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Originally posted by DvnR
Okay, I'm not really sure why people are bashing the OP. His concerns are incredibly legitimate. I think it's the sister's choice in the end, but it's really unfair to expect him not to worry when his sister wants to possibly get rid of the baby. You can't blame him for that. In his shoes, I'd do the same thing and most of you would too.
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He's concerned, but stating he won't support her is extremely harsh. His sister will have to face dire financial consequences after having the baby yet the OP has neglected to mention how this will be handled.
And I have been there with a friend, and I said it was her choice but ultimately indicated she had no financial means to raise the child, she was still in university, and the father was a deadbeat alcoholic. I drove her to the abortion clinic the next day.
Yes, it's sad when an abortion happens. No one is saying otherwise. But we have to look at it realistically and see if the child would have a good life free from neglect and abuse.
I did however suggest having the baby and putting it up for adoption to my friend and she said it would be too difficult for her to do.
OP, you have to present these options to her and not force her to do what you want. You are not carrying the child and I'm assuming since you're posting on this forum for help regarding an extreme moral dilemma, you aren't older than your sister. You will NOT be her financial aid (again, assumption) and unless you are going to primarily raise the child and financially support it, you have no right to act so unsupportive. Anything less and you'll be doing something immoral yourself -- forcing someone to have a child.