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News: Gay student kicked off football team
Member Since: 4/4/2007
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Theoretically age shouldn't be a big deal, but we know that in the real world it does. I feel like this quote from the Advocate articulates how I feel about this pretty accurately, all joking aside.
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Writers Dan Savage, LZ Granderson, and Cyd Zeigler agree that the vast age difference of the football player and his 65-year-old boyfriend hurt his case.
"On the heels of the Sandusky trial and Penn State, that's a very high hurdle. ... I'm sad for the kid but angry at the 65-year-old who should have never put him in that position," Granderson said.
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Member Since: 9/1/2012
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LMFAO. They did him wrong but this ish is kinda effed up.
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Member Since: 9/1/2011
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65 yo boyfriend 
Kuntz
This whole thread
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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"I'm sad for the kid but angry at the 65-year-old who should have never put him in that position," Granderson said.
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Sums up my feelings perfectly. It's easy to blame the kid because he's the focus of the article, but the 65 year old should have known better.
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Member Since: 8/23/2011
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Originally posted by Jameson Teqkilla
If you cannot see why it is inappropriate for a 65 year old man to take advantage of a youth in that position, I don't know what to tell you. Would you have thought it appropriate when they were 15 and 62? The kid isn't' out of puberty yet, even if he can vote.
Sure, get some old D, fool around, experiment, have fun. But a full-fledged relationship is just absolutely irresponsible, at least on the 65 year old's part. He should know better.
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Well, I see where you're coming from but I still don't think it's fair to deem it unhealthy. As I said before, he isn't necessarily taking advantage of him, he might be treating him 10x better than a guy in his 20's or 30's would, both of them would have to be completely satisfied to carry on with this relationship.
Guess I would've had a similar reaction to everyone else, hadn't I dated someone in their 40's when I was 19.
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Member Since: 5/4/2012
Posts: 12,811
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Kuntz invited his 65-year-old boyfriend,
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WTF? 
thats like 2 notches above stat rape.
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Member Since: 11/18/2010
Posts: 33,622
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Originally posted by poker_token
wait i just noticed the picture of the kuntz boy he's actually cute
why is he with a 65 year old? i aint mad tho get that paper sis! i need me a sugardaddy that phone bill aint gonna pay itself
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Member Since: 10/16/2005
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"I'm sad for the kid but angry at the 65-year-old who should have never put him in that position," Granderson said.
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Member Since: 11/3/2011
Posts: 2,770
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Originally posted by PoisonPill
I think it's pretty bizarre that most of you lost sympathy for him once you found out his boyfriend is 65. I mean yeah, it's gross, but this poor kid has grown up always thinking there's something wrong with him, not being able to tell anyone because they hate who he is. He's an extremely confused kid who's desperate for someone to care about him, and I'm sure this old man offered that to him. Let's all hope he gets the guidance he needs and finds an equal, mutually loving relationship.
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but he's 18 tho, his boyfriend was ready for the retirement home while his mum was on her back making him
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Member Since: 6/25/2011
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Originally posted by Halien4Life
Well, I see where you're coming from but I still don't think it's fair to deem it unhealthy. As I said before, he isn't necessarily taking advantage of him, he might be treating him 10x better than a guy in his 20's or 30's would, both of them would have to be completely satisfied to carry on with this relationship.
Guess I would've had a similar reaction to everyone else, hadn't I dated someone in their 40's when I was 19.
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Even that isn't as extreme though. You were 19, had at least a year out of college, and 21 years of age difference becomes less and less of a thing as life goes on. By the time you were 25 and he was...51, you'd probably both be working 9 to 5s, getting money, having similar priorities in life (acquire currency, be happy) whatever.
By the time this kid got out of high school, this guy was not even going to be in the workplace. It's just messy.
And honestly, I think this would end like most of these romances do, with the boy getting "too old" for the older man's tastes. 
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Member Since: 4/4/2007
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Originally posted by Halien4Life
Well, I see where you're coming from but I still don't think it's fair to deem it unhealthy. As I said before, he isn't necessarily taking advantage of him, he might be treating him 10x better than a guy in his 20's or 30's would, both of them would have to be completely satisfied to carry on with this relationship.
Guess I would've had a similar reaction to everyone else, hadn't I dated someone in their 40's when I was 19.
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I don't think it's correct to automatically assume that it was a mutually healthy relationship though. Although I personally probably wouldn't do it, I can see how someone nearly in their 20's and someone in their 40's could get alone, but when someone's just barely in college and their partner is retiring, their goals are probably going to be vastly different. In addition, I just think it's bad because there's a lot of potential for manipulation. I can very easily see an older man taking advantage of a younger partner, especially one who's been confused about themselves and their sexuality.
Those are just my thoughts, though. I do think that this will probably get swept under the rug though - he has a technically valid case but I don't think he's going to get much sympathy from the media or the GP.
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Member Since: 9/24/2011
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Kuntz invited his 65-year-old boyfriend
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ewwwww....like really....WTF
and maybe his dismissed because he's too much injury....
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Member Since: 10/17/2011
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Wrong that he was dismissed because he's gay....however.....65? Come on!
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
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This thread had me YODELING. Too bad for the kid he got kicked out, but it was pretty stupid to go kiss your prehistoric beau during a game when you aren't out the closet. And a 65 year old boyfriend? Ch....good bye.
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Member Since: 6/15/2012
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Didn't know people kissed their grandfathers!
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Member Since: 3/3/2011
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I don't really see what's wrong with his boyfriend's age. He should be old (intelligent) enough to make the decision for himself.
Reminds me of L.I.E.
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Member Since: 6/2/2011
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While in the press box, Kuntz invited his 65-year-old boyfriend, who lives in Colorado, to join him to watch the game.
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Oop.
The fact that 1) he was closeted, 2) had a boyfriend living hundreds of miles away, 3) the boyfriend was 65, 4) they met online
makes me doubt how healthy and equal that relationship was. I am no one to judge love but a 47 year old age gap has to have some pretty insane power dynamics.
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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oh
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Member Since: 11/5/2009
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Wow he looks HOT in that pic, but in his other pic...
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