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Discussion: Your Crush Thread
Member Since: 5/22/2011
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
True, I understand. That's partly the reason why i'm still a virgin ![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif)
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That's one thing I'm still happy about.
Those nights we did stuff, we'd always do everything and he'd either A) finish way too early.. B) he'd try to prepare to $%#! me but had no condom, and I wasn't letting him go in dry.. (he's black).
If I would've lost my virginity to that douche I would of regretted it so much. ![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif)
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Buddyc614
Im in easily the most ****ed up situation rn. There's this guy who likes me, and I don't really like him. We met in English and have been talking since the semester started (January)
Anyway, he invited me to a party, I went with some friends, and obv there was drinking, and obv i was intoxicated. But pretty much we hooked up, and at the time i didn't think it was that big of deal. Until I realized that he REALLY likes me. Like he's been texting me now everyday for the past week asking if we can talk and that he really just wants to see me
And it sucks because theres this guy that I adore at my skewl (my crush ![smitten](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ebf69f50.gif) ) And we started to talk a lot today (got to know each other more) We went to a coffee shop downtown ![smitten](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ebf69f50.gif) It was great!
But im just so lost rn, like I feel guilty, but I can't help the way I feel
AND he was my first time ![JonnyϟLightning](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/jonny_zpsc73391c5.png) I was hoping to save myself for my crush ![weeps](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/52b0f867.gif)
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Don't feel guilty. Just let the guy know you're sorry about how things went down and that you didn't mean for it to happen. Tell him that he's a really good guy but you just don't feel the same way about him that he feels about you. Honesty is the best policy.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Mezik
That's one thing I'm still happy about.
Those nights we did stuff, we'd always do everything and he'd either A) finish way too early.. B) he'd try to prepare to $%#! me but had no condom, and I wasn't letting him go in dry.. (he's black).
If I would've lost my virginity to that douche I would of regretted it so much. ![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif)
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Yeah you would have. I hate guys so much sometimes ![weeps](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/52b0f867.gif) I early want my first time to be special but then I also know that the chances of that happening are very slim and i'm kinda getting to the point where i'm going to give up on my "no hookups" thing and just hook up with someone because although a lot of guys tell me that they like the fact that i'm a virgin, none of them want to be with someone who's a virgin
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Member Since: 3/2/2014
Posts: 5,243
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Originally posted by Mezik
Yeah, but feeling dirty and used >>> getting the D.
![Doc](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/doc_zpsc886535c.gif)
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Yeah, some guys are just so ew tbh
you'll meet the one, one day i'm sure. don't lose hope! ![date](images/smilies/images/smilies/date.gif)
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
Posts: 21,227
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
Yeah you would have. I hate guys so much sometimes ![weeps](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/52b0f867.gif) I early want my first time to be special but then I also know that the chances of that happening are very slim and i'm kinda getting to the point where i'm going to give up on my "no hookups" thing and just hook up with someone because although a lot of guys tell me that they like the fact that i'm a virgin, none of them want to be with someone who's a virgin
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I know how you feel, I've been told that "I think I'm too good" and that I'm stupid for waiting. Also I've gotten told that I'm an idiot because I want my first time to be special and not just someone **** my brains out.
I did one random hook up, and I REGRETTED it so much. It was after my crush told me he wanted to be just friends with benefits so a few nights after one of my friends I've known for a long time came out of the closet and we hooked up that night. We don't even talk now because of how awkward it was. Boys suck. ![rip](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/rip_zpsec10ede9.gif)
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 39,650
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
Don't feel guilty. Just let the guy know you're sorry about how things went down and that you didn't mean for it to happen. Tell him that he's a really good guy but you just don't feel the same way about him that he feels about you. Honesty is the best policy.
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I just feel bad that im picking someone over him. Like he's honestly a great person, and we've connected but theres nothing there if you get what I mean.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
Posts: 21,227
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Originally posted by Pikachu
Yeah, some guys are just so ew tbh
you'll meet the one, one day i'm sure. don't lose hope! ![date](images/smilies/images/smilies/date.gif)
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This guy was gorgeous.
I just felt disgusted that I did so much with him when he never meant anything special to me. ![Doc](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/doc_zpsc886535c.gif)
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Member Since: 8/7/2010
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Oh pish posh.
It's just sex. **** and get it over with.
I lost mine when I was 12 and it was not ****ing sparks and fireworks.
When I did it I was like oh that's it? Well that was fun. Okay... Wanna play video games again?
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Mezik
I know how you feel, I've been told that "I think I'm too good" and that I'm stupid for waiting. Also I've gotten told that I'm an idiot because I want my first time to be special and not just someone **** my brains out.
I did one random hook up, and I REGRETTED it so much. It was after my crush told me he wanted to be just friends with benefits so a few nights after one of my friends I've known for a long time came out of the closet and we hooked up that night. We don't even talk now because of how awkward it was. Boys suck. ![rip](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/rip_zpsec10ede9.gif)
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Yeah hook ups are just...idk. I don't know if I could ever bring myself to do it. I'm not even sure i'll ever be comfortable with anyone enough to actually have sex ![cries](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/45ab1e3e.gif) I'm damaged goods
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Originally posted by Buddyc614
I just feel bad that im picking someone over him. Like he's honestly a great person, and we've connected but theres nothing there if you get what I mean.
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I completely know what you mean. You can't help what you feel though. Just let him know that after everything between you two, you've realized that you're feelings for someone else are stronger than what you had anticipated them to be and that you're sorry but you don't feel that way about him anymore, if you ever did. He will be upset but he'll be glad that you were honest and told him instead of being an *** and strung him along like many other guys would have
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
Oh pish posh.
It's just sex. **** and get it over with.
I lost mine when I was 12 and it was not ****ing sparks and fireworks.
When I did it I was like oh that's it? Well that was fun. Okay... Wanna play video games again?
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Hey Hey Hey!
You hush! I don't want just anybody all up in this good good!
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Member Since: 4/20/2012
Posts: 6,896
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
Yeah you would have. I hate guys so much sometimes ![weeps](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/52b0f867.gif) I early want my first time to be special but then I also know that the chances of that happening are very slim and i'm kinda getting to the point where i'm going to give up on my "no hookups" thing and just hook up with someone because although a lot of guys tell me that they like the fact that i'm a virgin, none of them want to be with someone who's a virgin
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Even though it's too late for my first time being with someone special, I'd like it to be that way from now on. But I can't find anyone who would like to be more than just a one night stand and even if I did, they would be miles away.
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
Oh pish posh.
It's just sex. **** and get it over with.
I lost mine when I was 12 and it was not ****ing sparks and fireworks.
When I did it I was like oh that's it? Well that was fun. Okay... Wanna play video games again?
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That's how you feel with hook ups, it's just random fun. I lost mine when I was 9-10 and it wasn't as special and good as my first time with the boy I love.
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Member Since: 5/22/2011
Posts: 21,227
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
Oh pish posh.
It's just sex. **** and get it over with.
I lost mine when I was 12 and it was not ****ing sparks and fireworks.
When I did it I was like oh that's it? Well that was fun. Okay... Wanna play video games again?
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To you it is, but I don't want to have sex with just anybody, I want it to be with someone special. There's this funny thing called opinions and not all people are gonna agree with yours.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 39,650
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Originally posted by Harmonic Dreamer
Oh pish posh.
It's just sex. **** and get it over with.
I lost mine when I was 12 and it was not ****ing sparks and fireworks.
When I did it I was like oh that's it? Well that was fun. Okay... Wanna play video games again?
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wow, good for you. 12 years old GOOD for you
And clearly your education on the subject is lull to none. Sex is meant to connect two people physically and emotionally together, through love. Clearly you have never had that.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by RideOrDie
Even though it's too late for my first time being with someone special, I'd like it to be that way from now on. But I can't find anyone who would like to be more than just a one night stand and even if I did, they would be miles away.
That's how you feel with hook ups, it's just random fun. I lost mine when I was 9-10 and it wasn't as special and good as my first time with the boy I love.
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Awe you'll find someone soon. And yeah i know. Anyone who has shown interest in me lives so far away from me and it sucks ![:(](http://www.atrl.net/forums/images/smilies/images/smilies/frown.gif)
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Oh, I've read it all. Y'all guys are amazing as well as this entire thread. Congrats, skwonderfactory <з
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Originally posted by BeyNavi
Really? ![toofunny2](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/faces/toofunny2_zpsb54f2d2d.gif) I'm amazed at how many pages we're at right now. Friends is one of the best shows ever created and I'm glad he recognizes that ![Gay Cat](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/random/cat_zpsebvh5uip.png) You're making progress but now all you need to do is find a way to have a full blown convo and reel him in ![eli's_rhythm](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/eli_zps0932edf9.gif)
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My biggest problem is that I'm introverted as hell & I act like a complete goddamn fool when he's around ![toofunny3](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/faces/toofunny3_zps08814413.gif)
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Member Since: 2/18/2012
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I haven't had a crush in ages. ![deadbanana](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/bananas/deadbanana2_zpsd45da7d4.gif) I find different people attractive, but not to the point of liking them. I can't consider liking someone just on physical attraction. I'm going through a bit of a dry spell.
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Member Since: 1/16/2011
Posts: 24,638
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Originally posted by Homogenic
Oh, I've read it all. Y'all guys are amazing as well as this entire thread. Congrats, skwonderfactory <з
My biggest problem is that I'm introverted as hell & I act like a complete goddamn fool when he's around ![toofunny3](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/faces/toofunny3_zps08814413.gif)
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This = Me as well ![weeps](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRLSmilies/52b0f867.gif)
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Homogenic
Oh, I've read it all. Y'all guys are amazing as well as this entire thread. Congrats, skwonderfactory <з
My biggest problem is that I'm introverted as hell & I act like a complete goddamn fool when he's around ![toofunny3](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/faces/toofunny3_zps08814413.gif)
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![Doc](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/doc_zpsc886535c.gif) You have to find a way to let that go. I'm learning myself how to get out of my shell and gain more confidence to say the things that I feel I need to say or do and I believe you can too if you believe in yourself and if it's something you truly want to pursue.
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Member Since: 9/27/2011
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I don't really have a crush but there are a few people I think are cute and such. I'm just too nervous to act upon it ![:p](http://www.atrl.net/forums/images/smilies/images/smilies/tongue.gif)
Okay maybe I lied, I really do like this guy at my work. Let me explain my situation. I have a lot of friends, boys and girls, but I can't ever talk to a guy that isn't my friend. I always get too nervous and feel awkward cause I don't want them to know I like the "D" cause they may be offended at first. Sometimes I think I come across as rude to guys but it's just my nerves... Where as any girl I talk to instantly wants to be my BFF... I have at least 10 guy friends(I have a large friend group in general and we go out to bars and have house parties like 2-3 times a week... typical college lol) that I hang out with on a regular basis but I don't have a crush on any if them. I just don't know what to do when it comes to talking to people outside my friend group. I guess once I get passed that I can act upon my crushes. Sorry for my ranting, writing stuff out always helps me think through things better haha
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by PurrKaty
I don't really have a crush but there are a few people I think are cute and such. I'm just too nervous to act upon it ![:p](http://www.atrl.net/forums/images/smilies/images/smilies/tongue.gif)
Okay maybe I lied, I really do like this guy at my work. Let me explain my situation. I have a lot of friends, boys and girls, but I can't ever talk to a guy that isn't my friend. I always get too nervous and feel awkward cause I don't want them to know I like the "D" cause they may be offended at first. Sometimes I think I come across as rude to guys but it's just my nerves... Where as any girl I talk to instantly wants to be my BFF... I have at least 10 guy friends(I have a large friend group in general and we go out to bars and have house parties like 2-3 times a week... typical college lol) that I hang out with on a regular basis but I don't have a crush on any if them. I just don't know what to do when it comes to talking to people outside my friend group. I guess once I get passed that I can act upon my crushes. Sorry for my ranting, writing stuff out always helps me think through things better haha
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Are you me? ![Celestial 5](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/9b5f67d8.gif) I'm the exact same way.
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