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Discussion: The Depression Thread
Member Since: 8/19/2013
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My thoughts will all of you who are dealing with depression. I had one last 2 years but I manage to overcome it.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Jezang Looz
Are you and your bf still together and did things get better for you? If you developed social anxiety or depression the best way to seek help is by talking to a therapist. If you find your feelings are overwhelming you I really recommend that you try to talk with one because they might be able to help you out. Otherwise I hope you and your bf are okay  |
Now I feel better, I think saying it out loud and finally accepting that I'm not okay made a difference. I always pushed my feelings down and tried to ignore the problem. My social anxiety is still there and I did feel depressed around Christmas. But I'm planning to seek help and talk to a professional.
And yeah, me and my boyfriend are still together. He is very supportive. He also had a depressed phase a couple of years ago and knows what I'm going through. He said that he will not rest until I feel better and is willing to do everything for my well being. He's basically the only person who's keeping me together at the moment 
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Kendi
Now I feel better, I think saying it out loud and finally accepting that I'm not okay made a difference. I always pushed my feelings down and tried to ignore the problem. My social anxiety is still there and I did feel depressed around Christmas. But I'm planning to seek help and talk to a professional.
And yeah, me and my boyfriend are still together. He is very supportive. He also had a depressed phase a couple of years ago and knows what I'm going through. He said that he will not rest until I feel better and is willing to do everything for my well being. He's basically the only person who's keeping me together at the moment |
Aww I'm happy to hear that. Hopefully you two stay strong and have a wonderful new year 
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My ex and I are officially not even friends anymore and I feel so sad  I'm usually a good judge of character and I think I'm mostly frustrated for pouring all of my energy into him for +3 years and for this to have happened. I don't trust easily and when I finally do he breaks that trust. I'm so shocked right now... And my friends at uni knew about our struggles but the only advice they gave was, "Maybe you guys should break up." Idk.. I guess they were right but I *really* thought that we could work things out. I'm so pissed and angry that he ended up being so self-centered in the end. I made the mistake of ignoring all of my friends to only hang out with him and his friends and now I lost his friends and mine. I was so blinded by love. Now I see him and his friends online everyday but I obviously don't hang out with them and it bothers me. We were all so close. Sometimes I think about getting even with him but it'd prove that I'm no better than him so I don't.
It's funny cause when Adele released Hello I instantly connected to the line, "They say that time's supposed to heal ya, but I ain't done much healing." Him and I have been fighting for like a year straight so I guess I should have seen this coming but I /still/ really believed that things would be different. I'm not even sure what I'm upset about. My intuition being wrong about him and I, him for letting me down in the end, or at myself for losing all of my friends for him.
The only good thing about us not being together anymore is that I can finally move on. I don't even wanna enter another relationship because I'm still bitter from my last one, and yet I don't like being single either. I have a few options right now but I'm not sure if I really wanna deal with this again. Everyday is literally a struggle because I didn't see our relationship ending so the pain lingers. Even his friends said how different he was ever since we got together and I noticed a change too. I guess some people just can't be helped.
I honestly don't feel depressed though. Well I do a little, but not entirely because of him. I'm more upset at myself for making poor decisions and letting someone else influence my happiness so much. I had a feeling I should have broken up with him the first time when we fought, but I kept going back to him or letting him come back to me. I should have known better but I believe in forgiveness because we all make mistakes. I think the lesson I ultimately learned is to stick to my intuition. If I had just left him the first time I would have been really sad, but I wouldn't be in this position right now. But at the same time I can't even blame myself for trying because him and I both made mistakes and tried to fix things. It just didn't work out in the end.
I'll be ok but I'm just really shocked right now. My life is so ironic and this one breakup isn't even half of what's been going on for the past few years. I feel much wiser than I was before and I'm starting to see how everything is interconnected. This experience also allowed me to reconnect to some old friends again and I'm really thankful for that. All in all, messy-breakup but back to old me. I feel like I have a personality again and I'm not just someone else's boyfriend. I'm just waiting for him to try and hit me up again so I can tell him to **** off, honestly. Otherwise I'm doing just fine, kinda.
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Member Since: 9/8/2012
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Just found this thread and wanted to express how I'm feeling... I'm not depressed though but I feel so sad right now...
I have been dating this girl for 3 years and now all of sudden, before Christmas season began she started to act cold and distant around me. Like I wanted to go out, have dinner with her, spend the day together.. you know, things like these... and she was like "no, we have to study" or "no, I don't have time and I'm not feeling like I want to cuddle", "I'm nervous for the exams" (excuses, lol) so like 4 days ago I decided to talk with her seriously, because previously any time I said to her that something was wrong with her she was like oh nothing, don't worry.
Well... here comes what happened... I told her if she still loved me (very dramatic haha) and she decided to tell me what was happening with her all this time. She told me that after a while (half a month) she had doubts, she was looking at me as her best friend rather than as her boyfriend, she still loves me but not in the same way she did before and she misses me but not in the same way I do. When she told me this... well... I got all mad and angry at her. I couldn't believe it because we have been through a lot together. It's been 3 years together!!
Her family didn't want me to be with her and we have been hiding all this time, we have broke up a few times because of this and we have been caught too but we ended up together after all. And I gave her everything, and I did everything for her, even her closest friends have said to me that I put A LOT more effort in our relationship than her (I could tell you more details about this). She basically had me at the palm of her hand lol.
And now... well.. everything is over I guess. We met 2 days ago to talk face to face, and she cried. She told me that she didn't wanna hurt me and she doesn't want to lose me because I'm too important for her (I'm her first boyfriend and she's my first gf) but she had all her feelings mixed up so I said that if she wanted to stay with me she needed to clarify her feelings and she replied that sometimes she sees me as her best friend but others she's like "no, he is more than that, he's my bf", she also said that she was tired.. I guess tired of hiding from her family... idk...
I feel destroyed  to think that I can't even say that I miss her because she probaly doesn't miss me the same way I do is killing me...
My closest friend says that I should give her space and time, he trusts we'll be back together like all the times we have broke up before lol... but I don't think this will happen this time...
Sorry for my English guys if anything is wrong
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Jezang Looz
Aww I'm happy to hear that. Hopefully you two stay strong and have a wonderful new year
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My ex and I are officially not even friends anymore and I feel so sad I'm usually a good judge of character and I think I'm mostly frustrated for pouring all of my energy into him for +3 years and for this to have happened. I don't trust easily and when I finally do he breaks that trust. I'm so shocked right now... And my friends at uni knew about our struggles but the only advice they gave was, "Maybe you guys should break up." Idk.. I guess they were right but I *really* thought that we could work things out. I'm so pissed and angry that he ended up being so self-centered in the end. I made the mistake of ignoring all of my friends to only hang out with him and his friends and now I lost his friends and mine. I was so blinded by love. Now I see him and his friends online everyday but I obviously don't hang out with them and it bothers me. We were all so close. Sometimes I think about getting even with him but it'd prove that I'm no better than him so I don't.
It's funny cause when Adele released Hello I instantly connected to the line, "They say that time's supposed to heal ya, but I ain't done much healing." Him and I have been fighting for like a year straight so I guess I should have seen this coming but I /still/ really believed that things would be different. I'm not even sure what I'm upset about. My intuition being wrong about him and I, him for letting me down in the end, or at myself for losing all of my friends for him.
The only good thing about us not being together anymore is that I can finally move on. I don't even wanna enter another relationship because I'm still bitter from my last one, and yet I don't like being single either. I have a few options right now but I'm not sure if I really wanna deal with this again. Everyday is literally a struggle because I didn't see our relationship ending so the pain lingers. Even his friends said how different he was ever since we got together and I noticed a change too. I guess some people just can't be helped.
I honestly don't feel depressed though. Well I do a little, but not entirely because of him. I'm more upset at myself for making poor decisions and letting someone else influence my happiness so much. I had a feeling I should have broken up with him the first time when we fought, but I kept going back to him or letting him come back to me. I should have known better but I believe in forgiveness because we all make mistakes. I think the lesson I ultimately learned is to stick to my intuition. If I had just left him the first time I would have been really sad, but I wouldn't be in this position right now. But at the same time I can't even blame myself for trying because him and I both made mistakes and tried to fix things. It just didn't work out in the end.
I'll be ok but I'm just really shocked right now. My life is so ironic and this one breakup isn't even half of what's been going on for the past few years. I feel much wiser than I was before and I'm starting to see how everything is interconnected. This experience also allowed me to reconnect to some old friends again and I'm really thankful for that. All in all, messy-breakup but back to old me. I feel like I have a personality again and I'm not just someone else's boyfriend. I'm just waiting for him to try and hit me up again so I can tell him to **** off, honestly. Otherwise I'm doing just fine, kinda. |
It sounds like you really love(d) him. I know this must be really hard, but from your post it seems like to me that you are a really strong person and I honestly believe that you can get through this. For now I think you should give yourself some time to heal, spend some time with your (old) friends, reconnect, talk. I'm sure you'll feel better. Wishing you luck
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by thatsmydemi
Just found this thread and wanted to express how I'm feeling... I'm not depressed though but I feel so sad right now...
I have been dating this girl for 3 years and now all of sudden, before Christmas season began she started to act cold and distant around me. Like I wanted to go out, have dinner with her, spend the day together.. you know, things like these... and she was like "no, we have to study" or "no, I don't have time and I'm not feeling like I want to cuddle", "I'm nervous for the exams" (excuses, lol) so like 4 days ago I decided to talk with her seriously, because previously any time I said to her that something was wrong with her she was like oh nothing, don't worry.
Well... here comes what happened... I told her if she still loved me (very dramatic haha) and she decided to tell me what was happening with her all this time. She told me that after a while (half a month) she had doubts, she was looking at me as her best friend rather than as her boyfriend, she still loves me but not in the same way she did before and she misses me but not in the same way I do. When she told me this... well... I got all mad and angry at her. I couldn't believe it because we have been through a lot together. It's been 3 years together!!
Her family didn't want me to be with her and we have been hiding all this time, we have broke up a few times because of this and we have been caught too but we ended up together after all. And I gave her everything, and I did everything for her, even her closest friends have said to me that I put A LOT more effort in our relationship than her (I could tell you more details about this). She basically had me at the palm of her hand lol.
And now... well.. everything is over I guess. We met 2 days ago to talk face to face, and she cried. She told me that she didn't wanna hurt me and she doesn't want to lose me because I'm too important for her (I'm her first boyfriend and she's my first gf) but she had all her feelings mixed up so I said that if she wanted to stay with me she needed to clarify her feelings and she replied that sometimes she sees me as her best friend but others she's like "no, he is more than that, he's my bf", she also said that she was tired.. I guess tired of hiding from her family... idk...
I feel destroyed to think that I can't even say that I miss her because she probaly doesn't miss me the same way I do is killing me...
My closest friend says that I should give her space and time, he trusts we'll be back together like all the times we have broke up before lol... but I don't think this will happen this time...
Sorry for my English guys if anything is wrong |
I really don't know what to say, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Maybe you should listen to your friend and give her some time to think. Again, sorry this happened, I hope everything turns out okay for you (Really wishing you luck, you are one of my fav Demi stan here)
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Kendi
It sounds like you really love(d) him. I know this must be really hard, but from your post it seems like to me that you are a really strong person and I honestly believe that you can get through this. For now I think you should give yourself some time to heal, spend some time with your (old) friends, reconnect, talk. I'm sure you'll feel better. Wishing you luck |
Thank you  I promised myself this year that I wasn't going to feel down anymore and that's what led me to trying to talk to him one more time. It didn't work and my heart feels so empty right now but I'll fight through it. It's funny that you mentioned Demi in the post above because I heard about her mantra that she says before performing "I am enough" and it really spoke to me. I actually use that now IRL when I'm feeling anxious and it helps a lot.
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Originally posted by Kendi
I really don't know what to say, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Maybe you should listen to your friend and give her some time to think. Again, sorry this happened, I hope everything turns out okay for you (Really wishing you luck, you are one of my fav Demi stan here) |
Thank you so much for listening
Let's see what time will do...
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i'm not in the mood to do anything. Urgh, wtf is wrong with me. 
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Keep pushing y'all. It is not easy but you will be OK. Okay.
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Member Since: 4/3/2014
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I think my depression is getting worse. I have been depressed for almost a decade now, so I feel kind of hopeless.
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It's so tiring. I don't know what to do
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I was officially diagnosed a few weeks ago. I've been suffering for about a year and a half now. I honestly feel so worthless most days, especially since I have very few friends and they're all more popular than me so they're always busy and I'm always everyone's backup plan.
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Help, I have done it again
I have been here many times before
Hurt myself again today
And the worst part is there's no one else to blame
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Days like today feel almost completely unmanageable. Every part of my life feels completely out of my control and it's so overwhelming...
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by dannyboy
It's so tiring. I don't know what to do
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I know I moved cities and I miss bitching to my friend everyday. It's so hard when you don't have people who *get* you. Sometimes you just need that outlet to vent and then get back to real life.
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Originally posted by genetic fail
Help, I have done it again
I have been here many times before
Hurt myself again today
And the worst part is there's no one else to blame
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Love Sia
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Originally posted by Cherry
Days like today feel almost completely unmanageable. Every part of my life feels completely out of my control and it's so overwhelming...
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So true. I think we have to learn how to enjoy the journey because life really is mysterious. Hang on !
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sometimes i get so lonely and sad i fell like just ending would be better. there at lot happening but i dont wanna share it.
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Originally posted by Bey Admired
Sorry, I'm a little ignorant with regards to this.
I'd love to know more, how do these meds help you? What do they do? How do they make you feel?
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basically my meds don't like turn me into a robot or anything, they just do a lot to get rid of the parts of my emotions that are unhealthy. like, i'm still capable of feeling scared even with meds to reduce anxiety, but it keeps me from being nervous every minute of every day. the rest work in a pretty similar way; they basically just make me more normal. that's the thing - it's not a "i'm never sad" pill, it's a "i'm sad when a normal person would be sad" pill.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Oh I'm recovering from medium clinical depression. I'm currently on meds for it (seeing a psychiatrist) and I'm seeing a therapist. I'm much better than how I was a month ago.
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I just...can't
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I'm going to elaborate tonight but fdfkosdpsdopvnopsdn. ugh
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