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Discussion: Your boyfriend watching x-rated movies-Problems in Dating
Member Since: 2/2/2014
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How do y'all meet guys? How do you know if they're gay?  This is too much.
I haven't been able to get over this guy for like 6 months and i'm sure hes straight and i cant even do anything about it since im afraid he will tell people if i try anything.
Maybe i will have better luck in college next year. 
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Attitude
What is he saying?  |
Like he doesn't like the idea of me being with his ex. And he's been retweeting heartbreak tweets. This really makes me uncomfortable. What if my boyfriend got back with his ex. I don't know whether my boyfriend is ready for new relationship or not since he just got out from 4-year relationship with his ex 3 months ago  And his ex posted one picture of him and my boyfriend saying he really missed him.
I don't want to sound insecure because I know I am way better than his ex but sometimes I have the feeling that I am only a rebound guy. When I confronted my boyfriend about it, he assured me that I am miles better than his ex (I am smart, attractive and cute unlike his ex) and he won't ever leave me again, unless I cheated on him.And he also has blocked his ex's phone number. But still 
I know I can get a guy better than my boyfriend but I really like the fact that he's a loyal type.
What should I do?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by LionH3art
Going to the movies with the guy you dated a month but wants to be just friends because 'he wasn't in love'... Yay or nay?
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Yay if you like him as a friend
Nay if you wanted more than that
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by Donquizote
Like he doesn't like the idea of me being with his ex. And he's been retweeting heartbreak tweets. This really makes me uncomfortable. What if my boyfriend got back with his ex. I don't know whether my boyfriend is ready for new relationship or not since he just got out from 4-year relationship with his ex 3 months ago And his ex posted one picture of him and my boyfriend saying he really missed him.
I don't want to sound insecure because I know I am way better than his ex but sometimes I have the feeling that I am only a rebound guy. When I confronted my boyfriend about it, he assured me that I am miles better than his ex (I am smart, attractive and cute unlike his ex) and he won't ever leave me again, unless I cheated on him.And he also has blocked his ex's phone number. But still
I know I can get a guy better than my boyfriend but I really like the fact that he's a loyal type.
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That's sad
Keep your guard up tho.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by ItsJim
That's sad
Keep your guard up tho. |
Problem solved. I confronted him and he said he's already over his ex like months ago after he caught him cheating with other guys. He expects my relationship with him to last long and I think he's a keeper
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Problems in dating? Lol. 20 years married here, suck it peasants
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by BambooBanga
Problems in dating? Lol. 20 years married here, suck it peasants
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Member Since: 3/4/2011
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To the OP - I had a similar issue at the beginning of my relationship. My boyfriend was still friends with his ex, and I had to find out on my own. His ex was also a cheater and he always talked horribly about him. 3 months in I kept noticing the same guy texting him every now and then. I looked him up on fb and figured out it was his ex. I was way more angry that he was hiding it from me. He ended up cutting off all ties with him and we worked it out, but it was a big issue for a while. And I had trust issues for a bit. It all worked out, but if I ever go into another relationship I will make sure the guy is completely over his ex.
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Member Since: 8/11/2007
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Have the same THING me and my bf he had this gf of 4 years but they broke up like 6-7 months ago though she is pregnant with his baby I know he does not like her bc he never really did just the problem is THE ****ING BABY bc I honestly hate kids (but I like him so much like a lot) but I just got out of a 7 month relationship 2 months ago...so more of him being more worried me leaving but he likes me so much he told all his friends...his child mum hates me but you know what that ugly cow can get stuffed at least u have a baby with him I GOT NOTHING!
but at the same time I am worried what if I end up getting jealous over the baby (not the fact its his son the fact its hers and we both hate her) he actually wishing bad things like she dies at giving birth but baby stays (i smack him for that because that is just low of low..I mean hate her too but never would wish death on her...
but she probably will not let him see it (the most maybe 2 hours a week)
its not born yet but deep down im stressing bc I really like him (same as you u like ur new bae but not sure if his over his ex in other way I know his over her but shes not over him and she is gonna give us trouble..but at least we have 10 of his friends backing us up)
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Note: I still have feelings for Terry (but not strong feelings) like I miss him but would not get back with him while i got a hotter boyfriend now, but if my hot bf ends up getting back with the ugly cow i'd would wish for me and terry to get back)
but im hoping it does not come to that bc hayden is pefect (without the baby part)
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Member Since: 8/11/2007
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Originally posted by RihsUmbrella
How do y'all meet guys? How do you know if they're gay? This is too much.
I haven't been able to get over this guy for like 6 months and i'm sure hes straight and i cant even do anything about it since im afraid he will tell people if i try anything.
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straight guys have problems too
im a female so I can get guys really easily just im fussy and i will only go for the good looking ones but I heard its hard for guys to get get 2 or 3 likes back.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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My ex texted me last night saying that he missed me and wished that I was there with him (he moved pretty far away). So today I responded with this long heartfelt ass text about how I wish things ended up different and how I think about him all the time. He responded back talking about how much he misses me sucking his d*** and how I'm so good at it. I've never felt like such a f***ing idiot I swear. This is why I don't open up to people. He doesn't miss me, he's just horny and too insecure to do anything about it. And here's my dumb ass thinking he actually cared. I actually lit up when I saw that he texted me. Let me throw on Lemonade and hit the gym and make his dusty WISH I put my mouth anywhere near him again.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Originally posted by Indie
My ex texted me last night saying that he missed me and wished that I was there with him (he moved pretty far away). So today I responded with this long heartfelt ass text about how I wish things ended up different and how I think about him all the time. He responded back talking about how much he misses me sucking his d*** and how I'm so good at it. I've never felt like such a f***ing idiot I swear. This is why I don't open up to people. He doesn't miss me, he's just horny and too insecure to do anything about it. And here's my dumb ass thinking he actually cared. I actually lit up when I saw that he texted me. Let me throw on Lemonade and hit the gym and make his dusty WISH I put my mouth anywhere near him again.
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bud i know how this kind of thing feels, i'm sorry ): i hate the feeling of wasting emotions and kindness on jerks. and i'm sure my ex doesn't feel anything for me at all anymore but i still miss him a lot, and it sucks.
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Member Since: 1/4/2014
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Tried to remain good friends with my ex but he had a meltdown the other day and basically begged me never to speak to him again, so there's that. I know he's stressed and worried cause he HATES his job in New Zealand, and has realized it's difficult to change jobs. He's bitter cause I wouldn't COMMIT myself to him so he could get a visa (ie. move in with him pronto) so he hates me. Our relationship was just not that solid at all.
Anyway, that sucks, and a FEW tears about it when it happened, but time to move on.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I've literally never has a girlfriend. You know, i used to hate the concept of friendzone and i used to think it's something losers invented but i'm kinda stuck in the friendzone lol. There is this one girl and we are like best friends but she is obsessed with Harry Styles and thinks i'm ugly. So i am kind of trying to find an actual girlfriend but i have literally no experience with anything. It doesn't ruin my life but it's one of those things that annoy me. And i dont think i've ever truly been in love with someone (i like the presence of that woman but it's not like i dream about her or anything). i liked a lot of girls physically (and one guy in my class (**** he's so goddamn hot but so dumb ))
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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I kinda need a place to vent this out, I guess this is the right thread
Me and my boyfriend kind of broken up after dating several months already, we've been bff for almost 2 years beforehand and we waited for the right time to start dating after we confessed to each other.
He was everything I needed in a man, he had the same ideals as mine, he understood me and we always had interesting conversations, he truly cared about me and supported me and helped me. The months of me dating him were the best time of my life tbh, everything seemed so...perfect. But it seems like life can't help it but to take the good things away from me
Its been a month now since he first told me that he just lost all of his romantic feelings towards me all of a sudden, it just happened overnight with how weird it sounds. I didn't lose hope though, we both thought we should wait and see if it returns because we both wanted this relationship to last.
The feelings still haven't returned, we talked about it yesterday again and he doesn't want to hurt me so he told me its the best if we break up. I'm so devastated and sad, he is being too harsh on himself too since he thinks this is his fault and he didn't want it to end this way.
I know we will stay bff, we still care about each other and he still tells me that i'm the most important person in his life and he loves me, just not in a romantic way anymore.
And yeah that's my sad long story, and I doubt anyone will read it but I feel better now that I wrote about this
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Donquizote
I've been dating this guy for almost a month. I really like him and I think he's a loyal type who doesn't fool around and always committed in relationship. He's been hurt in the past because his partner for 3 years cheated on him.
I really like him and I feel so comfortable to be him. The biggest problem I have is he just got out from a long term relationship 3 months ago. Although I think I am way cuter than his ex, I think he's still not over his ex. And when I confronted him about that matter, he says "past is the past" and we should move on with our lives. Still, I can't trust him.
Also, I think our relationship is moving too fast. We've only been dating for a month but he already plans to introduce me to his mum next week
What should I do?
Post your problems in dating as well 
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Mess. I don't want to sound like a crazy and obsessed boyfriend but he still has his ex's pictures up on instagram, facebook and twitter. When I asked him, he said they were all memories with his ex. I am so ready to dump his ass after 3 months trial if he still talked about his ex
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His crazy ex boyfriend has been updating weird status on facebook or twitter lately and the messages seem to be directed at me |
Dump him. He's clearly not been out of his relationship long enough to truly be over his ex and not just be on a rebound. If you don't dump him, he will dump you. You'll both be unhappy. Don't be a rebound.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Jackson
@OP your bf sounds like me basically Except I AM completely over my ex and it's been 3 months, but he cheated on me while we lived together so it does make me have trust issues really bad.
But a few weeks ago I thought I found someone I REALLY liked for the first time since my ex, and we started dating for a few weeks. He wanted to go really fast but I wanted to go slow. The problem is he was going back home to Massachusetts for the summer and we would only have a month to date before then. Honestly I wanted to keep it going so we would be forced to take it slow and I would be able to enjoy my summer with friends while still having a bf there for me, but he decided he didn't want to do the whole long distance thing after only knowing each other a month, plus he had finals coming up and a ton of stressful things so he said we should "keep it casual". I have a feeling he's not completely over his ex in Mass because they broke up 3 months ago as well after 2 years of dating.
So I have no idea where we stand right now, we haven't talked in a few days and idk if he wants to be friends, try again when he gets back, or not talk at all. I still have 2 of his sweatshirts he gave to me so I could use that as an excuse to see him, or maybe I should just move on and keep them for myself. The weird thing is HE was the one that wanted to go fast at first and told me that he had never met anyone like me, and then one day he just stopped. |
This is what you call a lie. He is lying to you. He didn't want to go fast. He was saying the exact opposite of what he actually wanted. Guys do this all the time. Every guy who tells me I just want to "keep it casual" at first winds up getting all possessive. Then you have every guy who claims they want a serious/monogamous relationship ends up not really wanting it in the end. The guys in the second group usually end up breaking it off. This is especially true of guys who just broke up and/or are going through a situation.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by Indie
Everytime I think I'm over my "ex" he texts me out of the blue and I fall right back in. We broke up on good terms, he moved 20 hours away but he's coming back in like 9 months. If I go away for school in September we will probably never be together again but if I don't I won't be able to stay away when he comes back. He's also 11 years older than me and he pisses me off sometimes, I just want to get over him ugh
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Block all communication of his for six months.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by BambooBanga
Problems in dating? Lol. 20 years married here, suck it peasants
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