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Originally posted by AxelFox
Um, I had 7 partners already since December when I did it for the first time. And I just turned 18 in February.
I kinda feel bad about it, I should probably stop. I don't wanna cross the 10 mark before I turn 25, but finding someone who wants something serious is so damn hard...
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Have you had 7 full on sex partners? There are other ways of being intimate with somebody other than penetrative sex. There's mutual masturbation, oral, foot play etc. You're leaving yourself 3 guys in the next 7 years. That's not going to happen. Well it could happen. But it's unlikely.
And this advice isn't just for you AxelFox, but anybody. Don't number things. Don't have goals or limits. Live. Make connections with guys that make you feel good, that make you laugh and make you grow. If a guy proposes that you two do something that you haven't done before, try it. You can stop at any time if you feel uncomfortable but at least try to attempt. I've met many guys who didn't like the idea of their feet being touched or played with. Turns out they either didn't mind it or they liked it and it turned them on.
I don't regret any sexual experience I've had. And some were pretty shady. But at the end of the day, it's made me an actualized adult male. I have stories to tell and advice to pass on. I know many ways to get a guy's motor going (if I ever get a man) which means that I know a lot of ways to keep him happy.
Anybody who gives you crap about the legal, safe, informed choices you've made in life isn't the kind of person you want to be with. If you take nothing else from me, let it be that. Love is whole while lust is parts. Skip over the guy who's looking for the fairytale, the perfect man. His head isn't with us on earth. People have pasts, we're imperfect. Relationships take work. Compromise. It's rarely going to be easy but that struggle makes finding the right guy worth it.