The problem I have with it is that the black women who will chastise gay men for "appropriating" and stealing their "culture" without "the downsides" (which is so not true, as if a man acting like that will ever be accepted in a misogynistic society like ours

), will be the same same women who, when labelled as acting that way, will say "stop generalizing and stereotyping black women".
This is the definition of hypocritical.