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Discussion: Gay Interracial Relationships?
Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by I Am Music
Surely, you as a black male knows that not all black males are thuggy or queens.
Shouldn't it be the guys obvious notion that not all black males are like that just because they met one who was?.
I just don't except cop outs of being turned off from an entire trace just because you had a certain experience with one.
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However, you are assuming every white, asian, hispanic, Native american, other has meet a black guy in their life like actually met and talked to them.
So then they start surfing on grindr or POF or OKCUPID or Jack'd and she all this black guys ins jay dressed in Jays or pants saggin like they see on TV or some very feminine gay black man with a bio that is so ratchet that is cringe worthy, it can set us up as a failure which is why I"m always get told by my friends of other races when they talk race stuff that I don't count because I'm not black like them. Its like but I am black, I just don't identify and force myself to be in black culture.
Also dated a white guy who family was really racist and that was actually the downfall of our relationship was because he could never talk to his family about us and it made things difficult for him so its easier to stay dating their own race to prevent judgement from others.
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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My first real relationship was an interracial one.
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Member Since: 2/7/2014
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Originally posted by Guernica
I think that black men are seen as a fetish type thing in the gay community a lot of the time. Like, good to sleep with but not to be in an actual relationship with. IDK why it's that way though. There's strange boundaries when it comes to race and gay men, you see on grindr and stuff there's always these specifications about exactly which races they'd date and which they wouldn't, and you don't see that as often with straight people or lesbians. Gay men's standards are typically much higher than other peoples when it comes to dating
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Wow, this is one of the realest things I've ever read on here.
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Member Since: 8/6/2010
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I would date a Asian but I think they are too scared to be seen out in public or something.. you barely see gay asians at the club.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by BadBitches
Comparing hair color to race. WELP
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I'm not comparing skin color to hair color. I'm just saying they are preferences.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I also will add where you are located, if you are living in a big city like NYC, Chicago or LA, you will easily get yourself into an interracial relationship as they are a lot more open to that kind of scene...small towns and suburban areas make it less likely.
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Member Since: 8/29/2012
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Originally posted by Maiko
Honestly I haven't had someone tell me that, but this is kind of what I see. There are black guys here and to find them you kind of have to go to the more urban gay scene, which is really not for me.
Then when I see black guys out in the typical gay clubs and bars,, the kind that are more like me (not really into the urban thing, college educated, etc.) you sort of get an idea that they are chasing after the white guys. Which is cool if that's what you like but my problem is that this coincides with higher education, higher income, and etc., so it's like a white culture integration type of thing, more than something that you really like. Then at the same time I'm kind of cornered into only being able to date outside of my race too. Race is not a factor for me, but it really sucks that it is a factor for most.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by Maiko
Honestly I haven't had someone tell me that, but this is kind of what I see. There are black guys here and to find them you kind of have to go to the more urban gay scene, which is really not for me.
Then when I see black guys out in the typical gay clubs and bars,, the kind that are more like me (not really into the urban thing, college educated, etc.) you sort of get an idea that they are chasing after the white guys. Which is cool if that's what you like but my problem is that this coincides with higher education, higher income, and etc., so it's like a white culture integration type of thing, more than something that you really like. Then at the same time I'm kind of cornered into only being able to date outside of my race too. Race is not a factor for me, but it really sucks that it is a factor for most.
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Yeah, I totally had the same problem you do.
Last time I tried to date in my race he wouldn't meet up with me and we live in the same section of the city.
So I met this lovely mexican and been happy ever since. Shame you are forced to date outside your race because others are not willing to go on a date or personality type you're looking for.
It varies from place to place though,
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I'm so here for it.
Black bodybuilders >>>>>>>
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Originally posted by _bangerz
Wow, this is one of the realest things I've ever read on here.
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It is but it's funny because one post that BURNS in my brain came from Monte earlier this year.
He said, if he's dating a girl, she doesn't have to be good looking, he's dated some not so good looking girls.
But if he's dating a guy, he has to be HOT.
Which I'm just thinking, hm. Why is that, and so many gay & bisexual men share the same sentiment. It's like they are showing somewhat of an innate vain nature or something hyperphysical, based in sexuality without consideration for anything beyond sex.
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Originally posted by robboadam
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You're not in America so you are likely unable to understand the effects of institutionalized racism on black men here.
I've tried to explain the effects of it and I've failed time after time, but basically it plays a huge role in the decisions that black men make once they reach a certain level in their careers and society.
This is why you see things like the rich black basketball player, or rich black golfer, with the pretty, white, blonde wife.
Or even the rich black rapper, with a preference for only light skin women.
Things like that and much much more. It is quite damaging.
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Member Since: 12/1/2011
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great more "gay interracial" in my search history
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Member Since: 5/18/2012
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Originally posted by robboadam
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No it's true
Especially, this is usually a case with minority women who can't find a man with similar education, income and so forth and are stuck with white or asian men.
This is a much bigger issue than dating for sure. But that's a whole different topic.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
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Originally posted by robboadam
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I know it sounds off but he is making sense.
Higher education and "speaking well" is considered white and not the norm for a black male.
Some black males feed off of this and it manifests itself into a self loathing nature.
Some back gays chase after whites because of how they would be perceived which is above other blacks.
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Originally posted by Burqaswag
Black men is not my type sorry
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Same
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I'm down with the swirl, but I refuse to date(or have sex with) the white boys in my city, because they see me as a fetish, more than a human being and they're incredibly shallow
But I see alot of interracial relationships around here, and white males willing to date black men, but haven't or are in a relationship with a white one atm.
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Originally posted by jose168
great more "gay interracial" in my search history
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I feel you..
My mum is gonna put me in the belt me up tommorow, when she sees this
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Originally posted by Ryanicorn
I'm down with the swirl, but I refuse to date the white boys in my city, because they see me as a fetish, more than a human being
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And that's fine you're just protecting yourself.
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Member Since: 8/6/2010
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Originally posted by Maiko
You're not in America so you are likely unable to understand the effects of institutionalized racism on black men here.
I've tried to explain the effects of it and I've failed time after time, but basically it plays a huge role in the decisions that black men make once they reach a certain level in their careers and society.
This is why you see things like the rich black basketball player, or rich black golfer, with the pretty, white, blonde wife.
Or even the rich black rapper, with a preference for only light skin women.
Things like that and much much more. It is quite damaging.
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You are really preaching and serving nothing but truth. I love you. But all of this.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I am an Asian and i like white men.
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