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Originally posted by Sunshine.
I agree for the most part. But I will say that I typically introduce myself as gay to other gays even though I'm bi.
I'm lowkey tired of all the drama and passive aggressive questions that follow.
Just the other day I told a guy that I was bi two days after we had hooked up. And I was legit nervous of his reaction.
I feel like I have to come out twice in most instances.
Because it's no fun constantly being told you're confused or are self-hating.  |
My philosophy is if you're be bi, then just be bi. There's no need to walk around telling other gay guys that you also have sex with women. Especially because so many guys say they're bi when they're not and it ruins it for the ones who actually are. I feel like if you could actually see someone's sexual history, both sex and masturbation, and see when they last had sex with a woman or got off to straight p**n, it would make the whole thing a lot more interesting.
The fact that one of your exes is a woman is no more relevant than the fact that one of your exes might have been a man. They're both humans. You had sex with both of them. It's rude to talk about them in front of your current partner unless asked.
Telling people you're bi, to me at least, is just an instant red flag of insecurity about your sexuality. Probably because so many faux bi guys claim to be bi when really they're gay.
Even myself, I'm probably a 5 on the kinsey scale. I got off to straight p**n until the age of like 14-15 when I found myself becoming increasingly more attracted to the big, muscular men who were f**king the women rather than the actual women themselves. I got curious and I started watching gay p**n. I told myself it was just 'body envy' and that I was just jealous of their big physiques. But it didn't go away. It only got stronger. I got into it more and more, and liked it more and more, and soon started watching it exclusively and finally made peace with the fact that I'm gay. But once every few weeks I still get the desire to watch straight p**n. It's always the same type of girl too. Blondes with massive fake boobs. I still remember all the p**n stars I used to watch before I got into gay p**n - Carmen Luvana, Jesse Jane, Jenna Jameson, and the thing is...once every few weeks I find myself getting off to that instead of watching gay p**n. But that's literally the only type of girl I could be attracted to - skinny white girls with big, fake boobs. However I've never fully had sex with a woman, and I don't find any other type of girl attractive.
My point is, I'm probably a 4.5 or a 5 on the Kinsey scale, but I myself identify as being a full 6 because there's such a stigma of "all bisexuals really just like men" (with female "bisexuals" doing it for attention from straight men and male "bisexuals" doing it because they're in denial) - the fact that I feel like watching straight p**n every now and then isn't something that I feel the need to proclaim to the world or tell guys when I'm with them. I'm sure there's some guys who it'd turn on, but my point is, how is it relevant? When you're with someone, or you're kissing them, or you're on a date, unless it comes up in conversation or you're asked about it, why would be like "oh so I'm bi. Just so you know, I'm bi. Just yeah, so you're aware I also like girls, yeah." Like the fact that you're claiming you also like women doesn't change the fact that you're still f**king a dude.
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