The title is misleading clickbait. She knew he was gay for a while.
I'm not sure where people are getting "homophobic" from. If you read the whole story, she knew he was gay and even told her family, but she still wanted to make the marriage to work (which is stupid, but hardly homophobic). He just wanted to use the marriage as a cover up to show people.
Also, I'm not sure why people are offering supposedly easy solutions like divorce or annulment. People in India are pointing out that she was an educated woman and should have divorced him, which is stupid. What does her medical degree have to do with her life? She obviously had a simple life with her parents where she went to school, got a good job, got married and wanted children, but this completely derailed it. What would she do after the divorce? She'd probably go to work and live at home with her parents and then die. There aren't a lot of options in India post-divorce unless you're some rich socialite. There are no big social circles and casual dating.
I definitely feel sorry for her. She was dragged into his mess and didn't have the tools to deal with it. Gay men who pursue relationships with women always go for inexperienced types who have no idea what they're doing and it's so easy for them in Asia because everyone is inexperienced.
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Originally posted by GreasyBruce
This is going to sound harsh, but suicide was her choice.
She chose to have zero empathy over the fact that we live in a homophobic world and many men are so pressured by society to go into a marriage with a woman. It's not someone setting out to ruin her life. Her lack of perspective drove her down the wrong path. Tragic all around, but her death is on her hands only.
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You say that as if she should be empathic and understanding in a situation in this. I'm pretty sure it's difficult to have perspective she's been used as a cover up for his sexuality. Then there's other issues like the years of her life wasted and what she'll do after. She has few options.
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Originally posted by Mr. Loco
What a dumb couple...
So, she basically killed himself because he didn't have sex with her?
And he is a doctor, I mean, he could've used Viagra and think in a man while doing it or something like that. I would make that effort for someone I really care about.
Besides, it's not like it's that simple to come out as gay and that, there are countries where you get killed for that, I mean  |
How is that relevant to this situation? He wouldn't be killed for being gay in India. He could have just refused to get married even with his mother's constant nagging about it.
And no, she didn't kill herself because he didn't have sex with her. In the full letter, she said she was okay that he couldn't perform sexually, but she wanted to make the marriage work and he just wanted to use her a prop to cover it up.
