heartbroken, if I told her who i really am. But "You better not be gay" will haunt me till the day i come out, and what's more upsetting is, idk what that means she'll do if I told her  .
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Gurl we have the same dilemma, except your predicament is religious values from your parents, and mine is old fashion style from my parents.
I know my dad would kick me out of the house if I came out, but when I heard him say it out of his mouth -- that there was no "gay" in the family, they would be kicked out, it hurt.
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Member Since: 10/9/2008
Posts: 9,835
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Originally posted by satellites™
Oh hell no, I wish a bitch would.
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They were 2 big boys. The first time they join me on the way home and when we turn the corner....
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Originally posted by Chemist
Oh I was punched once, I was little *** back then |
Me too.
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Member Since: 8/8/2006
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Originally posted by L/\DY G/\G/\
Its alright. They were right, I am a homo with a great boyfriend who has a big dick and might be taking my virginity next Friday
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Yas Ryan get that dick
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Member Since: 11/10/2009
Posts: 19,215
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LEM did you unleash the rage on your homegurl? You should have thrown that guilt at her and made her feel like your pain was her fault. She would have owed you so many favors.
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
Posts: 29,225
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Originally posted by HollywoodForever
It wasn't something someone said to me, but it was something I said/did that probably hurt the most. Back in January (of this year) I was going over to my boyfriends place to spend the night. I was of course drunk as usual. He also had a few of his friends over too for part of the night. Anyways, I had misplaced my phone and borrowed his to call mine to find it. I had accidentally called his sister instead... and when she asked me who I was.... I told her "I'm your brothers boyfriend." At that time his family didn't know he was gay.... and they didn't take the news very lightly either. I believe I hung up on her, and eventually gave up and decided to look for my phone in the morning... my next memory after that was laying on his couch. He came up to me and put a blanket over me, and the look on his face.... has haunted me for months. He was angry of course... but broke down when tell me he never wanted to see me again the next morning.
My best friend told me to not beat myself up over it, and that I wasn't myself that night.... and some good came out of it, and that I quit drinking. But, I don't think I will be able to forgive myself for along time. It goes against things I stand for - and that is outing people. Just the thought - that I could have been responible for him doing something wreckless like commiting suicide, or causing himself harm.... hasn't sat right. Even today.... it still stings that I ruined one of my best relationships.
I generally don't let things other people say about me bother me. But when my own actions cause someone else that I care about greatly terrible pain & suffering..... it destroys me just as much.
Sorry for the long essay. |
Oh wow. I know that must have been hard on him and his family. His tea got spilled by his boyfriend. Sometimes what we say hurts more than what others say to us. I can name a few instance where I've said somethings..that hurt me as well as the other person.
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Member Since: 11/7/2010
Posts: 5,164
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Originally posted by ifyouseekLEM
We all go through hard things, but in the end...I wouldn't change it for the world. Our enemies make us stronger. Their words hurt, but I hope for many of us that we can change those words into strength. No pain, no gain.
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I honestly am truly sorry for what has happened to all of you
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Originally posted by HollywoodForever
It wasn't something someone said to me, but it was something I said/did that probably hurt the most. Back in January (of this year) I was going over to my boyfriends place to spend the night. I was of course drunk as usual. He also had a few of his friends over too for part of the night. Anyways, I had misplaced my phone and borrowed his to call mine to find it. I had accidentally called his sister instead... and when she asked me who I was.... I told her "I'm your brothers boyfriend." At that time his family didn't know he was gay.... and they didn't take the news very lightly either. I believe I hung up on her, and eventually gave up and decided to look for my phone in the morning... my next memory after that was laying on his couch. He came up to me and put a blanket over me, and the look on his face.... has haunted me for months. He was angry of course... but broke down when tell me he never wanted to see me again the next morning.
My best friend told me to not beat myself up over it, and that I wasn't myself that night.... and some good came out of it, and that I quit drinking. But, I don't think I will be able to forgive myself for along time. It goes against things I stand for - and that is outing people. Just the thought - that I could have been responible for him doing something wreckless like commiting suicide, or causing himself harm.... hasn't sat right. Even today.... it still stings that I ruined one of my best relationships.
I generally don't let things other people say about me bother me. But when my own actions cause someone else that I care about greatly terrible pain & suffering..... it destroys me just as much.
Sorry for the long essay. |
D-a-m-n
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