[pika]

My family thinks it's an abomination, a decision, and you'll go to hell if you "decide" to be gay. Christian households are the worst. But two of my sisters support me which makes it a little better.

[DAP]

Originally posted by BEE.HD

A hooker, really?

Right? I looked at him like he was on some crack, but he was serious.

[Igrt]

From what I seen they keep quiet about it.

[MrPeanut]

Originally posted by Christian

How'd they find out?

Long story, but basically my best friend/housemate ended up spilling the tea to my younger brother.

[Retro]

My mother is fully supportive of them, as is my father. I think they suspect I'm gay, too.

But they're divorced and both have different partners now. I'm sure my dad's girlfriend supports the LGBT community, but I don't have a single clue about my mom's boyfriend.

I'm not worried about that as much as I am about my grandfather on my mother's side. I highly doubt he'd accept it easily if I came out of the closet. My grandmother would likely be supportive, though she is a conservative regarding politics.

On my father's side, everyone would be 100% accepting considering my aunt is lesbian and has a girlfriend that she's lived with for ages, and my favorite cousin has a gay best friend.

[Jameson Teqkilla]

I was raised to think gay is just something some people are, it's never been a big deal. I came out to both parents when I was 14.

I think they probably already knew. I've never really cared about hiding it because of the aforementioned attitude.

[G4L]

My parents don't have a problem with homosexuality as long as it doesn't directly affect them. But if one of my siblings or me turned out to be gay my mum would probably have a mental breakdown.

And they think that gay marriage is completely wrong because it's not the way God intended marriage to be. No matter how many times I argue that marriage is not a purely religious thing, they will never change their point of view on it. I remember going to church with them once and there was a petition to stop the government from legalising same-sex marriage. They signed it.

[Entalan]

Ugh... this thread.

Coming out story

When I came out, my mom just got awkward for a second, then smiled and said "Okay" and hugged me, then jokingly added (after a long awkward pause) "Is there anything in particular you'd like us to do with this information?"

My dad, though... he just sat there the whole time with his head in his hands. I knew something was up when he didn't even look up at me or say anything when I left the room, and god was I right. All night, I could hear him thumping around the house, taking pills, going to the bathroom... for a few absurd moments, it crossed my mind that he might try to kill me or himself.

The next day, I got up at noon and my mom was smiling and making macaroni salad like nothing happened, but my dad was nowhere to be found. It was unusual for him to be sleeping in that late, but I decided not to question it. But once I got back in my room and on my computer, I felt someone standing in the doorway, and there he was, sure enough. I pretended to jump in surprise and laughed, but he just said we needed to talk. That's when he started crying and going on about how he'll never have grandkids, about how there's no way I could possibly know, about how he won't tell anyone if I don't, begging me not to tell my best friend and telling me stories about how he and my mom had a friend with a lesbian daughter who got run out of town. I guess he was telling me all this to scare me out of being gay, the last attempt of a desperate man. Then he told me he was molested as a kid, and that we're going to need therapy for his sake, then left the room.

But that wasn't even the worst part; the worst part was the way he looked at me.

So I guess you could say my mom is in full support, and always has been, but my dad has had a hard time with it, to put it lightly. But he's come through, too....

My grandparents, though. She just called gay people "miserable" after saying she couldn't watch one of her favorite shows because an actor was gay. But that's no surprise... and frankly, I don't care. Now that my parents know, the rest of my family can **** right off, including all of my racist and homophobic aunts and uncles and my younger cousins whom they've brainwashed with bigotry.

You know, they always say that family is all we really have, but I don't buy that for a second. If your family is willing to abandon you for something as shallow as sexual orientation, then they aren't your family, they're just relatives, accidents of birth. No, I believe we can pick our own family from those who really care about and love us, blood related or not.

And I won't be a part of a family who doesn't accept me.

[Sunshine.]

Originally posted by Entalan

You know, they always say that family is all we really have, but I don't buy that for a second. If your family is willing to abandon you for something as shallow as sexual orientation, then they aren't your family, they're just relatives, accidents of birth. No, I believe we can pick our own family from those who really care about and love us, blood related or not.

And I won't be a part of a family who doesn't accept me.

Wow! This last part is pretty powerful. I never thought about it like that.

Lemme copy and save this somewhere so I can reference it when future situations call for it.

[Icing]

Originally posted by Entalan

Ugh... this thread.

Coming out story

When I came out, my mom just got awkward for a second, then smiled and said "Okay" and hugged me, then jokingly added (after a long awkward pause) "Is there anything in particular you'd like us to do with this information?"

My dad, though... he just sat there the whole time with his head in his hands. I knew something was up when he didn't even look up at me or say anything when I left the room, and god was I right. All night, I could hear him thumping around the house, taking pills, going to the bathroom... for a few absurd moments, it crossed my mind that he might try to kill me or himself.

The next day, I got up at noon and my mom was smiling and making macaroni salad like nothing happened, but my dad was nowhere to be found. It was unusual for him to be sleeping in that late, but I decided not to question it. But once I got back in my room and on my computer, I felt someone standing in the doorway, and there he was, sure enough. I pretended to jump in surprise and laughed, but he just said we needed to talk. That's when he started crying and going on about how he'll never have grandkids, about how there's no way I could possibly know, about how he won't tell anyone if I don't, begging me not to tell my best friend and telling me stories about how he and my mom had a friend with a lesbian daughter who got run out of town. I guess he was telling me all this to scare me out of being gay, the last attempt of a desperate man. Then he told me he was molested as a kid, and that we're going to need therapy for his sake, then left the room.

But that wasn't even the worst part; the worst part was the way he looked at me.

So I guess you could say my mom is in full support, and always has been, but my dad has had a hard time with it, to put it lightly. But he's come through, too....

My grandparents, though. She just called gay people "miserable" after saying she couldn't watch one of her favorite shows because an actor was gay. But that's no surprise... and frankly, I don't care. Now that my parents know, the rest of my family can **** right off, including all of my racist and homophobic aunts and uncles and my younger cousins whom they've brainwashed with bigotry.

You know, they always say that family is all we really have, but I don't buy that for a second. If your family is willing to abandon you for something as shallow as sexual orientation, then they aren't your family, they're just relatives, accidents of birth. No, I believe we can pick our own family from those who really care about and love us, blood related or not.

And I won't be a part of a family who doesn't accept me.

Wow. What happened with your dad must have been traumatic. And I love what you said about family.

[Evangeline]

They don't claim to be against it or hateful towards gays,but I still think they're somewhat homophobic.They seem to think that in order to 'settle-down' and have a complete kind of life,people need to be married to a person of opposite sex.I don't get it lol.

[Evangeline]

Originally posted by G4L

My parents don't have a problem with homosexuality as long as it doesn't directly affect them. But if one of my siblings or me turned out to be gay my mum would probably have a mental breakdown.

And they think that gay marriage is completely wrong because it's not the way God intended marriage to be. No matter how many times I argue that marriage is not a purely religious thing, they will never change their point of view on it. I remember going to church with them once and there was a petition to stop the government from legalising same-sex marriage. They signed it.

Same story.Lol

[Crazy Lights]

Originally posted by pika

My family thinks it's an abomination, a decision, and you'll go to hell if you "decide" to be gay. Christian households are the worst. But two of my sisters support me which makes it a little better.

I have the same problem. Well, mainly with just my mother. The rest of my family is supportive.

[joelovesmusic]

I mean it's not like it's our topic at dinner time hahah

My parents are pretty quiet about it, as well as my sister, but I do know they support it.

[MusicLoverDude]

My Mom supports it. And my Dad probably does to, but well, he's 65. I don't think he'll live THAT much longer. I give him 10 - 15 years.

But my Mom most definitely.

[Sláy]

Originally posted by Do Ya Thang

Nope, my parents hate it like sin and have this disapproving look everytime something homo-related happens. My dad even banned watching Eastenders in our house because of the gay storyline.

Really looking forward to coming out to them

That was the British public I remember the madness. I was like...mum it actually happens. And she was like NO it doesn't...ah...so closed minded. West indians accept it, but are kinda hush hush and taboo about it. I hope it goes well.

[bugaboo64]

Originally posted by madonnas

I'm really shocked by how many people have homophobic parents here... This is really eye opening.

I know! My dad supports me, which is surprising, and its my mum that doesn't as much- which actually makes it worsens i live with my mother and her new husband! But we dont talk about it and i'm moving to the mainland UK in September!

[Zaney82]

My mum and dad are both bisexual , my brother is str8 , i have had it easy being gay!

[vonno]

My parents don't have an issue with it. My mum is pretty religious but believes a same sex couple are entitled to get married for legal reasons, just don't disrespect the bible/gods law & have it in a church.

[T.C]

There both rude, Like not in the religious way but they think its disgusting and wrong. Pretty sad to be honest because it makes my coming out process much harder