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Originally posted by Bang Up
I don't get why people hide behind this "fat isn't healthy" defense in order to shame people and make them feel bad. Who cares if someone is fat? Are fat people not allowed to feel good about themselves? Must they be miserable on the inside because they're fat? It literally doesn't matter if someone is fat, you have no right to say anything to them about it. Skinny people who feel the need to say something to and about fat people are most likely more insecure than the fat people they're trying to tear down. No confident person who is secure with themselves feels the need to talk about others.
To make a random comparison, skinny people who hide behind health to shame fat people are like anti-gay people who hide behind religion to shame gay people. Like, someone being fat doesn't affect anyone other than the person who is fat.
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I agree with a lot of this. I work in a gym though and the amount of fat-shaming that goes on is crazy
Although I wouldn't know if I'd call it fat-shaming because the second there's a morbidly obese person in the gym, EVERY ONE goes out of their way to make them feel comfortable, encourages them for being in the gym, the PT's show them around and offer them free training, we try to be friends with them and make sure they're coming regularly. It's the fat people outside of the gym that all the personal trainers say the most horrible things about, because they can't wrap their heads around why they're not in the gym, working it off and enjoy health, fitness, being more active and having more energy. I can assure you, it's not a projection of insecurity. That's oversimplifying the issue, and all the PTs I work with are the most arrogant people you'll meet in your life.
I think people just need to recognise that obese people have an addiction to food. It's like any other addiction, but it's food. They're obese because they're depressed, so they eat. And they're depressed because they're obese. It's a vicious cycle and it's one that's really, really hard to break. Eating is great and food is delicious. We all know that. So when they feel ugly or judged for being so overweight, eating maccas for dinner or a whole block of chocolate will make them feel good while they're eating it because it tastes so good. It's like their one vice.
And what you said about "are fat people not allowed to feel good about themselves" - of course they are. But I think in most cases, deep down, they're not happy. If they are, that's great. But all those emotional breakdown scenes you see on 'The Biggest Loser' when they first confront their starting weights are embedded in true emotion. Fat people don't like being fat. But they have an addiction to food and they don't know about nutrition and what they should be fuelling their bodies with.