[hot mess]

Originally posted by Pastoral

I'm not surprised. It's in India, after all.

you say that like it doesn't happen here lmao

i just went on grindr and so many of the men are married or have beards

sad

[BGXKB]

Originally posted by avi

according to the girl's suicide note her+her family knew he was gay and had accepted him but he tortured her emotionally..

People need to stop giving these gays excuses. If you know you're gay and marry a woman, unless you live somewhere where being gay is literally against the law, you are vile.

[Mr. Loco]

Originally posted by Inverted

It's not easy anywhere. His mother would have kept nagging him to get married, but he could have said no like many gay people in Asia do and never get married. And is faking a prescription for Viagra (like you suggested in your last post) actually a good idea? It just causes more problems like potential legal issues. The reason there's been progress in western countries is because some people decided to stop doing that and start saying no.

She said so in the full letter and pointed out the names of the men he was sleeping with. He wasn't interested in an actual marriage with her other than the label to show to people.

I agree with you, it would've been really good if he just sayed no to his mother, but he shouldn't be forced to do it if he doesn't want to or it's not ready.

So, he was sleeping with some men, that doesn't mean he didn't love her, he just had some sexual needs that she couldn't satisfy.

[Inverted]

Originally posted by Mr. Loco

I agree with you, it would've been really good if he just sayed no to his mother, but he shouldn't be forced to do it if he doesn't want to or it's not ready.

So, he was sleeping with some men, that doesn't mean he didn't love her, he just had some sexual needs that she couldn't satisfy.

He can't be "forced" to do it. He can be pressured (and definitely was), but he can always say no and many gay people do. It's hard and the constant nagging from the family is annoying, but that doesn't make it impossible. Unfortunately he agreed to get married because he wanted to cover up the fact the he was gay.

I think you're trying really hard to rationalize his behavior. Sure, there are marriages like this where the gay partner and straight partner both love each other as friends and marry each other because they choose to, but this clearly isn't one of those examples. Again, if you read the articles, she had absolutely no idea he was gay initially and when she confronted him about it, he was angry and kept taking out his frustration on her even after she accepted him and wanted the marriage to work. Even his parents told him to get a divorce, but he didn't want to because that would be mean everyone learning why the marriage failed. He was obviously angry with his life and she was unfortunately dragged into his problems.

[Mr. Loco]

Originally posted by Inverted

He can't be "forced" to do it. He can be pressured (and definitely was), but he can always say no and many gay people do. It's hard and the constant nagging from the family is annoying, but that doesn't make it impossible. Unfortunately he agreed to get married because he wanted to cover up the fact the he was gay.

I think you're trying really hard to rationalize his behavior. Sure, there are marriages like this where the gay partner and straight partner both love each other as friends and marry each other because they choose to, but this clearly isn't one of those examples. Again, if you read the articles, she had absolutely no idea he was gay initially and when she confronted him about it, he was angry and kept taking out his frustration on her even after she accepted him and wanted the marriage to work. Even his parents told him to get a divorce, but he didn't want to because that would be mean everyone learning why the marriage failed. He was obviously angry with his life and she was unfortunately dragged into his problems.

The same way he can't be forced to marry the girl, he can't be forced to be "outed" if he doesn't want to.

I'm gay, and I have really close (girl) friends who don't know about it, and I know that if I married one of them, I would do my best to make the marriage work and make her feel happy, even if she doesn't know I'm gay.

[Inverted]

Originally posted by Mr. Loco

The same way he can't be forced to marry the girl, he can't be forced to be "outed" if he doesn't want to.

I'm gay, and I have really close (girl) friends who don't know about it, and I know that if I married one of them, I would do my best to make the marriage work and make her feel happy, even if she doesn't know I'm gay.

I don't see anyone trying to out him in this case. Also, if any gay person doesn't want to be outed, they definitely shouldn't get involved in situations like a faux marriage where they're pulling so many other people into the "problem." It's likely to fail.

That's what men in situation always plan, but it rarely works that way unless they cut off ties with other men completely. Either way, it's deceptive and unfair to the woman. I hope you don't do that. If being out is really that difficult where you live just give excuses to whoever wants you to get married so much.

[MrPeanut]

Originally posted by Inverted

I already pointed out that she knew for a while and the old title is misleading (which is why the OP changed it). And she wasn't in denial because she kept confronting him and finally got him admit it last month, but she wanted to stay married anyway. None of that contradicts anything that I said. What would she she do after she took that great advice everyone is giving her and got a divorce? She wouldn't do anything except go to work, live with her brother's family and then die alone. She has few options. He chose to marry her and dragged her into his mess.

Yes, so she knew and stayed under the same circumstances she'd been from the start.

What about their marriage changed from what it was before? A redundant admission?

[highdefinition]

omg thats horrible.

if he was forced to marry her, he should have told her he was gay the second she saw those emails (6 months into their relationship), so that they could find a resolution, but this was definitely not the way to go

[C0SMIC]

omg so sad

[SuccesLovato]

Originally posted by ChandlerBing

Gay guys who marry girls are as bad as the murderers and rapists.

LMAOOOO THE ****?

[SuccesLovato]

Originally posted by GreasyBruce

This is going to sound harsh, but suicide was her choice.

She chose to have zero empathy over the fact that we live in a homophobic world and many men are so pressured by society to go into a marriage with a woman. It's not someone setting out to ruin her life. Her lack of perspective drove her down the wrong path. Tragic all around, but her death is on her hands only.

I utterly agree with this

[Priyanka Chopra]

Originally posted by BGXKB

People need to stop giving these gays excuses. If you know you're gay and marry a woman, unless you live somewhere where being gay is literally against the law, you are vile.

+1

I can't believe people are criticizing HER for having zero empathy as if it's on her shoulders to be understanding of a liar who treated her like trash! Where's your empathy for her? Where was HIS empathy for her when he LIED to get married to her?

No one held a gun to his head to get married and zero concern for the other party is what ruined lives here. The worst part about it that she was so cooperative! She was the dream beard for closet cases. She tolerated that he was gay and so did her family, but he didn't want anything to do with her except use her a beard and had zero concern for her. If you don't want to be stuck in a marriage, don't get married!

[h.u.r.r.i.c.a.n.e]

I feel sorry for her, really.

And I don't understand how someone can be so self-hateful to marry a woman. It happens SO often though.

[Britz_rulz]

Originally posted by Mr. Loco

I'm gay, and I have really close (girl) friends who don't know about it, and I know that if I married one of them, I would do my best to make the marriage work and make her feel happy, even if she doesn't know I'm gay.

The fVck! Lies can only lead to bigger lies and bigger lies only lead to serious troubles. Honesty should always be one of the foundations of every relationships. Gays should never marry women without telling them everything. Be honest and stop being selfish!

[Donquizote]

OMG. This is so sad.

[Inverted]

Originally posted by MrPeanut

Yes, so she knew and stayed under the same circumstances she'd been from the start.

What about their marriage changed from what it was before? A redundant admission?

Good job completely ignoring the last 4 lines in my response. Nothing changed because she has no options. Again, what would she do after getting the divorce? He's the one who put in this position so why shouldn't he blamed for it?

[Goosey]

Originally posted by BGXKB

People need to stop giving these gays excuses. If you know you're gay and marry a woman, unless you live somewhere where being gay is literally against the law, you are vile.

I know right? This is India so maybe the family of the wife will have him killed in revenge; I saw a documentary which claimed there are 30,000 assassins in Karachi.

[thaMONSTERkid]

Gir bye

[Priyanka Chopra]

Originally posted by Goosey

I know right? This is India so maybe the family of the wife will have him killed in revenge; I saw a documentary which claimed there are 30,000 assassins in Karachi.

Karachi is in Pakistan and I have never heard of it being common in India to hire assassins. Is that from some Hollywood depiction?

[Solarie]

It's the worst literally. Building a life on a lie. How could she feel when she found? Her whole life was obviously ruined. He was very selfish and unfortunately too many gays do that