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Discussion: Most hurtful thing anybody's ever said to you in real life?
Member Since: 11/5/2009
Posts: 8,096
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Right now, all my "friends" are females.
When I was younger all my friends were guys, we would talk on the phone everyday, hang out, etc. When we moved to high school, it was still the same but we just had more groups of friends, we would see each other outside of school, talk on the phone but just a tiny bit less since we had new friends. One of my best friends (guy) moved and I haven't talked to him in a year. He called me unexpectedly and I was surprised. I think it's because he wanted to get our previous school's number or something. I asked him how he was, and if he still calls the other guys we use to hang to. He said "I don't talk to guys on the phone anymore, I'm not gay" and I was just a little... I can't explain the feeling. But just knowing that's how he thought made me consider if I should do the same. Unfortunately, I didn't have to since all my friends now are girls anyways lol.
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Member Since: 11/10/2009
Posts: 19,215
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Originally posted by ifyouseekLEM
For a while, my family and I lived in a semi-rough neighborhood.
One time I was hanging out with my homegurl outside and this dude from middle school walked up to me...I honestly don't remember all the specifics, but we got into a fist fight (in which I lost)...and he pinned up against a fence with his goonie backing him up (my homegurl was behind me watching from a distance ).
He called me a "****ing worthless ******"....and it wasn't the words that hurt me as much as it was the look in his eyes when he said it. It just resonated so deeply with me to the point where I nearly believed him.........why would he say that to me?....Do I really come off in such a way that someone would have the audacity to say that to my face?.....Surely if he said that, then others think that of me?
I honestly bust out into tears once I got home.
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I see Queen Leonsus has showed you the light.
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Member Since: 9/23/2009
Posts: 26,796
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Originally posted by satellites™
I ride the middle so I know exactly what you mean. Im too black for white people and im woo white for black people. I do use slang sometimes, but not a lot, especially not on public but my personality if you know what I mean is urban influenced so you know I grew up around an African American family versus one of some other ethnicity and sometimes that difference stands out when im around Caucasian people even though I talk properly and dress like a Casual Male XL ad. Now when it comes to black people im too proper, too well dressed, and too out there. I hate rap, I hate sports, and I hate girls so there goes my relationship with black men.
Black girls love me though.
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THIS!!!!!!
I'm too "white" for black people, I'm too "black" for white people. I'm too gay to hang out with guys, yet I'm too straight to be at sleepovers with the girls. I'm honestly stuck in the middle and it ****ing sucks.
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Member Since: 8/6/2008
Posts: 369
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Would have been grade7- 8
I dated this girl , we were both 11. She wanted to move very fast land im not talking holding hands!! And here I is more into pokemon cards and sports then girls. So I dumped her and for 6 mmonths her entire crew teased me every day of my life they were in nearly all my classes.. They were all girls , so it wasnt as if i could fight them , I was always a popular student but no one wanted to stand up to these girls because they were preety hood! Not going to lie! To this day i still have scars from what they did. Then it just stopped one day.
But wanna know what makes me smile now? Silly hoes all dropped out of school in grade 9 , pregnant , I see them every thursday waiting for the welfare office to open to stand in line for thier checks, after a hard week of contributing to society by fighting with thier baby daddies and getting caught with weed
I win!
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Member Since: 3/21/2010
Posts: 19,112
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the time my teacher picked on me because I'm gay. And the hateful comments I get all the time such as picking on me bc I walk like a girl or I talk like a girl.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 8/8/2006
Posts: 42,086
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Originally posted by Sahn
I remember being punched in the face couple times too.
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Oh I was punched once, I was little *** back then
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
Posts: 50,646
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Originally posted by Beyond Say
I've never been bullied or anything for being gay being that I live in San Francisco and everyone here is open mided or accepting of the way of life.
But when I was in 7th grade I was a fat little kid.(Just thinking about how fat I was makes me cringe.) And at this time I thought I liked girls, so I tried to talk to this one girl named Natalie in the lunch line and she said really loud, UGH GET THE **** OUT OF MY FACE YOU FAT FUNKY ****! Everyone started laughing and I walked out the cafeteria crying. That was 6 years ago and now i'm best friends with her.
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Is that why you judge other people so harshly, I kinda guessed you had internal issues from some of the things you say at times.
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Member Since: 10/26/2010
Posts: 12,889
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Quote:
Originally posted by ifyouseekLEM
For a while, my family and I lived in a semi-rough neighborhood.
One time I was hanging out with my homegurl outside and this dude from middle school walked up to me...I honestly don't remember all the specifics, but we got into a fist fight (in which I lost)...and he pinned up against a fence with his goonie backing him up (my homegurl was behind me watching from a distance ).
He called me a "****ing worthless ******"....and it wasn't the words that hurt me as much as it was the look in his eyes when he said it. It just resonated so deeply with me to the point where I nearly believed him.........why would he say that to me?....Do I really come off in such a way that someone would have the audacity to say that to my face?.....Surely if he said that, then others think that of me?
I honestly bust out into tears once I got home.
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omg boo
I wouldve beat them guys up for you.
and yo punkass friend
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Member Since: 7/13/2010
Posts: 11,566
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Originally posted by Đeucés
OMG! That's horrible. Your friend spreading the lies and that person who sent you the message both need to be cursed out.
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Its alright. They were right, I am a homo with a great boyfriend who has a big dick and might be taking my virginity next Friday
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Member Since: 10/31/2010
Posts: 1,496
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"You better not be gay"
.. SO, I'm still not 'out' the closet with my family. (LIke many of you ) (The only one that 'knows' is my sister but I came out to her, when she was baking french fries , but I came out as bi ) Its very hard to, especially when your family is based on Christian values/beliefs and believes in having 7+ children . But one time my mom picked me up at school and noticed my friend, who's gay, and asked me why I liked hanging out with those specific people (She's seen me hang out more than once) and blah, blah, blah. Basically the whole ride back home was about how i shouldn't let those 'types' of people influence the way i am and what not. And while she wasn't being completely discriminatory, I know she would be heartbroken, if I told her who i really am. But "You better not be gay" will haunt me till the day i come out, and what's more upsetting is, idk what that means she'll do if I told her .
... And I'll go get a therapist..
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Member Since: 11/21/2010
Posts: 15,739
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I don't give a sh*t when strangers or people I don't really know call me names!!!
BUT I do care when people I know and loved say that 'they're disappointed or something along those lines' it hurts so bad..... :cry:
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Member Since: 5/28/2010
Posts: 29,225
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Originally posted by BTrisc0392
Ch...
Stories like these make me realize that everything happens for a reason. I'd be willing to bet that everything in this thread is stronger now than before their scarring event occurred.
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Definitely. Experiences like this is what make us stronger. Had it not been for that incident. I would have been bullied through Middle school and my freshman year of high school. These heffahs no who not to **** with.
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Member Since: 4/17/2011
Posts: 9,162
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Quote:
Originally posted by satellites™
I ride the middle so I know exactly what you mean. Im too black for white people and im woo white for black people. I do use slang sometimes, but not a lot, especially not on public but my personality if you know what I mean is urban influenced so you know I grew up around an African American family versus one of some other ethnicity and sometimes that difference stands out when im around Caucasian people even though I talk properly and dress like a Casual Male XL ad. Now when it comes to black people im too proper, too well dressed, and too out there. I hate rap, I hate sports, and I hate girls so there goes my relationship with black men.
Black girls love me though.
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THIS!
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
Posts: 50,646
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Quote:
Originally posted by Đeucés
Has these experiences made you stronger?
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Of course, everything makes me harder, better, faster, and stronger.
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Originally posted by Sahn
I remember being punched in the face couple times too.
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Oh hell no, I wish a bitch would.
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ATRL Contributor
Member Since: 4/20/2011
Posts: 4,875
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OMG... This thread is so sad.
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Member Since: 10/9/2008
Posts: 9,835
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Originally posted by Wildhope
that my sexual abuse was my fault and I caused it
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How miserable some people can be?
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Member Since: 9/23/2009
Posts: 26,796
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Originally posted by Chris191
May I just say, I am here if anyone ever needs it. My heart goes out to all of you who have felt such horrible pain, caused by anything or anyone that's done it to you. Such disgusting cruelty people have to go through
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We all go through hard things, but in the end...I wouldn't change it for the world. Our enemies make us stronger. Their words hurt, but I hope for many of us that we can change those words into strength. No pain, no gain.
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Member Since: 11/7/2010
Posts: 5,164
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Originally posted by KoreanDream
Not to tag onto your kindness, but I am the same. ATRL is fun and everything but I'm always here to support anyone who needs help.
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It's okay It's nice to know there are other people like this on ATRL
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Member Since: 3/30/2009
Posts: 9,982
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Originally posted by ManDown
I think that I am one of the few gay people who remain unbothered by "******". I get called it DAILY, by family, strangers, neighbors, etc.
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Strangers are just like that, they don't know you. But neighbors? And family? WTF? **** them.
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Member Since: 6/7/2011
Posts: 22,128
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Not to speak for my brother, but he used to get picked on a LOT for being effeminate. He's not gay just so everyone knows, but he's always liked bright colors, dressing like this:
and he has a lot of friends that are girls, so people used to call him gay.
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