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Discussion: POC, have you ever wished you were white?
Member Since: 3/25/2012
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Yes all through my childhood years tbh. Even today I sometimes wish I was white just because I know certain things would be so much easier, such as social interactions, police interactions, career opportunities, etc. But at the end of the day, I learned that just because white people are the preferred race, it doesn't make them any more special than you and I, and that I should take pride in my heritage.
I actually like being black most of the time. There are some perks. For example, I never have to worry about turning into a lobster at the beach, I instinctively know how to clap on the correct beats, I can enjoy a variety of spices on my foods, I age like fine wine, it's socially acceptable for me to obsessively enjoy two of the greatest foods on this planet: fried chicken and watermelon, and I get to say the n-word as much as I want in public without being jumped or catching hands. What more could a black want? 
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Originally posted by Mettaton
It's sometimes depressing that my first thought usually is "I hope that they are into black guys".
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And the answer is usually "no". These days, I tend to avoid any romantic/sexual endeavors with white gays because of this fact alone (unless they approach me first). I just can't take the anticipation and the inevitable rejection anymore. It's too stressful and really hits my too self-esteem hard. Especially not when there are way more smoking hot colored men with smooth brown skin and big peens to choose from. 
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by cloudinthesky
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And the answer is usually "no". These days, I tend to avoid any romantic/sexual endeavors with white gays because of this fact alone (unless they approach me first). I just can't take the anticipation and the inevitable rejection anymore. It's too stressful and really hits my too self-esteem hard. Especially not when there are way more smoking hot colored men with smooth brown skin and big peens to choose from.
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I am going for white guys though. 
It's when ever I talk to someone out of my race, which is not often. But it still makes me feel slightly self conscious
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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There were a few times yes. I think it mainly spawned from the fact that I grew up in a 99% white community so it was hard to see people like myself and television + movies as well. But after growing up I realize that I ****ing love being Asian. Being white would be so boring, too. 
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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I'm in the majority in my place as an Asian, so no.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 40,566
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I was extremely young which isn't surprising. I was playing with white Barbies, everything on TV was white etc. Now, I'm so so proud to be black. I wouldn't change it for the world
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Hell no. I love being black. The culture and the history is so inspiring. I actually feel bad for white people nowadays. Minorities are taking over and are holding no punches as we do so. 
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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Not when I see the food my mom makes Mexican food>>>>>>>>>>>>
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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People used to pick on me for my asian features so my entire adolescent era was me trying to dissociate myself from anything asian but after a certain point (i'm not exactly sure when, I think around the time Pretty Hurts came out?? that song ****ed me up 100%) I realised that I shouldn't have to change myself for other people. It's at the point where I find it a bit jarring when other people tell me what to do with my image which is probably a bit of an overcompensation but w/e I'm getting there.
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Member Since: 4/27/2011
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Originally posted by Mettaton
It's sometimes depressing that my first thought usually is "I hope that they are into black guys".
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This is why I normally swipe left when white guys pop up on my Tinder. Who has time for disguised racism and prejudice.
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Member Since: 4/23/2007
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No, because i certainly look caucasian in some ways (brown eyes, freckless, white skin) the only thing i hate is my nose and my jaw.
I'm proud to be south east asian who looks like caucasian (My grand grand mother was from The Netherlands tho  )
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Member Since: 3/16/2012
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No thank you.
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Member Since: 8/19/2011
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the privilege. being actually white? no. I like my chances of looking younger than I am up until my 60s. Not really sure I want to smell like mothballs or like one of those old computers from the 90s. I like not looking awkward doing the simplest of things and able to have rhythm naturally/able to dance.
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Member Since: 1/31/2012
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Yeah actually. It's kind of a sad story so I might as well share it.
So among my family, I'm kinda dark skinned compared to all my cousins. I wouldn't say I'm dark, just medium complexion among a family of lighter skinned people (check my insta). As a child (maybe 11), my family started calling me "black" or "dark". And it initially started out as a joke within my sisters, but it grew more and more. Eventually my cousins caught wind of it and started calling me black and dark. Sometimes saying I wasn't even part of the family cause I'm so black. And then whenever my sister was mad at me, she would call me the N word or call me black and things. It started to become an insult. I hated my skin color and I would wish I was white all the time so I never had to deal with that. I started using skin lightening creams at the age of 12/13 because I kept getting bullied by my family. When I didn't think things couldn't get worst, my cousin started telling people at my middle school to call me "Blackie Chan", "Darkness" or "The Dark Knight", people actually did. Thankfully, it only lasted like... a year or two before kids stopped ridiculing me. Even then, it was like 4-5 people who would. I remember one time my cousin told a black kid to start calling me that and he started laughing and calling me the same names. I used to cry all the damn time until one day I just realized... No one else cared. Besides those 4-5 kids at school, everyone else was telling me "WTF is wrong with your cousin, you're not dark at all." or "Who tf cares?". I stopped using the cream. But still, my family would still call me the names, but I just started roasting them until the jokes kinda subsided around 16/17.
So around that age, I really really wanted to be white. Then when I started to become sexually active, being constantly rejected after telling people I was Pakistani made me want to be white as well. Not to the point of whitening my skin, but still in theory. It made me think everything would be so much easier. Cause a friend of mine would have so much success on all those dating apps and he was just a skinny white boy. Meanwhile, I was a skinny brown kid and I'd hardly get people interested in me.
BUT, now I'm 21 and I'm more confident in my skin color as ever. I don't care about any of that stuff anymore and I'm happy I'm Pakistani & brown. Going to college REALLY helped. If anyone here is going through the same thing, I can tell you from experience that it doesn't matter what complexion you are & that there will always be someone who would give their all to be with you 
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Member Since: 2/2/2012
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Only when I was younger. I grew in the suburbs of southern califorina so, I was also surrounded by white kids and like the OP didn't feel like i fit in, but thats all changed in the last few years as I've learned to love myself and my race.
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Member Since: 8/24/2008
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Originally posted by Kool_Aid_King
Yeah actually. It's kind of a sad story so I might as well share it.
So among my family, I'm kinda dark skinned compared to all my cousins. I wouldn't say I'm dark, just medium complexion among a family of lighter skinned people (check my insta). As a child (maybe 11), my family started calling me "black" or "dark". And it initially started out as a joke within my sisters, but it grew more and more. Eventually my cousins caught wind of it and started calling me black and dark. Sometimes saying I wasn't even part of the family cause I'm so black. And then whenever my sister was mad at me, she would call me the N word or call me black and things. It started to become an insult. I hated my skin color and I would wish I was white all the time so I never had to deal with that. I started using skin lightening creams at the age of 12/13 because I kept getting bullied by my family. When I didn't think things couldn't get worst, my cousin started telling people at my middle school to call me "Blackie Chan", "Darkness" or "The Dark Knight", people actually did. Thankfully, it only lasted like... a year or two before kids stopped ridiculing me. Even then, it was like 4-5 people who would. I remember one time my cousin told a black kid to start calling me that and he started laughing and calling me the same names. I used to cry all the damn time until one day I just realized... No one else cared. Besides those 4-5 kids at school, everyone else was telling me "WTF is wrong with your cousin, you're not dark at all." or "Who tf cares?". I stopped using the cream. But still, my family would still call me the names, but I just started roasting them until the jokes kinda subsided around 16/17.
So around that age, I really really wanted to be white. Then when I started to become sexually active, being constantly rejected after telling people I was Pakistani made me want to be white as well. Not to the point of whitening my skin, but still in theory. It made me think everything would be so much easier. Cause a friend of mine would have so much success on all those dating apps and he was just a skinny white boy. Meanwhile, I was a skinny brown kid and I'd hardly get people interested in me.
BUT, now I'm 21 and I'm more confident in my skin color as ever. I don't care about any of that stuff anymore and I'm happy I'm Pakistani & brown. Going to college REALLY helped. If anyone here is going through the same thing, I can tell you from experience that it doesn't matter what complexion you are & that there will always be someone who would give their all to be with you |
I'm not coming at you but it's amazing to me how it always goes back to anti-blackness even when blacks aren't even involved. They insulted you by likening you to blackness like that's what gets me somehow blackness is always the negative factor.
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Member Since: 4/27/2011
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Originally posted by Kool_Aid_King
Yeah actually. It's kind of a sad story so I might as well share it.
So among my family, I'm kinda dark skinned compared to all my cousins. I wouldn't say I'm dark, just medium complexion among a family of lighter skinned people (check my insta). As a child (maybe 11), my family started calling me "black" or "dark". And it initially started out as a joke within my sisters, but it grew more and more. Eventually my cousins caught wind of it and started calling me black and dark. Sometimes saying I wasn't even part of the family cause I'm so black. And then whenever my sister was mad at me, she would call me the N word or call me black and things. It started to become an insult. I hated my skin color and I would wish I was white all the time so I never had to deal with that. I started using skin lightening creams at the age of 12/13 because I kept getting bullied by my family. When I didn't think things couldn't get worst, my cousin started telling people at my middle school to call me "Blackie Chan", "Darkness" or "The Dark Knight", people actually did. Thankfully, it only lasted like... a year or two before kids stopped ridiculing me. Even then, it was like 4-5 people who would. I remember one time my cousin told a black kid to start calling me that and he started laughing and calling me the same names. I used to cry all the damn time until one day I just realized... No one else cared. Besides those 4-5 kids at school, everyone else was telling me "WTF is wrong with your cousin, you're not dark at all." or "Who tf cares?". I stopped using the cream. But still, my family would still call me the names, but I just started roasting them until the jokes kinda subsided around 16/17.
So around that age, I really really wanted to be white. Then when I started to become sexually active, being constantly rejected after telling people I was Pakistani made me want to be white as well. Not to the point of whitening my skin, but still in theory. It made me think everything would be so much easier. Cause a friend of mine would have so much success on all those dating apps and he was just a skinny white boy. Meanwhile, I was a skinny brown kid and I'd hardly get people interested in me.
BUT, now I'm 21 and I'm more confident in my skin color as ever. I don't care about any of that stuff anymore and I'm happy I'm Pakistani & brown. Going to college REALLY helped. If anyone here is going through the same thing, I can tell you from experience that it doesn't matter what complexion you are & that there will always be someone who would give their all to be with you |
Sounds like your cousin and sister needed/ need a good ass whooping tbh 
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Member Since: 1/31/2012
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Originally posted by Callisto.
I'm not coming at you but it's amazing to me how it always goes back to anti-blackness even when blacks aren't even involved. They insulted you by likening you to blackness like that's what gets me somehow blackness is always the negative factor.
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Right? It was so bad. Luckily I don't have that mentality now, but that's how this society is 
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Member Since: 5/12/2012
Posts: 7,989
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My mom told me this story I totally forgot about from when I was a kid. I'm mixed (black/white), and my mother is white and my father is black. But, my parents have been divorced for as long as I can remember and I always lived with my mom primarily. My mom told me a story about how one time I asked her why I didn't look like her and I just didn't understand it and later started sobbing because I wanted to look like my mom.
So, obviously, I strongly wanted to be white at one point in my life, but it was because of an entirely innocent reason.
Later, when I was in 5th or 6th grade and was heavily struggling to find friends in a conservative, Christian, private school, I thought it may have been because of the color of my skin and I wished I wasn't different in that way. I struggled a lot because of that. But, I grew out of that.
Now, sometimes I do wish it because I hate dealing with afro-textured hair, but I'm completely fine with it in every other regard. I love not having to use sun screen, no sun burns, etc.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Admittedly a few times but not really now.
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